i'm in a long distance relationship. i'm at sdsu and he is in live oak. he calls me frequent to check up on me and to see what i am doing. i told him that we should talk less (three times a day) so he can give me a chance to miss him.....so by the time we do talk at night we actually have something to talk about??????? does that make sense? i love him and i feel that a little space is necessary...advice plz.
2006-09-03 13:23:31 · 10 answers · asked by kristina a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no wrong in it.
2006-09-03 13:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SDSU, baby the AZTECS! I graduated in 95. anyways - I know how you feel - you do need space - even if you didn't talk every day it wouldn't be the end of the world - distance makes the heart grow fonder but not if you're on the phone 6 times a day - don't miss out on the college experience, SDSU is a fun place to be
2006-09-03 13:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats bad. It sounds like he is more attached then you are and thats probally just how you are. You like your space and all that good stuff. He is probally the type that could stand to talk to you all day. You need to tell him because its making you unhappy and just explain that you are the kind of person that needs space and that you can talk every night. Although don't say stuff like "so he can give me a chance to miss him" because you can easily get his feelings hurt.
2006-09-03 13:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - even three times a day would be too much for me! It's one thing if he's just calling to tell you something (when I was in college, my roommate and her boyfriend called each other like 10 times a day, but their convos lasted like 2 minutes each), but if he wants to have a long, drawn out conversation each time he calls you, that's a little much.
2006-09-03 13:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by kimilou2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you 2 are not a great journey. some human beings are talkers, yet others are severe and chat whilst they are not rather asserting something as though they have a terror of silence. until you prefer to proceed on with somebody who consistently asks you to end speaking (and curiously you do not) and he's prepared to maintain seeing you even with your working mouth, then evaluate going your separate strategies. or maybe you may desire to be certain a therapist and discover out why being quiet is so confusing for you.
2016-11-24 20:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my book, 3 times a day is too much. I don't talk to anyone unless I have something to talk about. So, you're being more than reasonable in my opinion.
2006-09-03 13:26:09 · answer #6 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't communicate now, it won't improve.
"Checking up" = lack of trust. If he wants to be with
you, he has to handle the jealousy, his responsiblity,
not yours, although in the real world you will have
to reassure him, but the 3x a day has to go.
2006-09-03 13:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by helixburger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend what you have told us. That you need a bit of space...nothing wrong with that.
2006-09-03 13:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no but if your going to tell him don't sound mean about it or he'll get the impression that your mad.
2006-09-03 13:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U know your needs better than I know your needs...
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2006-09-03 13:26:49 · answer #10 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋