your in a super market and a kid starts playing up so there mum / dad starts threatening them or smacking them making it worse and a situation gets out of hand couldnt they talk calmly and resonally
what would you do with your kids i dont have them soi dont know how stuff work it just seems like a situation that could have benn sorted
2006-09-03 11:36:56 · 15 answers · asked by bitter sweet 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's a hard question to answer. Unless you're there and see it. Different situations call for different things. You never know what a parent has tried or what kind of behavior the child has had that day. It has become so difficult to discipline your children in public these days because of so many judgmental people. You say anything to your kids and people glare, yet when the kids have a fit in the store, these same people throw their dirty looks.
Where's the respect for them trying to raise their kids even in front of all those prying eyes?
Yes, some situations can be sorted more calmly, I agree, some can't.
2006-09-03 12:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by feathereafter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never say never when it comes to what you will do with your kids before you have them. I do understand what you are saying here tho. No one approves who can be a parent or not. I try really hard not to judge the parents because I know I have lost it in stores but it was because I kept the kids out too long, both of us tired, but still I didn't hit the kids. Calmly and reasonably don't always work with kids, depends on the age. Sometimes there is nothing you can do but leave a store or a resturant with them. My kids knew that if I threatened them with going to the restroom and the big stall, they knew they were going to get more than a talking to.
2006-09-03 18:43:45 · answer #2 · answered by Chloe 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I used to not spank my kids in public.
They learned that. My 4-year old started making some kind of hand signals that he made up as he went along at other shoppers- I took him into the bathroom and gave him a firm warning. He behaved the rest of the trip.
Next trip- happened again.
I gently reminded him, since it had been 2 weeks since he'd been shopping with me. He did it to the next person that passed. We went to the bathroom....I popped his bottom and he behaved the rest of the trip. Now I usually have to threaten the bathroom once during a trip but don't have to follow up.
Personally, I'm more annoyed by those whose kids are screaming and being brats and the parents aren't doing a thing about it.
2006-09-03 21:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised in a strict family, so when I was a kid i got yelled at a lot. But you know, right now i'm having a great life and my mom actually loved me, she just wanted me to learn. But i think when a kid is really young they should be calmly talked to the first time.
2006-09-03 18:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by da dude person 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes talking "calmly and reasonably" doesn't help. I spank my child when she gets too out of line, just as my dad and grandmothers spanked me. It's a different world when you don't have kids sometimes. I used to say I wouldn't spank my kids when I was childless. Well, you know what? It WORKS. My daughter has learned quickly when mommy isn't playing with her, and often I don't even have to spank her, I can simply give her a LOOK and she knows when to cut it out. People parent in different ways, remember that. You may not agree with my methods, but that's fine. I don't agree with some of the other methods out there.
2006-09-03 18:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Some children dont respond to just talking... that falls back on level of dicipline control the parents have... My children KNOW better than to misbehave out in public.. It will get them a quick trip to the restroom for an attitude adjustment or taken out of the middle of all the people to find out what the deal is.... If it boils down to me having to end my shopping trip early because of thier behavior... they will see nothing but the 4 walls in their rooms...
2006-09-03 18:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Denise B 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really upsets me when parents treat their hcildren disrespectfully, especially in situations like the one you have described.
I don't know what I would do with an older child, because my daughter is only 1 year, but I would remove us from the situation as soon as possible, and try to redirect my children. IT depends what is going on, I am not sure what you mean by 'playing up'.
2006-09-03 18:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think its annoying, i remember one day this little boy was crying in the mall, he was about 5 or 6. his mom came up and yelled "MOVE" and smacked him in the back really hard, and then rammed him with the stroller. i thought it was totally un necessary. and what did that teach him? nothing. there are better ways to discipline children than to sit there and scream at them or smack them.
2006-09-03 19:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do have kids and if you have a kid do that somethings wrong. I wish the parents would just beat that child like it needs so I can go on with my life.
2006-09-03 18:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Craig 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well im still young and dont have no kids but dam right i hate when ma mom hits me LoL
2006-09-03 18:38:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋