HEY Do you feel its right to beat a child? Spankings etc or do you believe in time outs etc???

Answer 1

No time outs. Use a horse whip till the kids bottom is red.

Answer 2

I have been spanked from the time I was old enough to disobey, it worked. I'm much better off for it. I know a foster child who is 3 and cannot be spanked due to lack of knowledge as far as the possibility of abuse and she's the biggest brat sometimes. Kids eventually learn that they cannot/will not be spanked and they abuse the knowledge. Spanking is not harmful, I don't care who says otherwise. The only peole who are against it are the ones who don't have children or have never been spanked. Now, somebody is going to say, "That's not true, I was spanked as a kid and it was abusive." There is a difference in abuse and spanking. Spanking is enough force to get the point across that the undesired behavior is not tolerated. Abuse is enough force to snap a kids neck when you spank they're butt. A difference as big as the Mississippi is long. SPANKING DOES NOT HARM A CHILD!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Spanking is violence.

NO CHILD every learned anything but fear or aggression from a spanking.

Lots of people here seem to think that the difference between a spanking and a beating is how hard it is or how hard it hurts.

WRONG, WRONG, WRONG

Spanking is about the changes that take place to the mind not the behind. A hand raised to hit, no matter how softly, is the hand of the enemy.

Do you want to be your child's enemy? Do you want to take away your child's safe refuge from the big, bad world? That is what you are, remember.

You swat on the bottom, not hard, not done in anger parents have NEVER talked to a child Psychologist about this or you would be embarrassed to answer as you did.

Answer 4

I believe in "time outs" or other measures than beating a child. You can take away a privilege; you can make a child spend time in their room; there are other avenues to pursue other than being physical. I am 60 years old and never hit any of my five children for a very good reason. When I was growing up, there was no such thing as child abuse. Two of my closest friends were regularly "beaten" with belts, hair brushes and razor straps. I can still hear their screams to this day and the sound of the straps hitting them. I wish I could go back in time and give their parents a smack in the head. If all else fails, see a professional such as a psychologist.

Answer 5

I think it's fine to spank a child as long as it's just that--a spanking with the palm of your hand, and only on the child's behind or top of his hand. I don't believe in actually beating, punching, hitting, kicking, etc. a child anywhere. I think time outs are a friggin joke.

Answer 6

I believe in time-outs and teaching the child what they did wrong. Spanking just scares the child into fearing the parent but doesn't really know why he or she shouldn't do it. However, I slight tap on the bum or hand isn't so bad when tehy are in a dangerous situation like touching a hot stove or trying to run across the street without looking.

Answer 7

Man this question comes up here A LOT.

No, I think that spanking, whuping, smacking, popping, etc. is wrong. It's not the best way to teach a child right from wrong. As a matter of fact, for very young kids it can be confusing. It shows that the parent has no respect for the child and doesn't give them value as a person. In no other relationship in our lives (boss/coworker/spouse/etc.) is it appropriate to "smack" someone. What in the world makes people think that it's acceptable to smack the smallest and most dependent members of our society?

Answer 8

I don't believe that time outs work, it just gives the child time to plot out their next evil deed. I know spanking a child is considered child abuse, (not like it was when I was a kid. Me and my sibs got the dreaded belt.) So I would suggest that everytime the kid does something wrong, give him or her extra chores that they wouldn't normally have. Im sure all kids hate chores and the thought of having extra ones tagged on if they misbehave will make them behave. Good Luck

Answer 9

I believe the punishment must fit the crime. I would use time out and a spanking has a last resort. First i would use compromise then if that wouldn't work i would threaten if that didn't work i would go through with my threatening whatever it might be: take a toy away, time out, smack on the butt.

But i also believe kids learn from consequences. If they dont do something then this is the result.

But then again it depends on age and all.

if the kid is like 1 or 2 i would just redirect them if possible.

You have to remember that a child learns by seeing. If you smack your kid for every little thing it does then it is going to learn that smacking is okay.

Answer 10

Time- outs sometimes work but don't seem to effective at times. Beat a child? NEVER. A spanking only in certain situations but that being just a tap on the butt. My father says that is what is wrong today.........parents won't give a small swat to the butt. It works to take away something that the child enjoys for a short time.

Answer 11

beating a child and spankings are completely different in there connotations. spankings are swats on the bum and beatings imply striking in any/all other points of the body.

i believe whole heartily than spankings or the threat of it should be carried out in selective circumstances. of course like any instruction/threat given to the child it should ALWAYS be backed up.

ie. "no you can't have that" and then buy it after they promise to do something or stop whining.
"you're going to get spanked if you don't stop" they keep doing it until you lose interest and they stop. you don't spank.

the biggest issue is sending idle threats and not carrying them out. the child will push and push until they break you.