My boyfriend and I have been together for over two months, and have been good friends for longer. The thing is, not alot of my friends liked him at first, everyone keeps telling me that I could easily do better. Most of the time he treats me wonderful and makes me feel as if Ive reached the highest mountain as they call it. Other times I see what my friends mean, I feel as if sometimes I question why I am with him, he embarrasses me most of the time by not knowing how to keep his mouth shut. I feel as if our intellectual level is very different....He recently told me he has feelings for my best friend...... but said he definetly loves me more. But I think I would be a total ***** if I let him go for these reasons.... Honestly Im not quite shure what Im doing but Im so used to guys leaving me for someone else im scared that i wont find someone better..... am i f*cked up or what? can anyone help me?
2006-09-03 10:38:08 · 5 answers · asked by prometida 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The man is immature. Perhaps you two are both in high school?
Do not worry about him. Cut him loose not because of his comments about your friend, but, cut him loose because he is holding you down.
Do not worry about not finding your prince. Someday he will come. If guys are always leaving you for something beter, they lose. If they dont like you, they lose.
I actually said that to a girl one night at the bar when I was young. After getting shot down, I said, "You lose. I am the guy that you complain about not finding." She then hit on me the next time she saw me.
Dont worry. The ones who walk are losers and you dont want them.
Your prince will come.
2006-09-03 10:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by James S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your a pushover and guys know it. Your vibes are that he can do whatever he wants to you and you'll still want him.
Just your answer saying that it would be stupid for you to dump him just because he is into your friend but loves you more is one of the dumbest statements I've heard in a while. You need to get a backbone and grow up. I guess your in the lead for his heart. I don't even know what to say.
Dump this guy like a hot potato. You are a stepping stone for him and nothing more. Your convenient.
Be confident in yourself. Dont' be a pushover; ( don't be mean either). You teach people how they treat you. If my fiance told me she was into my friend but loved me more, her butt would be out the door so fast it would burn her hair from the heat.
Dont' let people walk all over you. Get someone that will care about you and not tell you he wants' others but wants you more.
2006-09-03 17:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my. Here's what I've learned in the huge number of years of my life. Whatever problems your guy exhibits will not go away (without a TON of motivation, therapy, and work on his part). Further, he's obviously not totally enamoured of you or he wouldn't be developing feelings for your friend.
What I'd tell you if you were my daughter is to make certain you are happy and content without any one else. Not because you plan to be alone but because if you are not happy and content in and of yourself, you'll be a handicapped, weak partner in a relationship. Require your partner to respect you, your wishes, desires, your mind, and your needs. And you be prepared to do the same for him. As for your last sentence, if you don't find someone better, you'll be better off alone. Harsh but true because you ain't seen a hundred miles of bad roads until you are in a terrible marriage.
2006-09-03 17:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He told you that he has feelings for your friend?? This is a line that you shouldnt let him cross.What he's telling you is that if he had the opportunity to **** you friend he will. Well at least he was honest with you but this is something you just dont do. I say let him go.He should have more respect for you. Ya its gonna hurt like hell, trust me I know and so do you from what youve written but you also know that you will heal in time.Good Luck
2006-09-03 17:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by rock_roll_musicman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't stay in a relationship just because you think you won't find any one else. I think in this case your friends see a lot more the you do and you should pay more attention This could get worst
2006-09-03 17:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by robert d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋