How to ask a woman out at her workplace, with co-workers around?

Question

How can I ask out a woman in her workplace, while her co-workers are around?

Basically, I have been buying some furniture pieces in a store and one of the women there has been (in my mind) sending me some signals (flirting). But, the problem is the woman is never alone ... there's another woman her/our age that always travels around the store with us if I ask questions (she may have an interest in me herself as well, I don't know).

Without the ability to get this woman alone, am I in a hopeless situation? Is there some sort of creative way to ask her out? I don't even know if this woman has a boyfriend (she is definitely not married), but nor do I really care ... I perceived her at least flirting with me and I see it as she should decline any invitation by me if that is indeed the case.

Thanks for any help!

Answer 1

call the store by phone and ask for the girl you like specifically and say that you have a question about the furniture you bought or are going to by since you already established contact you want to speak directly to the sales person you know(the girl you like) and then when she answers tell her you'd like to know if you can see her outside of work like for a cup of coffee or something like that, have a place in mind and time ready in case she says ok. if she is not interested she'll tell you. they might have just been friendly to make a sale. good luck.

Answer 2

If you've got solid game then it doesn't matter who is around her. You can isolate her anyway. You have to be delicate about it because she is in her work environment, so she has to be nice to you because that's part of her job. All you have to do is waive her over and say "Come here, I have a question to ask you." If another associate tries to come with her just be assertive and say, "No just her."

When she comes over you two are now alone. That's you opportunity to accuse her by saying the following:

"Listen I didn't want to say this in front of you co-workers, after all I don't want to get you in trouble...."

(Pause for effect)

Her: Uhm...ok, what's up?

You: Well, I noticed you watching me from afar and started feeling a little self-conscious. Then I realized something....

Her: What's that?

You: That while I think you have a great smile, I don't know anything about you. I suggest we get together for a drink or two and swamp some stories and great conversation.

Her: I dunno...I don't even know you.

You: And I don't know you. But here's the deal. Think about all your friends that you have.

Her: Ok

You: They weren't always your friends. At some point in time you had to reach out to them or they reached to you. So all I'm doing is reaching out......the worst scenario is that you've made a new friend who will introduce you to your future hubby......

Her: I normally don't go out with customers.

You: I agree. That's a good guideline to follow. I couldn't imagine going out with every woman that hit on me. I wouldn't have a job by now.

Her: (giggles) What kind of work do you do?

You: I'll tell you later. Let's just say I help people find what they're looking for. And no I'm not that guy on the beach with those metal detectors looking for gold or lost rolex watches.

Her: (giggles) You're strange.

You: I know, but in a good way. Anyways, I gotta go help a client find something now. Tell you what, here's my cell phone, type in your phone # in there, I'll call you in a couple of days, let's meet up for some drinks and if I think you're a stalker or too clingly then I'll have to let you down gently...whaddasay?

Her: (giggles) Your funny. Ok, but no calling me after 9pm.

You: I was going to tell you the same thing.


This was a real pickup that I did in a STAPLES office supply store. Of course, there was a lot more involved because she was behind the cash register, so talk about trying to get her to be by herself. I just waited for a lull in the action when I walked up to her and asked her to help me find something. She said she could call an associate to help me but I told her I was in a big hurry and would rather she show me since there was another cashier there.

If she could not get away I would have built up some attraction by playfully teasing and THEN I would have asked her for her phone # or email address. Any approach is better than NO approach.

Rod

Answer 3

I think you should send her some flowers at her job. That way it's as private as she wants it to be. She would know if her co-worker was the least bit into you, and that way, she can choose whether or not to tell her co-worker who they're from. Plus, women always like flowers, especially in front of other women co-workers.

Answer 4

here's one to try, if you can follow my line of questions:

"How late is the store open?" "Wow, you have to work that late on a Friday night? That sucks." "Oh, you get done earlier. Eight? That's cool." "Me, I've got some things to get done at the store, then I'm actually heading back near here - did you know that Bonefish has the BEST bang bang shrimp appetizer? Have you tried it?" "No? You've got to try it. I insist. Come meet me next door at Bonefish after work - you'll love their shrimp!" "Eight, right?" "Here's my cell phone number, in case you end up working late or something."

If you want both (or either) of them, spin the conversation that direction and see who shows up. Worst case, you end up with a nice glass of wine and a good shrimp appetizer or two on your own. Not a terrible loss, right?

Answer 5

First of all you were right.That was a flirt from her!!!You better be live it was a good motive behind it.Let her know you have a special place where they make the best burger's in town and you need her opinion on it and if she thinks she can do better have her take you to her Best Burger Joint.

Answer 6

OH my gosh, feel deep down and get the courage to ask her in front of her co workers and or friends you have a much better chance of succeeding if you show that you have balls enough to show emotion in front of a bunch of women.

Answer 7

If this woman wanted to be alone with you to pursue your advances, believe me she'd ditch the coworker. "Flirting," in this case is probably just part of her sales pitch. Enjoy your new furniture.

Answer 8

Slip her your phone number, or email address, or call her on the telephone. and ask her out for dinner, that is a start. or you could have some fun, and send her a yellow rose, no name, and say from an admirer.

Answer 9

Not hopeless. Do you have a business card? Write your personal number on it and pointedly hand it to her and ask if she'd call.

Answer 10

Ask her for a phone number