My little sister is obsessed with this cute guy from her English class, but he just recently committed suicide, and he was a cutie. But her whole life is going down hill since it happened (Aug. 13). She is so depressed, her grades are going down, and her eating habits and relationships are suffering as well. We have had lots of heart-to-hearts, and she does open up to me alot, but she isn't improving. What can I do to help her?
2006-09-03 09:36:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pray to God for help. Then try to keep telling her that he is in a better place now and he is happy. But also tell her that I know he wants u to be happy. and it will hurt alot Cause i know the feeling she is feeling. but the only way I know how to handle it is by praying and asking for help. But I remember one thing my aunt told me. We are on this earth for a short peroid of time. she have to make the best of it. That helped me to get over the fact that my step dad is died and i know he is in a better place. and he would want me to be happy not sad. So, wat i had to do is stoping trying to beat myself over it.
Listern to wat is important. he was with me to the end. and I will always remember that. So Keep trying to talk to her and she will probably open up r talk to a minster about this. but pray to God about the situation. God bless u. You will be in my prays for now on. Cause if i know i can get over someone dieing then i know she can. But be strong and pray to God.
2006-09-03 09:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very close friend of mine went through this in high school. Her ex boyfriend who had joined the navy was killed by a drunk driver. She was a wreck for a long time. It's good to talk to your sister. That's exactly what she needs right now, and it sounds like you are doing just fine helping her. She will probably start to need space after awhile, and spend time alone. When this happens, just keep an eye on her. One day, she'll wake up and the sky will be sunny again, she'll start to laugh, and feel good about the wind on her face. Everything will be ok. :) Time may not heal, but it makes dealing with things not seem so bad.
All the best
Rivka
2006-09-03 16:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a really tough situation and so sad and painful. she probably thinks she could have done something.
you are doing something by talking to her and letting her how much you care.
you should tell her that she should live well in his honor and to try to find things that he liked and dedicat something of that nature in his name. tell her to name a star after him, you can sign up for that and find it and look up and see it everynight, something that will last much longer than anyone of us. let her know that the fact that he touched her so deeply makes a lasting effect on the world and for her to carry forth her feelings and try to help other people live, love and find happiness so they do not end up with the same problem he had.
take her somewhere....maybe she needs to get away so it's not in her face everyday. but most of all you have to just stick close for as long as it takes, time is probably the only healer, but you can and are helping.
don't give up, and reach out for more professional help if she slips the wrong direction.
you are a wonderful sibling, she couldn't handle this without you:)
2006-09-03 16:42:49 · answer #3 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to get your little sister some professional help. You could always go to her school counselors, and have a talk with them. She needs immediate help. Don't let her behavior continue to go down hill. It is critical that you maintain to close relationship with your sister. Always be there for her. Right now she probably feels alone, but re-ensure her, that you are there for her. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-09-03 16:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this guy had a lot of emotional problems. There is nothing she can do about this except find a type of closure. Maybe she could talk to friends are get into groups of therapy were people have lost love ones. Get her to take walks and get her into activities. This is the best way to beat depression.
2006-09-03 16:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue what you are doing honey. She's mourning a loss and blaming herself for not being able to do something for this guy to help. Gradually take her out more and more. Maybe start with lunch at her favorite resturant, or bowling...that's always lots of laughs. Little by little she'll start to come around, but be patient, it's going to take time.
2006-09-03 16:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters tell your parents about it. Its their job to find help for her, and then, just be there when she needs someone to talk to. However, her grades can't be going down, since its only been 2 weeks, so don't over-exaggerate the issue.
2006-09-03 16:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've done what you can, I'd consider seeking professional help. She is at such a vulnerabe age, this could definitely have a lasting effect on her. Good luck!
2006-09-03 16:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by gwencristel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she could have bereavment counciling, or how about getting her out swimming or doing things to take her mind off it for short while, they say time is a healer, and it can be a long time, see a dr too. go for walks, the park, c a film, family holiday.
2006-09-03 16:49:59 · answer #9 · answered by leigha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a school psycologist that is available to deal with these things.
Get her to see one ASAP. I have heard of situations where girls like her will commit suicide as well. Please don't let this go untreated.
2006-09-03 16:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋