What is my problem?

Question

I know this sounds corny, but I'm crying right now. All of my life, I've had depression and low self esteem, and I found this amazing band who knew exactly what I went through. My Chemical Romance. All of our lives, we wait for someone who understands us, someone who helps us get through things, well My Chemical Romance does that. Well, I know I'll never be more than a fan, but still, I've never been to a concert. I have always been sooo close, but because I'm 13, my parents won't let me. Well, I feel like they're so close. The only thing is that I can't reach them. God!!!! I have problems. haha Before you comment, pretend to understand what I'm feeling. It's like, you know how to fix your problem, but no one believes you or is letting you. God, I hate myself.

Answer 1

Its good to find something that empathizes (Understands) how you are feeling, but remember that many of us have endured similar emotions especially through our teen years.

Be careful not to nurture your depression by listening to certain songs over and over and over again. It is very important that when you are feeling particularly down and hateful toward yourself that you purpose to change your surroundings and try to get out of your slump.

-It might be a soothing bath.
-Perhaps a jog around your block?
-Maybe you would like to go sit outside and draw.
-What about baking something?
-There is poetry. You could write as a release, tucking your emotions inside a private journal instead of letting them wrench your insides.

Please just know this, you are not alone and there are many adults around you that have felt the very same things you described here today.

God bless you dear and don't forget to pray to your Heavenly Father who made you for a purpose. He loves you beyond belief.

Answer 2

You have a very serious problem I like to call, "Teenageitist". Your hormones are raging in all directions making little or no sense and leaving you confused. You know you are not a child and you are not an adult so inwardly you wonder just what the heck you are. Then you decide you are nothing. You see other girls at school that look like they have everything together, no problems at all. And here you are with massive problems. Let me give you a clue. Most of those hot shot girls at school are just like you. They just learned how to hide it and fake and do it.
Make a list of all the things you can do reasonably well. Make a list of all the people, family that love you. You'll see you are worth more than you thought. Stay a teenager as long as you can. Don't try to grow up all at once. You are a teenager for 7- years, then you become an adult and that takes many years. I am 70 and I envy you. Your life is before you, mine is also before me, just not as much.
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Answer 3

Hey, Dont feel so down, u are just going through a growin stage in life. If u like this band, look them up on the internet,and get their address and they will send u some autograph photos.
Concerts are really loud these days, u really aint missin nothing that MTV does not have.
C'mon, love yourself, cause life flies by so quickly.
You sound like my daughter when she was 13, now she is 24 and has been to concerts but rather watch MTV.

Answer 4

I think that alot of people have given you some good advice. I especially like Patricia's answer. Talk to your parents.

It is true that My Chemical Romance are just a band and they don't "speak" to you, but it is OK to like their music. I really like them, too. I'm an old lady and I am really comfortable with myself now but I remember going through some tough teen years. It took me a while to be able to step back and see all the blessings I had in life. Music has always been very important to me and I still listen to a lot of "angry" music; it's good for stress relief as long as you don't take it too seriously. Gosh, you want to talk about teen angst??? I am a huge fan of The Smiths! Now, they had teen angst down to a T!

Answer 5

You are dealing with a very difficult time in life and depression can be an added burden. Can you go to your parents or anouther relative, teacher or adult that you can talk too? I know the music seems to understand you, I have felt the same but you need to remember that the songs you listen to are written to make money and the band is not going to help you. You need to talk to a trusted adult and maybe have some counselling or even medication to help with your depression. Puberty is a difficult time physically and mentally and depression can be a serious disorder for a teenager. Please talk to someone!

Answer 6

I know what it feels like to be 13 and told "no" all of the time by your parents. I know what it's like to break down into tears out of the blue and have no one there who understands. I can tell you that you're not alone at all in your pain. I think it's great that you allow music and your favorite band to heal you. Music is wonderful therapy for depression. Also please try and remember that you are going through some tough years (the teens) and it's natural for you to feel extra emotional and even confussed and depressed sometimes. I have struggled with depression all of my life too and I can tell you that you are one of my kind. There are a lot of us out there. Hang in there sweetie and know that there is something in control of all of this we're all going through and that force, or God, or whatever you call it does love you and will see you through. Your pain is temporary and will soon pass. Please take care and even if you hate yourself, I love you.

Answer 7

Uh... you're 13. That's not very old. In actuality, you probably don't remember much of your first years anyways. So I would have to say that you haven't seen anything yet. You're in what Middle School?

I was there once, many years ago, but I was there.

And My Chemical Romance is just a play. They don't understand you at all nor can they relate to you either. It's something that we like to call 'impersonations'

Answer 8

Look around you at everyone who is over 20y/o.

Almost ALL of them have felt the way you are feeling now.

It's a terrible time you are going through, I know I have been there. It's called teenage angst or the wounds of adolescence. But it will be over in just a couple of years. Trust me you will outgrow this feeling.

Having someone older to talk to helps. REALLY. Do you have a cousin or Aunt or Uncle that is cool with whom you can spend one afternoon per month or more?

You'll be o.k., this will get better when you are older and out in the world on your own.

Answer 9

first of all i dont think going to see a band will fix your problem, you have to realize that you are someone special, there is not another you but there are some like you, have you seen a doctor, do you take anti depressants, if so maybe they are not working or are making you worse, and I never got to go anywhere until i was 16 and then i had very little freedom, i had to call when i got there and if i left someone there would call and tell on me, you are at a very awkward age and it will get better, hang in there

Answer 10

1st of all:
Well if you wanted honesty, that's all you had to say.
I never want to let you down or have you go, it's better off this way.
For all the dirty looks, the photographs your boyfriend took,
Remember when you broke your foot from jumping out the second floor?

I'm not okay.
I'm not okay.
I'm not okay.
You wear me out.

What will it take to show you that it's not the life it seems?
(I'm not okay)
I told you time and time again you sing the words but don't know what they mean
(I'm not okay)
So be a joke and look, another line without a hook
I held you close as we both shook for the last time take a good hard look!

I'm not okay.
I'm not okay.
I'm not okay.
You wear me out.

Forget about the dirty looks
The photographs your boyfriend took?
You said you read me like a book, but the pages are all torn and frayed

I'm okay.
I'm okay!
I'm okay, now
(I'm okay, now)

But you really need to listen to me
Because I'm telling you the truth
I mean this, I'm okay!
(Trust Me)

I'm not okay
I'm not okay
Well, I'm not okay
I'm not o-*******-kay
I'm not okay
I'm not okay
(Okay)

2nd.
I believe ur lonely.
I hope u r okey