2006-09-03 11:05:44 · 25 answers · asked by ceasar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
. . . is this a trannie thing? . . .
2006-09-03 11:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Astra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of nonsense is this? You say 'mum think we are of different religion'. Who's mom -- hers or yours? And are you?
How old are you, anyway. If you're still a minor, you have no say in the matter whatsoever. If you are an adult, and your girl is an adult, neither mom has any say in the matter.
But quite honestly, you sound a little immature to be starting out in married life. You need a job. You need to be able to support your wife. You need to have a place to bring her. You need to be mature enough to release the apron strings, and for that matter, so does your girl.
You've got a lot of thinking to do before taking ANY major steps.
2006-09-03 20:53:46 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who is old enough to get married is old enough to do it with or without their mum's approval. People of different religions get married every day. All that's required is that they find a common ground and are able to embrace their differences as well as their similarities. If you are even hesitating due to what your mum thinks, you are going to have bigger problems in any potential marriage than just religion. Cut the apron strings and follow your heart.
2006-09-03 18:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction to this question was "If you have to ask whether to listen to your mum or marry the girl you love, I would say that you probably aren't mature enough to get married - cut the apron strings".
But then I thought about some friends of mine. Both of them will lose their families if they get married, due to the strength of both of their families' (very different) religious beliefs. And whatever anyone may think, it isn't easy to cut ties with your family and know that you will probably never see them again.
Only you can decide what is most important to you. You may be lucky enough that your mum will come round to the idea, I don't know. But I do know that you have to live your own life. You're the only one who knows what will make you happiest in life, so ultimately you are the only one who can make this decision. Good luck.
2006-09-04 12:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you mum's opinion does matter to you. Frankly if both of you follow the religion and traditions it might cause problems further in life, but if both of you are religious just on paper, that love will hold you both, otherwise differences may lead to a gap between two of you.
Yet, your mother's opinion is very important for you so for start make your mum and her get to know each other better. Maybe if they go along fine and respect each other will easier this dilemma.
2006-09-03 18:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by kaja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are commited to your religion then don't marry her. but then if this was the case you wouldn't have gone out with her in the first place would you. you need to decide what is more important to you your mum or the girl. just remember that many married people have said that mum was right when she said i shouldn't have married you.
2006-09-03 18:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really do need to take minute sit down way the pros & cons of marring someone of a different religon. With marriage you will have issues with a different religion you might just add on more issues. that at the moment you don't seem mature enough to handle.
2006-09-03 18:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Keshia K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask your 'mum' for permission to get married, you are too young in the first place irrespective of religion.
2006-09-03 19:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Stargatebabe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending your religion... I gave this speech to my husband... "Religion or the Bible is one mortal man's view of things. If God brought us together, doesn't he want us to be happy as one." He had already proposed but we were wondering about who's church to go to. We went with mine. Talk to hers/your parents, let them feel your love and help them to understand what you both want. Maybe a compromise can be worked out. Did you ever see my Big Fat Greek Wedding?
2006-09-03 18:15:54 · answer #9 · answered by b's wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give up now - family and religion always seem to end up taking priority - its a sad world, but i wish you luck x
2006-09-03 19:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were of different religions and that made life interesting.
2006-09-07 17:24:33 · answer #11 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋