How long would you wait for a proposal?

Question

How long would you date somebody before you gave up on them ever proposing?

We've been dating for 7 years. He swore we'd get married after college. Thats been almost 2 years ago. Now he won't talk about our future at all. Am I just fooling myself that maybe he'll snap out of it or maybe he just has cold feet?

Answer 1

i guess it depends on the person and their goals and aspirations in life. 3 years sounds like a long time. But when the average human lives 70+ years... 3 years doesn't seem too long.

in my situation.... my husband and I was married hastily. So it really doesn't feel like we're married. He's a marine (just got out) And we went to the magistrate. No family, just two witnesses. And to us it doesn't feel the same. We are married... but it doesn't feel like it yet. so tell people we are engaged.

And I'm waiting for the wedding. When we can give our vows to each other and in front of our loved ones. Even though we have to wait (cuz we can't afford it now) I wouldn't mind waiting. I knew from the moment we started dating that he was it. I knew we were going to be together forever (corny, i know) , and because of that I don't mind waiting, because i know it will happen.

So far I've been waiting... 2 1/2 years. We've already picked the date .. we just have to figure out the year.

We're going to be moving and we want to buy this time. We're not going to be able to pull off a wedding yet.

when you find the right one.. and you both know want the same future and know it will happen.. it doesn't hurt ( emotionally) to wait.

Answer 2

The first time I got a proposal, it was 8 months into the relationship and then married exactly a year from the date. The second time I got a proposal, it was 2 years into the relationship and married 17 months later. I am waiting for number 3 lol. I have been with my new bf for nearly 3 years. We are not rushing into anything though. I have learned my lesson. Gotta be patient!

Answer 3

It seems like a whole rollercoaster ride for you , waiting for the partner to propose, as u worked sooo hard all this time getting to know eachother and the things u love.
I think the questions u need to ask urself are:
How much do i love this person?
Is he or she worth waiting for?
If you really love the other person its not all about getting married , of course it is great as it binds u both closer and makes the relationship stand for much more than it already is , but a paper and a glam day so important that if it doesnt happen u are willin to lose that other person.
If you really love the person it doesnt matter how long it takes , either way ur still gonna be together.arent u? think about that?

If your really worried then choose one of these 2 :
- confrront ur partner , throw hints that you could or love to be married to one another ..show them that u would love that because ur partner might be insecure about how u feel if he did propose.
-or you could take the inetiative and propose urself.i know this may sound impossible for u to do if ur not sure, but its about love not who comes up with the idea.
if you really love them it shouldnt matter when it happens, even though time is crucial.
Its about how far or long ur willin to wait for it , are u sure about the other person , because why would u want to leave him anyway if he didnt propose?
i hope this works dont forget love is what makes the world go round ;)

Answer 4

My friend waited 6 YEARS I fell over after the 4th year rolled around I mean SIX WHOLE YEARS! Well the longer you date the better you know the person but don't pressure them it will mean more to you later on if you just let him decide when he wants to do it but if you pressure him it'll be like you asking him AND there is no problem in you proposing but if you want him to propose then let him decide when.

Answer 5

I think it really depends on the person. He may have had bad experiences in the past, which could make him wait longer. He may want to get other things in his life in place before proposing. He may be unsure as to how you would react. Or, of course, he might not feel as strongly about the relationship.

Answer 6

If it's really true love and we were more then just dating bf and gf I'd wait almost forever. But this is a serious but here. I can't wait forever and neither should she. So give your guy an ultimatum if you want to marry me then ask me and I want my answer soon if not I'm moving on your loss buddy. Tell him that.

Answer 7

I've been asking myself that same question. i have been with someone for three years and dont know what to do. he has been out ring shopping but nothing has come of it. but its not good to put pressure on anyone to get married. talk to him about tell him you've been thinking about marriage and see if thats where he sees the relationship going. if he doesnt at least you did ask him and its time to break up and move on.

Answer 8

How long would I wait for a proposal? If I loved him, I would wait until he was ready to propose. If that took up to ten years, then so be it. Love is worth waiting for, especially if it's true.

Answer 9

It depends. Do you love him so much to wait forever? Does HE love YOU? Is he the type that isn't ready for commit? Or is he just waiting for the right time and moment?

If it seems that he doesn't want to settle down, then I suggest moving on with the rest of your life.

Answer 10

aleast 2 years