I've been going out with this woman for about a month and she told me she is bipolar. Should I get the heck out?
2006-09-03 11:59:30 · 13 answers · asked by Mt. Kilimanjaro 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-03 12:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by bradandchance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is on meds then it can be controlled. Just think though if you have been with her for a month and you thought she was fine then maybe everything will be OK. There are different degrees. Most of the time medication can control it, however the problems can start if that person stops taking their meds. You could know allot of people that have this disease. Plus you should give her credit for telling you as that is a very difficult thing to do with all of the negative stigma that is attached to mental illness. It is very hard to open up and trust people that they won't judge you because you are sick. Would you consider running if she was diabetic or had a heart problem. You should look online and get some information, there are some very informative web sites out there.
2006-09-03 19:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by aleynam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats something only you can decide, a friend of mine is also a sufferer, and although he can be a drain at times, he is also a wonderful friend.
I believe you have to do what is right for you, if you love her it will only be fear making you leave her.
I've found the following on a Bipolar website, I hope it helps.
Peace & Light
Hip
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Having someone in your life who has bipolar disorder can be hard. Helping to care for the person takes time, patience, and understanding.
Although at times you may feel like you are responsible for making someone well, you're not. Your support is just one part of this person's treatment.
In order to be effective, treatment for bipolar disorder includes several things. They are a healthcare provider's care, counseling, education for the individual and family, and, in most cases, medication.
To help, it's important that you learn all you can about bipolar disorder. Your knowledge of the illness and how it is treated gives your loved one a unique, personal, and loving source of support in managing bipolar disorder.
2006-09-03 19:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Chris, if you really care about this girl then you may want to get more information about her condition. If she is being responsible and taking her medication then she is at least trying to get better. Some people are in denial and they go back and forth with getting on and off their medication. This could be scary and stressful for you as her boyfriend. She may become suicidal at times or just be very depressed. If you feel that you are not ready to support her then you need to be honest with her and not hurt her. She's going through enough with her diagnoses. She did not ask to be bi-polar. Do what you feel is the right thing to do for your future and hers. Be Blessed.
2006-09-03 19:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could run if you want to be considered shallow! Stick with her and see where things take you. If it doesn't work out you could always remain good friends. But don't be a shallow jerk, and run at the first site of an illness. At least she came out and told you. That shows, she cares enough about you to open up, about something very personal in her life.
2006-09-03 19:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things:
1. it could be a joke and she is probably testing your reaction.
2. it could be true and is also testing you.
If its true, then its up to you whether YOU LOVE her or not. Since love can accept shortcomings and all, then stick with her and probably you can change her for the better.
but if you are not into any serious relationship yet and is afraid to undergo drastic measures with relating to somebody who is bipolar, then get out of the relationship real soon before you even really hurt her.
2006-09-03 19:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forewarned is Forearmed!!
I'm not telling you to run, but I want to know it is not easy. I think it is admirable that she told you. She needs your understanding and support, If you can stand the mood swings and the rest of the baggage go for it. It will take much longer to develop a deeper relationship.
Good luck
2006-09-03 19:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by fred f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bipolar is a depressive illness, i have got you a good site to look at then you can make up your own mind, as to weather you can help her cope with it or just call it a day, good luck,
2006-09-03 19:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar is beyond her control. Get over it and get to know her and love her for her!!!
2006-09-03 19:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by swim_chic07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO support her shes on meds if you couldn't tell before she told you. be nice to her and if her med levels are off she'll need extra support so don't say that help. because leaving will hurt both of you
2006-09-03 19:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by hawaiicatlynblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-03 19:04:43 · answer #11 · answered by flowerspirit2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋