It is weird and I think too sudden cause I just came out of a bad relationship of someone unfaithful and I have a baby on the way in Oct. I am not comfortable being really touched, is this normal? even though I would love affection but I don't feel right. Maybe cause I got used to having no affection. I think I need to give myself time and if he really cares he would wait right?
2006-09-03 13:31:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys I really need your input I want to know how you feel about a girl like this.
2006-09-03 13:39:10 · update #1
I have 4-5wks left and he said he wasn't about sex.
2006-09-03 13:46:37 · update #2
I don't think it is impossible to love someone that fast, but them saying it doesn't make it so. If he loves you he needs to show you, not tell you and insist he does. If he really loves you he will give you time to discover your own feelings for him. Even if he really does love you, you should take all the time you need to feel comfortable with things. There are good guys out there, but also many more who will say anything to get you in bed. Good luck!
2006-09-03 13:38:40 · answer #1 · answered by killercrimson 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot to think about right now: the bad relationship, the pregnancy, the speculation and anxiety about the baby, to name just two.
When an intimate relationship is finished (by death, break-up or whatever) it takes a person THREE YEARS to recover completely and regain his/her equilibrium. Even from that perspective it's a bad idea to become involved with someone right now.
Soon you will have a child which will require all your attention. You can't really begin a new relationship at that time - either your new fellow or the baby will suffer neglect, and you will feel guilt, regardless.
Anyone who knows someone for a week cannot honestly say that he "loves" a person. Love takes time, trust, honesty and shared experience.
So, if I were you I would tell this person:
"You are a nice guy, but I cannot get into another relationship right now. But if you would like to remain friends with me, we can be friends and see where - if - it will take us."
If he truly is interested he will stick around. If he splits, you'll know it was meaningless.
As for the dislike of being touched: You are NORMAL. You are currently on overload with everything happening and your body is saying STOP, NO MORE, EVERYBODY LEAVE ME ALONE! So give yourself lots of pampering, stay calm, think good and happy thoughts. And things will work out, as they usually do, one way or the other.
2006-09-03 13:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by kerangoumar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your absolutely right, its not easy to just sit back , and go Thur the pain from a previous break up , all this new guy is doing is taking your attention away from it all, which is great but lets be honest , and its not from not having any affection , it just when we split up we get down in the dumps and some new person take that misery away.
depending on how healthy your self esteem is , i would back away from this guy and slow the pace down
this guy is probably very needy , or he could be a controll freak
we tend to ignore the warning signs , because we don't want to be alone
2006-09-03 13:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by tommytwotone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may love that you are a beautiful pregnant woman glowing with impending birth and yes you re thinking for the future of 2 people. This guy loves the moments you share. And
I also did not want to be touched during pregnancy and you are too emotional for even tripping off a relationship if you and baby's bio donor are not able to work things out.
Focus on you and baby, let lover-boy know this and ask him to keep it @ friends and enjoy it or keep on keepin on if he pressures you more.
2006-09-03 13:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should wait. I know it sounds really weird but some guys have fetishes for pregnant women and just want to have sex. I would wait until after the baby is born to see if comes around and helps you out, etc. It could be a good thing.
2006-09-03 13:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by moonbaby279 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are pregnant from your ex? Just take care of your baby -let that be your priority! This new guy that says he loves you and has only known you for a week is crazy! Knowing that you are pregnant and that you just came out of a bad relationship - that just sounds to me like he wants to f**k around with your emotions/head. Like I said - do you, have the baby, take care of he/she the best you can- and then later on find a guy that is true to you, respects you, and doesn't play games. Good luck!
2006-09-03 13:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly weird for a guy to claim he loves you after 1 week. Furthermore when you are already in advance stage of pregnancy with an unfaithful guy. He sounds more like you want to have sex with you knowing that he is 'safe' with his sperms inside you.
Ya, make him wait until you deliver and sees how he treats you and your kiddy. If he really loves you, I am sure he will waits for you and take care of both of you.
2006-09-03 13:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact he already said he loves you raises a red flag!!! He knows your pregnant,safe to have sex with, you just got out of a bad relationship,could be vulnerable. Your right you need time and space and he needs to except that or go on his way.
2006-09-03 13:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Linda R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a unique situation. on one hand you have a man who is spoiling you and obvioulsy wants to be with you and clearly understands that you have a baby on the way. bad advice will be let him continue and leave him after you are done with him, if he doesn't leave you first for not putting out. or explain to him your feelings and that you want to be faithful to yourself. it is obvious that you truly havent had enough time to recover from the last relationship and need some space to yourself but you do need to focus on the future of the baby-to-be.
2006-09-03 13:39:02 · answer #10 · answered by David W_ Master-Op 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋