Why do guys always wish for nice girls but when a really nice one comes along, they're not interested?

Question

I reallly like this guy, have shown him I'm interested in him. I am a really nice person - caring , honest, beautiful, great body, simple person, make him laugh a lot, he really enjoys my company.. etc. I've seen him looking at my boobs, and he likes to hold my waist. I've known him for like 4 months now. But we just hang out and that's it. He hasnt asked me out on a real date even once. Why? He had 2 bad relationships where the girls were mean and dishonest to him - even more reason why he should be attracted to me, or want to date me.. right? And I dont see any signs of him wanting to go in that direction either. Why?? It's kinnda frustrating. Please help me understand this side of men.
Please include your age with your answer. I'm 25.

Answer 1

From experience I would say I think he is just taking it slower with you and don't be discouraged if this is meant to be he will be worth the wait and I no how hard it is to wait but so guys take a little longer than others and he may have cold feet because of past relationships but I am sure he will get there just be Patience and wait it out don't rush him all ppl need time to heal after bad relationships!!!!! i have had light crushes and deep hurt from past relationships so I know how had it is I finally have that perfect relationship but it took 24 years to get him!!!! and he was still worth the wait check out my 360 page for more incite on my story!!! or some of my other answers to questions!!! any way I
Good luck with this guy and I hope all works out for the both of you!!!

Answer 2

Well, as you said: you make him laugh a lot, he looks at your boobs, and he likes to hold your waist. He's also been your "friend" for 4 months now. Obviously he likes you to some extent. He's told you about his bad relationships too...

None of this means that he doesn't want to date you. If you want him, maybe you should be more aggressive. Might I make the point that you obviously hang out with him somewhere? So what is it you really want? A commitment? It's only been 4 months. Do you want intimacy? Make a move. Have you told him how much you like him?

When your a teenager everbody's so quick to fall in love. I try to make friends with a girl. Not because I'm scared to ask for more. Yet because I really don't have time for a girlfriend. I have to finish school and get a real job. Plus being broke makes me insecure as hell. So I just make friends with women.

Now he might not have those problems, but as a guy (and I'm sure for girls as well), it's always a good idea to have 3-4 people at least. There's always the one you want, but you can't always be with them.

So much of who we like is just played on imagination. You have to wonder, if he were more straight forward with you and easier to get, would you still like him so much?

Anyway, just tell him you like him.

p.s. I'm 24, almost 25

Answer 3

I"m 29 and there could be a lot of things going on so have a seat
a) he doesn't want to lose what you have right now. a la if it aint broke why fix it.
b) he may be insecure. you may think that you have shown interest but we can be pretty dense sometimes.
c) he may not think he's good enough for you. sometimes a good guy may be so down on himself after being mistreated he'll convince himself he's not worthy.
d) he sees you as a keeper and may not be ready to settle down, he might want to get all his "partying" done before slows down.
e) just because a guy isn't good in talking to girls don't assume he's gay. he does seem to have some issues though.
Good luck, you seem like a quality gal and he's lucky to have a quality gal pursuing him. take your time. you have all the time in the world to fall in love and have a great relationship. no need to rush things or force the issue.
..you don't have a cousin or something that's also caring honest beautiful, funny and has a thing for guys in uniforms do ya

Answer 4

Well you did say he had 2 bad relationships in the past!That could possbily be the reason why he hasn't asked you out in fear that you may turn against him, like his previous ex.Maybe he likes you but is afraid to open up.Sit down and have a honest and open coversation about where the two of you stand.Ask him if he is aiming to have somthing long term with you ,or are you both just friends and nothing more? Good luck.

Answer 5

Well, I'm only 17, but I can tell you he likes you. I think he is afraid of something going wrong, like in his past relationships, and does not want to ruin the friendship. I would say ask him out, and get the ball rolling yourself. But by the way, looking @ your boobs doesn't mean anything, we look at all girls.

Answer 6

I'm 30. It's just the fact that guys are more interested in looks. Not all men are superficial. But if you don't look like Hugh Hefner's girlfriends, or any of those boob-showing women in the movie "Crank", then they don't want to be bothered with you know matter how nice you are.

I know not all men like that (actually, the genuinely decent men are NOT like that), but man, I'm talking according to my past experience. Check this out: I payed for the movie and dinner Friday night. My man was saying "Yeah!" whenever Eve (the movie was Crank) bent over (I know he was checking out Amy Smart's butt) and when her boobs were exposed. He claims that personality is what matters to him, but if that's the case, then why the h-ll he needed to look at other women and fantasize about them when he has me! And I flipped the bill on dates more than him, and I never complained. I rubbed his back all the time, but been forever since he rubbed mine. I'm seriously thinking about dumping him for someone better. Shoot, I even packed a lunch for him twice recently, and drove him to work a couple times, and I live close to AN HOUR away from him. I left home 5 in the morning. But that's alright; next time I see him I'm going to tell him a guy made a pass at me at the bar last night, and I'd be telling the truth! I'll tell him this guy told me I was hot. My boyfriend never called me hot.

Then, you get guys who complain about women being nothing but trouble, but when they get a good one, instead of APPRECIATING her, he wants to use her for freakin' sex! And don't want to please her in bed on top of it! And he wants to look at naked women no matter how good you been to him.

Please forgive my lack of mannerism, and for all you decent men out there, please forgive my talk.

Answer 7

im 28. Speaking form experience, when a guy gets hurt it's hard to get over it. Especially if he put his faith in either or both the women that did him wrong. If he's taking his time its not a game..he just needs to come to terms with his past and determine if he wants to try again. He'll figure out he cant blame you for his past and if hes worth it you should be patient.

Answer 8

I am 31. It is just a guy game. I really wish people wouldn't play games. I do believe he is being honest and really doesn't want to get hurt. So he is putting up a front. I suggest that you let him know your interested in him but your not going to hold on to him if he doesn't show interest back.

Answer 9

A little older than you......It's the same when a girl says that want a nice guy. The problem is that phrase isn't complete. They both want a nice girl/guy, that is also HOT!!!!!!!!!. Problem is that extremely HOT people are seldom nice. Nice takes effort and and HOT people don't have to put forth that amount of effort to attract someone.

Answer 10

Just because you are attractive, doesn't mean you're the best candidate to be his girlfriend. Maybe he likes you as a friend and that is it. Plus, you did say he had two previous relationships that weren't the best... this poor guy isn't ready to be hurt again, and you can't guarantee it will last... can you?