My fiance and I have been together for 10 years. We both are college grads and we work hard but we need assistance with our wedding. we'll take any suggestions old things to help us out. Please help us!!!!
2006-09-03 12:49:20 · 12 answers · asked by dathickesteva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I too was on a tight budget--more my parents didn't really want to help in the money way so we did this...(the sisters were my sister in laws)
1- oldest sister's gift was the reception...she make the cake and everything..find someone who might let that be their gift to you, or a group of friends..there's no real need to have food at the reception, to me it's kinda a waste of money, people are coming to watch you get married not have a meal, we have cake, mints, nuts and the punch.
2- the middle sister her neighbor was a hair stylist she did my hair and nails..fix your own hair or get a friend to do it, you'll save money if you do it yourself and not go to the salon.
3- the youngest sister- she let me borrow her dress, it wasn't fancy by any means, but it saved me the money of having to go buy a dress, another "cheap" way to get a dress is David's Bridal has $99 sales a lot, or I've heard some people can get good dresses on EBAY, or buy a white prom dress, most times they are prettier then some wedding dresses.
Pictures- my mom and other family members and friends took the pictures, sure they were not prefessional, but again we saved a lot of money there...a cute idea for the reception is buy disposable cameras and have them on the tables, and have peple use them to take pics.
Flowers- my mom went and bought sliks and made our bouquets.
Tuxes- this was our only real cost...
As you see my wedding was cheap, plain and simple, my father in law married us, so we didn't have that cost either. Another way to save costs is to have the reception and ceremony at the same place...while you're having pics taken the chairs can be moved. What is sad is now days the true meaning of a wedding has gotten lost is all the glitz and glam, it is a day to celebrate you joining with your spouse.. not to show off how much money you can blow.
Congrats on the wedding and good luck!
2006-09-03 13:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Instead of soliciting funding and free stuff, why don't you just have a small wedding without a lot of frills. I do not think people should try to put on a wedding that they cannot afford. What is most important is that you are marrying the one that you love.
I would say though, that if you are looking for certain items, perhaps you could post on Craig's List (a website) and see if you can get some items free, for cheap or for trade. Good luck and don't let the materialistic aspects of wedding planning get to you ... just have fun and know that being with the one you love is The Most Important Thing.
2006-09-07 16:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try Craigslist for your area, also theregoesthebride.com, and find your local Knot message board at theknot.com, then choose Talk, then participate on your LOCAL board.
I would also suggest not speaking in such a panicked tone. You're looking for free or discounted items because you're being thrifty-- you're not a charity case-- and these are luxuries you're talking about, after all.
Many brides nationwide have recently been donating their used wedding items to brides whose weddings were called off/ ruined/ postponed due to them losing everything in Hurricane Katrina and its aftermath. Are you one of those? If not, try to keep things in perspective.
Also, try to be more specific about what your're asking for. What do you REALLY need to get married? $100 for court fees? Everything else is an "extra".
People get married in their nicest dressy outfit all the time. They invite people with handwritten invitations and take the guests all out for fancy desserts at a nice restaurant afterwards.
They have family do the photos. They send thank you notes for gifts on pretty, blank cards that they bought 8 for 25 cents at the Goodwill. Weddings really don't need to cost much, especially if things are tight.
Just, a little perspective, please, before rushing in here with all those panicked exclamation points. Good luck.
2006-09-03 20:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
freecycle.com. This is a place where you can sign up in your local neighborhood that joines people who live near each other. You post on there something you have, but don't need or want anymore and someone who wants/needs it will contact you to get it. You post on there what you need/want, and hopefully someone will have what you are looking for. It is a great way to get furniture, moving boxes, car parts, etc. It is also a great way to get rid of things you don't want, but you also don't want to throw away.
Also, consider getting married in a park, at a friend or family members home, or VFW hall. Make your own favors, invitations, etc. Have your family help with the preparation of meals to do the reception buffet style. You can still have a great wedding on a small budget.
2006-09-03 20:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure where you can get free items unless you are a celebrity. If you are trying to cut cost you can get people to do things for you as a gift. My co-worker got married last fall and her friend purchased and printed her wedding programs as a gift, her husband's sister paid for her D.J. as a gift and a her husband's aunt paid for the reception hall as a gift. Other family members paid for other things as a gifts to her and her husband as well and they saved a lot of money. This is the only way I can see you can cut the cost of your wedding.
2006-09-03 20:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggestion NO 1: Save your money and then get married.
2006-09-03 20:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by musiclover 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what kind of stuff do you still need??
i can suggest things to make it less expensive i have my wedding planned and it is under $3,000
let me know what you are looking at and i can try to help email me at montanawomn@yahoo.com
2006-09-04 00:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan a wedding you can afford.
2006-09-03 22:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are we talking dollar store here or dumpster-diving? You've got to set your priorities.
2006-09-03 21:56:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
elope) and have the reception at your house.everyone can bring drinks and a dish.
Yet I find this question of yours in poor taste .Dont start our your marriage asking for handouts..
2006-09-03 20:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋