I've been with my bf for over a yr...at the beginning I wasn't so jealous I was actually more confident with myself because he always complimented me on how beautiful I am. He still does. The thing is I feel like a have a mental problem where I can't control my jealousy. I love this man so much...I really don't want to lose him! He loves me too...we want to marry each other and have a family in our future! Thing is we've been fighting everyday and it's mostly because of my jealousy and insecurities. A big part of why I'm so insecure is because I've been cheated on, and one of my bf's was bipolar and played with my heart a lot of times, also I wasn't the hottest chick in grade school. I get jealous over naked or slutty girls on tv, or his friend's on myspace. I wanna ***** at one right now, but im trying not to...it's just a pic of her n him. He tells me I'm pushing him away and if i don't stop he'll leave me...I'm so scared!!! He's already threatened me so many times...he even cried.
2006-09-03 12:59:11 · 8 answers · asked by helloweenqueen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't have a mental problem. Jealously is so natural, but you can't let it control you.. From what you've said about your boyfriend, he seems to be a good man. I can understand why feelings of insecurity may come, being that you were hurt in the past, but you can't put that on him. He's not the one that cheated on you, so you shouldn't hold that burden against him. You say that you wasn't the hottest chick in grade school, but that shouldn't even matter anymore. He chose you, and you say he loves you, and wants to marry you in the future. If you don't wanna lose him, stop being so jealous, and trust him. Because if you don't, your gonna end up alone, and that can really hurt, losing someone special.
2006-09-03 13:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by henryskia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will make him go crazy, try to stop it. Many girls are jealous and there is nothing to do expect that taking the thing more easy, always keep in mind that everything happens for a reason and that if something is supposed to happen it will no matter all the preaches you do. On the other hand if you really are meant to be together there's noting Wrong in him speaking to other girls or what you said.
I used to think the way you do and i too have been cheated upon but now i think i have found someone great and as i know all the feelings he has toward me and i know that he is not a liar or immature (this is v. important) i dint care for all the girls he talks to and all the hot stuff he sees because i know that all he wants is me (it seems to be the same case with you so why bother). Moreover seeing this he shows me more and more his feelings.
Don't close him up, let him chose his road and once he chooses it let him be the boss. You can be the boss for the road you chose. so take it more relax baby, it will help a lot, if something has to happen you won't stop it so let's live the present huh ?!
2006-09-03 13:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship no matter what kind or with whom needs trust in it or everything goes hay wire. Jealousy is a real problem for the one who has it and the other person involved. My Mother was a very jealous person and it caused a dysfunctional family because of it. I strongly suggest you go to counseling and work on this problem. It will always be a problem with your boyfriend or with out him. If you want to save this relationship you really need to do something now and prove to him you are willing to work on this and he can go with you if you both choose to, Good Luck!!!
2006-09-03 13:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 06:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by kampfer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you have been with your b/f for over a year then you should KNOW weather he would cheat on you or not, you would be able to tell by his actions, is he over friendly with other women, does he have a load of female friends, does he take note of what your saying to him or does he just dismiss it, when your jealous does he try to help you & tell you theres nothing to be jealous of or does he seem to like you feeling jealous, these are questions you have to ask your self, & be sure he is not doing things to make you jealous, i have got you a good site to help you, good luck,
2006-09-03 13:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust that he loves you and only you and he's not gonna do anything to hurt you jealousy can drive him away
2006-09-03 13:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by tpchick22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yr not trusting him. trust is the basis of a good relationship. you will eventually break yr relationship because of it. read more on dating and relationships that will help you on this site
2006-09-03 13:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok.settle down.stop and think about it,if he isn`t with you,it`s because you are a flake!
2006-09-03 13:04:00 · answer #8 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋