2006-09-03 12:02:47 · 9 answers · asked by r6deney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are alone, there may be a reason why no one is with you.
If you are with someone then it means that there is a reason to be with you and they want to figure out what it is.
2006-09-03 12:08:27 · answer #1 · answered by aibnyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when you walk in alone, it LOOKS like you are hunting and women are immediately repulsed by this...it's even worse when you go out with the "wolfpack" theory. If you are with a nice looking woman, then other women will think, "...hmm, she's with him so he must have some good qualities...I'm curious, I think I want to meet him...etc...etc..." When you are alone, it is kind of like..."Hmmm, he is by himself...he MUST be a psycho/loser/stalker/unemployed....etc....etc because he doesn't have a woman."
Now...here's the "antidote" without having to bring a woman with you...
1. If you are truly a "loner," don't be the depressed, brooding, pouty little ***** of a loner...be the happy, confident, aloof loner who is enjoying his time no matter where he goes. Women like that too. It kind of reverses the loser assumption because they want to know, "...what's this guy got to be so happy about...he's alone?! Hmm...maybe I should go find out..."
2. Avoid the wolfpack AT ALL COSTS!! You are SO not going to get any intimate time with any woman if you run with a pack of single guys on the hunt. Think about it. Women hang out in small groups...2-3, occasionally 4. If it's more than that, they probably are on a girls night out and don't really want to be bothered with you anyway...but consider this...do 2 girls really want to be hounded by 4-5 guys in a bar?? I doubt it. Instead...even the odds. If you must "hunt," limit the number in your hunting party to no more than 3...but if you really want to increase your odds, follow the fighter pilot mentality. I.E. get a "wingman." 2 guys are far less threatening than 4 or more. Even 3 can be a bit intimidating.
Today's women are not idiots and therefore the majority of them will not place themselves in situations where they will be outnumbered or potentially "overpowered" so the wolfpack theory is probably going to get you very limited results.
Additionally, if you can't conversate on anything other than sexually related material, you can forget it...they have already written you off. Men are aroused physically...and quickly...women, you need to stimulate their mind before you can even THINK about the body. If you remember nothing else...remember that. You don't have to be a genius...just be able to hold a casual conversation.
2006-09-03 12:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by iipiki_okami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the same reason why department store sales are always successful. women love the competition. when you're alone, women tend to consider you less so no sale. when you're with someone, their competitive juice is aroused and they start flirting with you. besides women in a bar are almost always tipsy and maybe looking for a catfight. my advise is stay away from the bar scene if you want a really good woman.
2006-09-03 12:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by hormonehero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, good question buddy! I should have thought of it. When I have a date, all the girls check me out. And when I have a girlfriend, the women somehow know and try to pick me up. I have taken to calling this the "when it rains it pours" situation. Why do you chicks do it? I used to go to bars with my female roommate in college, and when the chicks thought she was my girlfriend they were all over me. But when I am out with the boys or alone - no attention at all. Why?
2006-09-03 12:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if I see a guy who is with a nice looking woman, I want to have him to, but if I see the same guy alone, I think he is a bit of a loser.
have you seen the movie legally Blondie 1, a part in which a ugly guy ask a girl out, but she says no, but when the Blondie girl tells him that she is in love with him, the other girls also want him...lol could you understand what I'm trying to say here?
2006-09-03 12:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by natalia k 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women like a little competition. i have an idea.... bring a female family member around ur age to the bar..... when women flirt with u, tell that family member to take a taxi back to her house and tell her thanks a lot then you'll have a real date.
2006-09-03 12:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jessy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are evil and want what they can't have. We love challenges.
2006-09-03 12:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when alone = available
with someone = challenge
you know everyone wants what they can't have right?
2006-09-03 12:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women and men want what they can't have!!!!
2006-09-03 12:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋