I love him dearly, but he just can't accept me for what I am! He NEVER refers to my partner as my girlfriend, and when we're in company, he's forever telling people that me and my gf are plotting about some boy or other. It's SO annoying! What can I do?
2006-09-03 10:58:14 · 11 answers · asked by Candi P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just ignore him. This is how he reacts so let it lay
2006-09-03 10:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Leave your dad alone. He's been around a lot longer than you and he is clearly uncomfortable in front of others sharing your joy. He isn't going to refer to your partner as your girlfriend because he clearly disapproves. He would also not refer to his son's boyfriend as a boyfriend. Have some respect and understand that your sexual orientation is not to be stuffed in his face or anyone else's. Same goes for hetero's who get a significant other and then all you hear about is how happy they are, how happy they are that their unborn child to this unwed couple is God's gift. And wait for the baby shower announcements. People in general really hate getting all these announcements - clearly a holdup in the gift giving department.
Really, no one cares that you have a significant other at this point in time. Divoce rate in the USA is about 50% so there is an even chance that this time next year you will have a different girlfriend. If you love your dad you will make it easy for him not the other way around!!
2006-09-03 18:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for coming forth and telling your family,it takes a strong person to do so. Your Dad is now trying to deal with you coming out in his own way,it may be very surreal to him since you're his little girl. Dads always have a vision of walking their little girl down the isle when they grow up. From his point I think he will need time to come to grips with the fact that his daughter is a lesbian. Give it some time,your Dad loves you. Many of my gay and lesbian friends that came out faced the same thing you are. Just let him deal and laugh at his 'boy' plotting jokes and think 'as if!!!!eeewwwww'. He will hopefully soon realize that this is NOT a faze you are going through, it is WHO you are. I think being that your Mom accepts it,he may eventually follow. Good luck and stay strong!!
2006-09-03 18:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by nobody's hero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, considering that you have your point of view, and he has his, I don't think there's much you two can do.
After all, his views are that Lesbianism is wrong, and morally, he's right.
Your views, are that lesbianism is ok, and popularity, are right.
Thing that you have to ask yourself, is this.
Is your lesbianism due to lack of choices, too much pressure, willing to experiment, or rebellion?
A lot of girls try out being lesbian, only to discover it isn't paradise road....and wind up hurt a lot more, because the one they trusted, isn't all that wonderful.
I'd evaluate your own position, before critizing dad.
2006-09-03 18:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by steveraven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get over it ..one day...remember he always thought that one day he would give you away to some "guy'...my opinion is he will get over it and come around and accept your partner in life and accept you for who you are..just give him some time..maybe you can one day sit down and have along talk about it....he might just have a very hard time accepting it...i know i would....but, when the time comes and if it happens to me ..i just would want my daughter to be happy..and i will be happy with that..and accept her partner..
2006-09-03 18:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by nas88car300 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue showing your dad you love him. sit down with him have a talk about how you feel. if you are unwilling to do that then just make out with her infront of your dad, and possibly other people... everyone will get the picture real clear.
2006-09-03 18:01:34 · answer #6 · answered by help! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad needs to learn to accept you for who you are, and love you for who you are.. in due time.. it'll come.
at the same time, you need to accept that your dad does not agree, and not press the issue with him.. it will only drive the wedge deeper..
be who you are.. don't fall short of that because of what others think.
2006-09-03 18:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by Min 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves you then maybe one day really soon hopefully he will except it and if he doesnt it will be his loss right? and if you havent told him how it makes you feel then do so right away and maybe that will help
good luck sweetie!
2006-09-03 18:01:55 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your dad is the smart one in that house
2006-09-03 18:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by tlacedaway 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom accepts it and your dad doesn't...
hmm..
I'm not getting between you and your mom...
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2006-09-03 18:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋