I've tried and tried to get something clear to a co-worker, He doesn't seem to get it and it's driving me to the point I actually was rude to him...still no reaction but a "it's not like that you see...blah blah blah...What more is there to do to ON A NORMAL level cope with this before Í "kill" him??
2006-09-03 10:07:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Try writing him a letter.
2006-09-03 10:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the most respectful thing (and etiquette is all about showing respect and manners) to do is to address the issue in a very obvious and concrete way in private. Take the co-worker aside and tell them flat out exactly what behavior is bothering you, how it makes you feel, and how it is destroying the work environment and people's opinion of him. Make sure to explain exactly what behavior you expect from him/her from now on. Make it clear that it is your perception that matters in the situation. Whatever it is that he/she is doing is causing you pain and anger and it needs to stop before it is reported to a boss. Try to temper the pain by commenting on a few things you like about this person the general rule is two positives to one negative.
2006-09-03 10:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by psycho-cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diplomacy and discretion are the key... here's what you do:
So as long as it doesn't directly affect your performance at work indulge him... you don't have to be a yes man, only humour him... keep your raised eyebrows and rolling eyes to yourself.
Now, arrange a staff do or, if that's not an option, a night out with your mates.. make sure HE is invited (+ gf or some of his mates)
Then, let nature take it's course... as the drinks flow and/or the meal progresses (club even?) he is BOUND to drop himself in it. if he's the dipstick you say he is...
When he does make sure your his best mate, gilding his spirits with undertones of sympathy and that should be the benchmark for any future communication at work. You can always refer back to it and your colleagues, perhaps more than a few, will back you up.
If all else fails resign, kick him in the jacobs and send them a wreath of Petunias.
2006-09-03 10:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When subtlety doesn't work, just be honest. I just went through this with a co-worker, also. He kept nagging me about a question, I had told him "no" and when he asked for my reasons, I told him that I couldn't tell him in a way that wouldn't sound rude. But he continued to ask, so I gave him my reason, and yes, it was awkward for about a day, but he got over it and quit nagging me with his questions.
2006-09-03 10:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your problem to someone you trust and get them to make the point to this person. If that doesn't work - both of your together go on the 'attack' - some people just hear what they want to and it takes quite a blunt approach in the end.
2006-09-04 02:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him like it is. Stop him whenever he's making an *** of himself, and say, "No, you're wrong, this is what it is...."
We're kinda thick-headed, if that doesn't work hit him over the head with a frying pan, eventually it'll sink in.
2006-09-03 10:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by hfmgr06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just ignore him totally and don't make eye contact, when he finally asks what wrong, hit him with it by starting off in the vein of ; 'well seeing as how YOUR asking...blah blah blah
2006-09-03 10:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by geraldine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be totally honest and as diplomatic as you can. Imagine someone telling you something you didn't know or didn't want to hear. try and save his feelings if you can - it will make telling him much easier.
2006-09-03 10:14:41 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
put it in writing to your boss or manager. He may listen to them, before you, since I suspect he is older than you.
2006-09-03 10:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spell it out for them.
2006-09-03 10:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋