2006-09-03 08:24:35 · 9 answers · asked by imjustasteph 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Incidentally, the kids in question are a 12yo girl with whom I have almost no problems and a 5yo boy who considers me to be invisible. I have been in their life since the boy was only 3 months old.
Examples: I say don't run in the house, he runs right past. I say no toys in the livingroom, he ducks around the corner and waits for me to be busy and brings in more toys, this morning he had my own (4yo) son ask me if they could have popsicles, when I said no, he ordered my son to ask his dad instead. Later he was yelling to his dad (who was next door at my mil's house) asking if he could come down there. His dad couldn't hear him over the log-splitter they were running. I come out and told him no. He waited until I went in and started yelling again. I went out and told him to stop yelling (I had just put my 5 month old down for a nap) and that he couldn't bc of the log-splitter. Once again, he waited until I went inside and started yelling again. His dad doesn't seem 2 mind.
2006-09-03 13:51:01 · update #1
I'm unsure has if this is a step-parent asking this question, or if this is a parent asking, because of whatever reason.
But by law a step-parent has no right, but they can talk to their husband/wife about the kids and insist on something.
But I personally, believe an adult is an adult and a child is an child and if the parent isnt going to correct the behavor then you have a serious prob.
A step-parent can sit a child in time out or what not its no different than a babysitter. It just might be a little harder to get them to listen, but remember children need to repect adults. For example, when they get a job are they going to tell the boss they can't write them up because they aren't their mommy/daddy.
But personally why would you want to waste your useful time with a kid that isnt yours unless it is wrecking your relationship?
And if they are wrecking your relationship then it is time to confront your husband/wife about this situation and take step dont be ran over, if they wont do anything to the kids then dont take that because you deserve better.
Since when did children run the world?
Also if you are a step-parent this means you are married to their father/mother so in your house that you both share and work to pay the bills I believe the children should mind both, because this means that the two adults are in a loving and understanding about each other and it would set a kind of family setting. Respect is the key word.
Also a step-parent shouldnt go out of her way to punish the kid, after all why do they care if it isnt theirs unless it is hurting something of their property?
2006-09-03 08:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by mellow_26241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you have been in the child's life. if you have been in the kids life since a very young age the will have more respect for your authority. If they are older discipline should only come from the biological parents. You and the biological parent should set ground rules as to were you stand in this part of the kids lives. You don't want to over step any lines said or unsaid so these things should definantly be discussed. The kids should also be made aware of where you stand in their lives as well. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 16:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by lschuler22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience not much.. Because it's all about in my case my husband and his ex-girlfriend. It could be a problem depending on what type of parent the ex-girlfriend is...
You do not have control and no say in anything.. the only control I had was insists on not babysitting. Because I felt like I was being used by both parents.. So I put my foot down and said that I am not doing it...
2006-09-03 15:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only "rights" you have is to WRITES THE CHECKS
I've been saying that for 14 years...it gets better, wait til the kid(s) **18**
2006-09-03 15:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
last thing you want to do is to be a parent to a step-child. they do know who their parents are and they will use the "you're not my mom/dad" card on you. so technically, you have no right as a parent. but you do have a right as an adult giving advice to a kid.
2006-09-03 15:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by mymymissmai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i am a step mom and i have no writes just like you dont becouse the kids arent ours nor are they ever going to be so do what i do just site back and whatever happens happpens
2006-09-03 17:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by sweetthang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have legally adopted the child you have the same rights as any other parent.
If you have not you have none.
There is no in-between.
2006-09-03 15:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by malcy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read this quick!
There are also other resources to check out on this site as well.
http://familytlc.net/step_parenting.html
2006-09-03 16:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by Sue_Render_Urself_2Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to the real parent if you're having problems with your step-child, they should be able to get more results
2006-09-03 15:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by Keith H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋