I'm very upset...?

Question

my boyfriend and i live 2gether, but on the weekends he spends the night at his mom's because he don't have a
he don't have a car and where we live is too far for his friends to drive him home, therefore he stays the weekend at his mom's. How should i address this issue 2 him, because it's really bugging me. the weekends should be our quality time 2gether, but he feels he's with me 5 days a week. I need 2 put something on his mind. How would u handle a situation like this?

Answer 1

Seems to me you have a much deeper issue here. You are calling him your "boyfriend" and I think he thinks of you as his "room mate", For example, it's kind of nice during the week to come home from school/work and have someone to spend time with, but the week-end is for spending with people you really care about and have fun with. I mean, does he really go home and spend every week-end with Mom? That's kind of weird, OR does he go home to spend time with his old buds, whose company he prefers over yours!? Seriously, when you REALLY care about someone you do want to spend "quality time" with them, and it doesn't sound like you are that person for him. I don't mean you have to spend every second together, but if you are a couple then you should be included in at least part of his week-end. This "it's too far to drive back" excuse sounds really lame, especially every week-end.

Answer 2

To be honest I think that this is immature on his part and wrong on your part! Why live with a guy? This is something you should really reflect and think deeply about? Are you intending on marrying him or fearful of such a commitment? Most marriages don't last and living together first decrease the odds considerably. I think you need to get out on your home and let him move back to Mom's. Let him know that you are more than a shack up and when he is ready for the full commitment to let you know. Sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds!
I am not trying to be mean to you, I think however though you deserve the commitment! You being validated and shown this would help you feel better about the entire situation! This is just my opinion and I hope it is helpful! Good luck!

Answer 3

First of all, how does he get to his mom's house? Next, you should save up your money and so should he and buy a car for yourselves. Also, you don't have to spend every moment of every day with him, I think your being too clingy. If you tell him how your feeling, it might start an argument with him, depending on what kind of person he is.

Answer 4

If you have a car, go see him.

If the fact that he leaves you on the weekend is bothering you, go out and have fun with your friends. Go to a movie. Go camping without him.

If you feel like he is neglecting you, tell him that this issue needs to be fixed. If you feel like he is ignoring your pain, leave him.

Answer 5

gurl, give your man a time alone... you see sometimes the world is not just you and him.
if you want the weekends to spend quality time with, go with him to his moms house.

Answer 6

That doesn't sound right. Maybe he is using that as an excuse so he can go out and do other things with friends etc.
Personally I wouldnt' put up with it.

Answer 7

Sounds like he has other plans for his week-ends. All you can do is try and tell him how you feel. Good Luck

Answer 8

Well if you really want to spend time with him you could always just go with him.

Answer 9

He needs his alone time too

Answer 10

get a car