My bofriend of 8 mnths has not introduced Me to his parents, family members or friends. He says he doesn't have many friends.And that his parents know of Me. He lives with his parents and says He doesn't like to spend time there..that's his excuse. What should I think? I think maybe he's hiding something? am I wrong?
2006-09-03 11:01:21 · 24 answers · asked by Catherinefaith 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Few things are as unattractive as a suspicious woman.
Perhaps he's embarrassed to be still living with his parents. Perhaps he's scared you won't think he's a man if you see him at home with his parents nagging him. It all could be perfectly innocent - but look at all the paranoid responses from the women answerers. Don't become like them.
If you like this guy, take a quiet moment to sit down with him. Take ownership of your own insecurity. "I'm feeling insecure that I haven't met your parents ... could you explain the dynamic there a little bit more?" Get him to explain why he doesn't want you over there. Make it clear to him that you just want to SHARE his reasons, not CHALLENGE them.
Be a woman; not a loud, stupid, confrontational bi*tch. Even if this relationship ends, being a woman will serve you better throughout your life.
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2006-09-03 12:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his name Scott !! Sounds like a guy I am dating He tried that and got away with It for a while. I was too smart I set him up !! He wasn't married but there was another woman. I followed him called him on his cell and would ask what he was doing and where he was and would wait and followed him, It tool a few times , you don't want to get caught. Do you have his home number call when you know he isn't home..Go to yellow or white pages online give the number it will give you the address. YES HE IS HIDING something 100% sure. I am sure you don't see him every free minute he has. And then are times he says he is with his family that you should be included in but aren't ...Do something today ...Don't let him play you for a fool. And don't let him tell you are crazy either when you confront him.
2006-09-03 18:16:15 · answer #2 · answered by tpepper22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have about 3 friends, and I would never let my parents (way too judgemental too fast) meet my boyfriend unless we have been going out for a really long time, and if my parents can't meet him, my family (we really are dysfunctional) sure isn't. The only thing is, he probably knows my friends before we even go out. So he may not be hiding you, but if you really want to know, just ask. If he still doesn't, try taking it one step at a time--if he doesn't have many friends and he plans on going to see them "Well why can't I come with"? Maybe that will get the ball rolling for him.
2006-09-03 18:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by tickle me fickle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds bad.
Then again, an old buddy of mine is pissed because I never bring anyone by.
Nobody I hang with has any interest in alcoholic meth addicts though and the only reason I even visited him at all is we go way back and I was hoping to help him realize he's on a one way train to loserville. Unfortuately that's where he wants to be so now I don't go see him either.
You should take a hint and let this guy know it's meet the parents or hit the road. Either he's got a deep secret he's keeping (i.e. married) or he's ashamed of you... in either case he's bad news.
2006-09-03 18:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could possibly be telling the truth, but it does sound a little odd. Perhaps he is embarrassed of his parents for some reason. But if he is hiding something, it would be better for you to find out now instead of wasting a year or more with him before learning the tuth. i would nicely put your foot down and insist on meeting his parents, or just stop by his place sometime when his parents are there.
2006-09-03 18:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats funny i have been asked this question by a girl before...I never really introduced my girlfriends to my parents especially my mom because she was so judgemental of anyone i dated...As far as friends go i have always been a bit anti-social and didnt have many friends either so i can understand where hes coming from there too...How well do you know him? Does he really open up and talk to you?...You know his homelife might not have been the best growing up but thats a cause for concern because he could have emotional issues you might not see till later.
2006-09-03 18:16:46 · answer #6 · answered by Yokohama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely! 8 months and he has introduced you to his parent who he lives with!? Wake up! It would be different if they lived in another state but they don't. Tell him that if he doesn't start introducing you to the other people in his life that matter that you will leave because you deserve better.
2006-09-03 18:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by em 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats strange that you cant meet his parents or friends seriouslly there something thats going on maybe he lives with another girl there maybe he married maybe hes gay think about if he dont have many friends where is he in the day time theres something wrong with this picture girl move on and find someone that wont do this to you
2006-09-03 18:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by billie0059 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not WILD about you and showing you off, then he is either embarrassed about his parents or he does not want to show you off. I would be wary. 8 months is long enough to see how crazy he is about you. He should be the first to introduce you to his friends and family. Trust your gut and do what you think is best for YOU.
2006-09-03 18:05:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, that sounds a little fishy. You should talk to him about it and tell you must meet his parents. Tell him you think he is hiding you and you don't feel comfortable with it. Just a thought.
2006-09-03 18:04:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋