we've been together for 3 years, and just went to college. i went to party and kissed another guy. he acts like he likes me, but i dont know what to do b/c i dont want to break up with the guy that i love just for a random college hookup. what should i do?
2006-09-03 11:53:44 · 21 answers · asked by sugar56 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean, i'm kinda confused as to if i should take the chance with this other guy b/c i think about him alot..or do i stick with my long term?
2006-09-03 11:54:42 · update #1
You know i have a long distance bf too, and unless you are really committed to ur relationship then i don't know why u cheated. But if ur not so sure with it, like i am not, then it will soon turn into more of a friendship. The thing whats great about long distance relationships are is that whatever you do, they don't know it happened ^_^ You can contacted me if u want to talk more about it!
2006-09-03 12:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
College is about learning about yourself. You are young and if you are thinking of breaking up with your BF, then do so, because you are not being faithful. He deserves better, don't you think? You don't want him to think that you are there for him when you kind of aren't. Never marry your first love, unless you date someone in the middle sometime. Otherwise, you will never have perspective.
So, say to your current BF that you need to try new things and that you don't want to hurt him. If after college you still want to be together than, great! If this new guy is just a "lust" thing then don't leave your current BF for that. There are tons of guys out there just looking for free sex.
2006-09-03 18:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already made you choice. Your in college. You don't need to break it off but make it clear where you are in the relationship. He's going through the same things as you at school. Think of it this way, When your at school your at school. When you are home for vacation or break you should still see each other but call it what it is. You both are meeting a ton of new people and are in a new environment. Thats what this time in your life is for. finding out what you want out of life. Don't be a slut though. Nobody respect that drunk girl at the party.
2006-09-03 19:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mike C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is an obvious sign that you are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship. So stop trying. You're young and away from home for the first time. Now is the time to date, a lot, but casually. No sleeping around. That way when you are really ready to settle down, you'll really know who and what you want.
You are young. Live your life and have fun now while you can. Don't beat yourself up, just take this as a learning experience and keep it moving.
2006-09-03 19:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by aibnyc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there drinking involved when you kissed the other guy? If there was then maybe it was just a slip up and it was only a kiss right. On the other hand; if you love your boyfriend the way you say you do it shouldnt be hard to not hook up with someone else. I guess what I am saying is you need to really examine your feelings and decide if your boyfriend is really the one for you.
2006-09-03 18:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u and your boyfriend are inlove i would just forget about that kiss at the party and stay with the man u are inlove with
but if u find yourself thinking about the guy at the party alot lately that mean u are not ready for the commited relationship and u should let ur b/f know that u want some space to figure out what u want and than u could go out with that guy at the party and find out if he is the one for u
2006-09-03 18:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationship is always difficult. and probably why you kissed this guy was because you had the urge to feel comfortable to someone but your bf is just not there at that precise moment.
there are a lot of what ifs here. try to weigh who you think you'll be happier with.
2006-09-03 19:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U didnt really cheat on him u juss kissed the guy its not like u had intimacy with him.....so u should tell ur bf about the situation and tell him the whole truth and the whole story and let him decide........if he leaves u then he wasn't really ur bf to begin with but if he forgives u...u need to Marry that man.....GOOD LUCK
2006-09-03 18:58:01 · answer #8 · answered by ~>i cant hate u anymore<~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to examine how you feel about your current b/f. If you are kissing others, maybe you don't have with him what you thought you did. If you want the relationship and you care about your b/f, talk to him and tell him how you feel.
Let the chips fall where they may. You have been honest with him, you made a mistake and if he holds it against you, maybe it's time to move on.
2006-09-03 18:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the man thats been around longer. you know him more. but i would be truthful with ur boyfriend, if u choose not to he could find out in the worst way... if u can keep him from finding out then dont tell him... but ur gonna feel guitly
2006-09-03 18:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋