My niece is 11 years old. She doesn't have alot of friends. She spends alot of time alone. She is frequently sad or seems unhappy, She has a really hard time talking about her feelings. She usually gets really mad and won't say anything at all.
I want to help her but I don't know how.
Her mother confided in me that she was concerned about her fathers behavior toward her. He would go into her room in the middle of the night.
Serious answers only please.
2006-09-03 10:20:01 · 19 answers · asked by karma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes i would definetly talk to her about it. She is showing the signs and symptoms I was showing. I was molested(sexually)by my father, and my cousin. i would overeate, not bathe as a way to cope with it. It turned me into a promicious female. my mother knew and didn't take me to counseling. She is weak and she didn't leave him. A friend of mine's father made it his duty to break his daughters virginity and in his words show her how to have sex the right way. Please talk to her and if possible go to the authorities. This kind of behavior destroys children and it has got to stop.
2006-09-03 10:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by dark rockchick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. I am sorry and disgusted to hear this. I am hoping that this not true and there is nothing going on. I am currently working for our state Attorney General and I have to agree with the 1st 2 posts. This is a very important issue, file an anonymous file if you have to, make a phone call, but talk to the family involved. Be careful and be sure this comes to a stop. Maybe the mother should follow him into the room one night and see if anything is happening, then go call the cops. Again I am sorry this is happening in your family.
2006-09-03 10:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by republican_ofGod_inKansas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The behavior is what one might expect from an abused child. Pretty dad gum certain she was abused if the father went into her room at night. GET HER TO A QUALIFIED child therapist. You may be able to get her to talk but it's doubtful. Here's a web site:
http://cms.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
The child undoubtedly believes the abuse was her fault and feels she is a terrible person. That doesn't make any sense but it's how kids deal with abuse. Be her friend, don't pry, but LISTEN to anything and everything she has to say and never betray a confidence. Please get her help and the sooner the better. She won't get better withouth help if we're right about the abuse.
2006-09-03 10:39:22 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The visiting her room in the middle of the night set off a big red light for me. Also the fact that the child is withdrawn makes one wonder. The mother should follow hubby into the room to see just exactly what is going on. Her daughter needs protection. If mom won't do it, then you should notify the authorities of mom's concerns.
If nobody takes action, then you are all guilty!
2006-09-03 10:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Dr F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the heck is wrong with her mother? You need to get some professional intervention for this family immediately! Go see the guidance counselor at your niece's school and tell her everything you wrote here! The family MUST be investigated by Child Protective Services because obviously, this girl's mother is NOT protecting her.
2006-09-03 10:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by C. S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get her away from the house as much as possible. Like sports and other activities.She can make friends there and go with her for support. On the rides there and back you can make conversations that might lead to the subject that you would like to tALK about.She can gain confidence in you and will come out sooner or later. I fear that he has done more than what you guys might be thinking and staying at home will only make her more to herself. Get here out and let her enjoy the good things in life because that can damage her childhood forever even if she thinks nobody would believe her if she said anything.make her trust you first and she'll come around.
2006-09-03 10:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by 007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the authorities involved NOW! Her spineless mother is obviously not on her side. She needs someone to be her voice. As scared as you may be, think of how frightened she is when a grown man comes to her room to satisfy his own sickness.
A childhood friend of mine was being molested as a child by her uncle who lived with her. As she grew older, she started acting out and getting into all kinds of trouble. We just thought she was trying to act "cool." God, if I had only known.....
2006-09-03 10:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by GSDoxie3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Gosh, I would definitely approach her about it, what the hell is the mother still doing with him if he is visiting his daughter's bedroom in the middle of the night!
I suggest you find out if it is in fact true or not, and then hand over the information to the authorities. Sister or not, the child need protection from this Bastard!
2006-09-03 10:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by Gur8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And her mother is going to do WHAT? Just allow hubby to go into the girl's bedroom in the middle of the night? This is MOM's deal, not yours. Butt out, but not before you tell mom AND DAD things are not RIGHT with the little one and they need to get to the bottom of it. Then back away. Give them the time and chance to sort it out. If they do not, go back to MOM and find out WHY NOT? It could be something else altogether. If you get proof it is not, then ACT with your proof in HAND before you upset the child. Their welfare must be first and how traumatic it would be if you were totally wrong.
2006-09-03 11:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This does not sound good at all. Why isn't her mom doing more? I would stay up all night to find out whats going on. Call a sexual abuse hotline and talk to them, they would know the signs, and what the best step would be to take. If its happening, it needs to be dealt with ASAP. Good luck.
2006-09-03 10:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋