Why do boys always ask why do you have to wait to get married to have sex I think u guy can wait?

Question

sex

Answer 1

i'm 19 and a guy, and i'm virgin by choice.

“Some teens think it's really lame to wait, but a sexual relationship is special, unique and worth waiting for. It should be just as acceptable to wait for sex.”

—Nicky, 22, Greeley, CO from Sex, Etc.


It's pretty obvious that the only way to avoid dealing with sh** like AIDS, or all of a sudden thinking you need to kill your baby, is by simply not having sex unless you're married to the guy or girl. It's a no-brainer. One of the biggest reasons people get married to pretty much say to everyone "hey, guess what? I'm commited to this person to love, care, and be there, and when we decide to make babies, we're gonna be ready for it, in every way - not just the physical condom stuff." So much for your dumbass boyfriend ditchin' you for being pregnant. Not happening if you're married to the guy.

"Oral sex is risky. You can't get pregnant, but almost every serious STD can be transmitted through this type of sexual activity. Oral sex is just as intimate as intercourse, it has the same emotional repercussions, and can have the same detrimental effects on relationships if it is entered into lightly."

Ya gotta know a few interesting facts:

1 in 4 teens having sex get Venerial Disease (VD), including AIDS.

About one million teen girls get pregnant every year.

The U.S. has the highest rate of teen pregnancy, birth, and abortion in the "civilized" world.

Less than 33% of teen moms graduate

Around 20,000 young people get AIDS each year, which means that two young Americans aged 13 to 24 get HIV every hour.

Two-thirds of the 12 million Americans with Venerial Disease are younger than 25.


So here are some tips to try:

"Always go with your gut feeling. If things start to get a little “hot,” tell your partner “No.” If you need to, walk away from the situation. If he wines about it, feel free to dump him.

Avoid difficult circumstances, like being home alone with your partner. Be together with other friends or in public places.



Think about chosing to always have your bedroom door open when you and your partner are alone in there



Chose to never make out lying down, maybe? It's worth the try

Always communicate your feelings to your partner (or future partners). Make sure he/she knows upfront you want to wait until you’re married.

Write down the most important reasons you want to wait, and have them ready in your mind. Jot down the pros and cons of having sex, even with using a condom (the way most teens use condoms - which is hardly ever 100% as directed, protects you only 60% of the time, and at the most around 80%, which explains why you prob'ly see so many pregnant girls in your high school; 40% of you won't get pregnent or catch a VD, 100% will) When hormones “rage,” say to yourself, “Sure, I’m tempted to have sex, but even more than that I want to wait because…”

Always remember you have made an important decision for yourself. Don’t let anyone try to talk you out of it. Be proud of your decision. "


I'd hate to sound vulgar, but if you think you need sex real bad, use a replacement. A vibrator, finger, or hand rubbed between your legs should make you feel satisfied until you get married. It's not gross (try it in the shower or bathtub), perfectly normal and OK, won't make you go blind, and is safe from any risk of getting pregnant or catching Venerial Disease. The only "protection" you need when playing there is guarding against "impure" thoughts. Whatever you do, don't feel guilty: you aren't doin' anything wrong.
Here's a thought: how the heck are two virgins (who don't inject drugs) and marry each other gonna end up dyin' of AIDS or scratching themselves for the rest of their lives (Venerial Disease give you stuff like mind boggling pain (talk about gettin' kicked in the balls), crazy itching, loss of your chance to ever have kids in the future, and, ofcourse, death)? Donated blood is always screened for AIDS these days, so obviously there's nothing to be afraid of if you decide to stay a virgin 'till you marry.

Trust me, it's up to you to decide if it's worth it. "If in doubt, don’t. Many people later look back and regret sexual involvement [before marriage]. Very few regret having waited."

laci Says:
April 30th, 2004 at 10:41 am
I PERSONALLY THINK ABSTINENCE IS A GREAT IDEA! IM STILL A VIRGIN AND IM 17 YEARS OLD, AND I DONT CONSIDER MYSELF TO BE A DORK! I HAVE FUN AND KNOW HOW TO HAVE A GOOD TIME WITHOUT HAVING TO HAVE SEX!I LOVE MY LIFE AS IT IS AND I WOULDNT TRADE FOR THE WORLD! I HAVE A SPECIAL GIFT OF PURITY TO GIVE TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND! NOW AS FOR THE REST OF U WHO WROTE THOSE RUDE COMMENTS I FEEL SORRY FOR YOU B/C U’LL NEVER GET A CHANCE TO EXPERIENCE THAT PURE INTIMACY WITH YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND/WIFE!

lauren williams Says:
May 7th, 2004 at 3:49 pm
I agree with laci! I’m 21 and still a virgin and proud of it. I have a boyfriend of almost 2 yrs. we are getting married and decided not to have sex until then. It’s not easy because of my own wants and the culture we live in. But let me tell you all it’s one of the best gifts to give the one you marry. I also have christ and family/friends to help me. Being a virgin does mean you are a dork. It means you are a wise person. One of my friends I knew since high school is a virgin and is beautiful inside and out. (She looks like janet jackson). Futhermore, people who knew of my virginity especially the guys respected me. And if you have already had sex, stop and wait till you get married. Waiting to have sex until marriage,will allow for a better sex life. You may not get it right the first couple of times, but you have “until death do us part” to get it right!

lauren williams Says:
May 7th, 2004 at 3:52 pm
being a virgin does not mean you’re a dork! (sorry)

Daniel Says:
May 14th, 2004 at 4:21 pm
I have to agree with the list being stupid, but making fun of it is not going to support abstinance. I agree with the last few comments about marriage. I can have sex whenever, but never again can you become a virgin - it’s a one way trip. I am 20 and a virgin, and will savor my marriage.

Amber Says:
September 3rd, 2004 at 6:44 pm
I’m 18 and will stay a virgin until my wedding night. That is my gift to my husband and no other man but him.

DeannaBelle Says:
August 8th, 2005 at 12:16 am
I have many friends from all walks of life. And I promise you, the ones who understand and practice abstinence are the happiest. It’s the ones who don’t who suffer, male and female.

I’ve been with my boyfriend a total of four years now, over a 5-year time period, and we are both virgins. It’s not easy, but with things of value comes hard work.

What is marriage? Why do we need it anyway?



The ultimate common sense definition and explanation:



Sex is for marriage; marriage is for sex.





Essentially, in its most successful model, and for it to play the most positive, purposeful role in society as a whole, marriage is a certification, registration, and proclamation that



1. A man & a woman intend on having sex

2. The man intends on doing everything he can to take care of, protect, respect, value, love the woman;

3. The man and woman certify & register for a potential family, and commit to learning all they can and doing their very best to raise that family in a nurturing environment.

4. The woman commits to taking a comforting, nurturing, life-giving role in the family, while relying on the security and provision of the man



Marriage essentially guarantees clean and secure environments and practices within the home. For example: it is next to impossible for two lovingly married heterosexual virgins, who have lived otherwise responsible lives, to engage in marriage-related activities such as oral & vaginal sex, & have such activity result in a crisis pregnancy, physical or emotional damage, or Venereal Disease such as HIV/ AIDS. Marriage is the ultimate and only guaranteed "Protection" and the only “Safe Sex” (Planned Parenthood can no longer call teenage sex “safe sex”, because they know it isn't safe, and now opt for the term “safer sex”.)



The new word for real, true marriage (i.e. as aforementioned) - as the definition of marriage evolves within Western society during the 21st century - is "Unification". This is made to contrast the gradual shift of marriage being solely for heterosexuals, to being solely for homosexuals, and eventually becoming inclusive to bisexuals, polygamists, swingers, buggers, prostitutes, pedophiles, and incestuous relationships.



Civil unions are simply registrations for cohabitation or intimate interaction of any two or more persons, with the expectations of possible sexual or otherwise intimate activity; as contrasted with real marriage. Interdependent partners should all have the same legal rights (opposite-sex couples, same-sex couples, or interdependent relationships such as a person caring for an elderly parent), as should all human beings.

Answer 2

Because guys are horny. It's not so much the waiting, but the idea that they cannot have you that drives them mad. It's also a belief thing. Most guys don't understand why you would want to wait. I'm one of those guys, but at the same time I can respect a girls decision. It might mean I will move on (you can call that shallow, or me going with what I believe in), but I think that being physically compatible with someone is a big part of a relationship. True there are many factors, but that is still one of them. Why do you think guys cheat? It's mostly because they do not feel satsified with some aspect of their relationship. I'm not saying it's right, I'm just saying.

Answer 3

My dad always said, "a guy will screw a rock pile if he thought there was a snake in it." Guys will say anything to have sex. But a guy worth having and thinks you're worth waiting for, will wait. A guy that won't wait, has but the importance on his having sex versus what's good for you.

Answer 4

you've been seeing the wrong guys. there are some of us, though few and far between it seems, who really rather hold off on sex until everything else in life is in place. If I were to get a girl pregnant at this age, my life would instantly be turned upside down. I wouldn't want to ruin my life, but I defiantly wouldn't want to ruin her life.

Answer 5

It depends on the guy. Because u have the ones that just want one thing. But their are ones that will wait.

Answer 6

Yes,we can.I waited 39 yrs till marriage.

Answer 7

Guys think of sex 24/7 (exaggeration), but it's close enough...I guess they can't help it (I'm not a guy, how should I know?) or do they like being horny?.

Answer 8

The real answer is they do not have to carry the baby or want to have the responsibilities of being married.

Answer 9

You don't have to wait, but it isn't a good idea to sleep with a lot of people and catch a disease, either. It's up to you.

Answer 10

your are right we can wiat,and we should. there are good reasons to wait but we are compleld. so be merciful to us when we plead and beg. there are the scum who give the rest of us a bad rep, watch out for them.

Answer 11

they are just trying to talk you into having sex, you hold off as long as you want to you will be a lot happier