what it is that i rang home one afternoon from work and told loz (ps this isnt loz) to tell her mum that i wont be back from work till quart to 7 so dont start cooking till 7 and then my boyf rang and said his family had invited me to theirs for tea and its kinda a big deal to me that they like me and soi rang home and said dont cook and she already started cooking and now she hates me i know she is jealous of my relationship with my boyf's family and that she thinks she is losing me to them, which isnt true, please help this is really effecting me as i already suffer from depression and this is making it worse help!
2006-09-03 11:01:45 · 18 answers · asked by lozzi_pop22 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
. . . aswell as depression you've got verbal diarrhoea . . .
2006-09-03 11:08:13 · answer #1 · answered by Astra 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in the wrong this time...sorry. No matter how big of a deal something is to you....it's never okay to have fun at the price of someone else's being 'put out' about a prior commitment. First of all, the person was cooking for you. You called and 'told' them WHEN to cook so that you could take part in the meal someone else was kind enough to provide AND prepare for you. THEN, you got 'a better offer' and 'dissed' them. Pure and simple. You should not have cancelled...it was rude. I don't think anyone is 'jealous' of your relationship with your boyfriend. They're probably just resentful of how self-absorbed you've become and at their cost.
2006-09-03 18:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you telling the "cook" in the house, which is your GF's mom, when to cook? Seems to me it is a little messed up. Besides, once you make firm plans it is RUDE to cancel out because you got a better offer. People go out of their way to please you, and you blew them off to impress your BF;s family? They would not be so impressed if they knew you dumped someone to accept their invite. Apologize to Loz and MUM. Pray BF and family do not get wind of your faux pas.
2006-09-03 18:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by DA R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Repeat after me: "I can't even tell you how important you are in my life. I don't want you to ever be concerned that my relationship with (insert bf name) is more important to me than you are. I know you understand and you only want me to be happy... but change is scary, isn't it? I do get worried sometimes... but I know that you and I are SO close that we'll weather these relationships as they come and go for each of us and we'll be there for each other at the end of the day, right? There's just no substitute for a best girlfriend... no matter what!"
2006-09-03 18:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all the problems of the world could be solved this easy. Just explain that tea with your boyfriend was important and you are sorry for the hassle. A small heartfelt gift and card will do the trick
2006-09-03 18:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to talk to loz mum and explain the situation clearly and let her know exactly how you feel. I'm certain she doesn't hate you, she may feel upset because she doesn't understand how you feel. Reassure her and let her know how much she means to you. The best thing to solve any problem is communication - honest, so TALK!
2006-09-03 18:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Purple 8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the same problem I do, I worry about what others think to much. I also suffer from depression a great deal ! You have to try & let it go. Deal with it easy & take your time. She will not suffer that much that you will lose her friendship....
2006-09-03 18:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
loz and her mum are they your niece and sister? if so maybe she doas feel she's loosing you reasure her by maybe taking them out for dinner as a treat now and then along with your boyfriend, and doas your boyfriend get invited to dinner with you and your family, or you could both have dinner with your family one night in the week then with his another. familys and relationships are hard work. good luck
2006-09-03 18:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by jewls1964 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you dumped her and probably embarassed her in front of her mum who had already started cooking for you. you made an arrangement and then broke it for what you considered to be a better offer. not surprised you suffer from depression i would too lol. you need to spread yourself more evenly gal and stick to arrangements made and stop taking her for granted.
2006-09-03 18:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try taking out some special time for her , your life should be split so you can see your freinds too..do something nice together, but remember, YOU control your life without being selfish not your girlfriends, boyfriend or his parents!!!
2006-09-03 18:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by sara629686 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably just feels a bit left out and lonely, put yourself in her position! make it up to her some how and you will both be fine, maybe cook for her?
2006-09-03 18:06:21 · answer #11 · answered by asho_hayes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋