I lost my virginity to this guy and he's 2 years older....we've been on and off for more than two years...he's never done anything with anyone except me since he lost his virginity to me also...but we keep fighting...and breaking up and THAN making up...In the 2nd year of us going on and off...we started going out on his birthday..than we broke up during spring break for 2 days.he messed with a girl in that period of time.than we went back out.2 months later I talked to this girl he messed with.I started crying.when I found out I called him and was crying hysterically...and he was like "im so sorry! You are so much better than her!" and I eventually gave in to him and let him off easily...I mean he is my first love...but now that I have he thinks he can do whatever he wants...he's very controlling...I have to ask for permission to go places..and my "yes" and "no" do not matter to him...Now I come off easy to him...and now he doesnt try to see me as much.We dont even go out anymore...
2006-09-03 13:06:54 · 13 answers · asked by Vanessa B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. If he's trying to manipulate you now, it will only get worse. Do you want a lifetime of that?
Be strong!
2006-09-03 13:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by clueless 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its time for you to move on to a new relationship. Sometimes we are afraid of letting go and moving on. Once I was in a relationship that I knew that was bad for me. The guy was cheating on me, lying to me about it, and then all of my friends knew how terrible he was treating me. Well time went by and we were forced to break up because he went to the military and ended up marrying the girl he said he wasn't cheating on me with. To make a long story short when we split up yeah I was hurt and really sad. But you know what my friends told me I looked so much better and healthier. My stress level wasn't as high and I was able to concentrate on school. Trust me when I say you just need to let it go. Stop putting yourself through all of this nonsense.
2006-09-03 13:18:02 · answer #2 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I spend a lot on a woman, it is because I love that person, and I don't expect anything in return. I appreciate her company, and I am proud that she chose me for her boyfriend. Usually just setting close to her, holding hands, and maybe a sweet kiss, is plenty. She doesn't have to give me anything in return.
2016-03-26 21:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He fully understands you and your weaknesses. Your weaknesses been that you given your virginity to him and he knows it means so much to you. Your sincerity and faithfulness towards him are too strong. As a result he is able to take advantage and manipulate you. True love is never controlling. It is filled with trusts and give-and-take. You don't want to be imprisoned by him .. do you. Can you survive that bondage and said you are happy. Free yourself from this selfish guy for you own good before you get badly hurt.
2006-09-03 13:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he doesnt respect you at all why would you want someone like that i realize your first love is always the hardest to end it with but trust me there someone out there that will treat you like a princess and show you love and respect so i say get rid of him and find someone worth keeping on the other hand if you still want him just ignore him and play hard to get that will drive him nuts your friend tazz
2006-09-03 13:15:25 · answer #5 · answered by tazzlane120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Plenty of other men out there...it will be hard at first since he is the one you're use to, but trust me, you will be better off without him.
2006-09-03 13:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by Like Bugs Bunny on the moon... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him!!! Where does he get off 'controlling' you, while he does as he pleases??? He does not own you, so you do not need his permission for anything.
Why would you want to be with someone who makes you unhappy???
2006-09-03 13:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do to him, what he did to you,then watch how he comes around!! show him how you can play the same game, no matter how you feel inside about him, i bet you will have him wrapped around your finger in a few days. this is coming from experience.try it!!
2006-09-03 13:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by vernonbsr2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its over. relationships are supposed to last 6 months at that age. you both feel trapped, just dont make up afterwards.
2006-09-03 13:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. No man is wealth that there are other fish in the sea.
2006-09-03 13:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tiffany W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋