I was at an office the other day, finishing up some business, and the secretary wouldnt accept my paper work. I understood that there were some issues in the work that were yet to be settled out. I told her that the guy I was giving it to would know what to do, I was confident of that. But she wouldnt take it. And I guess i got very frustrated and got very sarcastic and rude to her. I now look back at that and feel very guilty. She did not deserve it because she was just doing her job. But, should I go back and apologize? or would that just unnecessarily dig back up the experience and just make things worst? I understand how wrong it was for me to speak to her that way, so what would be best? would it be best for me to just leave it in the past?
2006-09-03 08:18:36 · 14 answers · asked by katechaos34 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Apologizing in any such situation not only makes you a better person, but makes you look better in the eyes of who you have offended, but most of all apologizing is a wonderful freeing gesture that will feel wonderful to YOU.
No rose, box of chocolates, bouquet is necessary. Just look her in the eye and speak sincerely. You needn't elaborate to the point of making her uneasy, but tell her you feel badly, and realize that no one deserves to be spoken to in that manner.
I'm proud of you for even thinking of apologizing in these indifferent times!
2006-09-03 11:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would apologize. First, you know you should, so you'll feel better if you do. Second, you may have to deal with this woman again and wouldn't it be better if that last encounter weren't hanging over your head. Third, she could tell others that are in authority over you about your actions and you would look bad. I'd go apologize. Hopefully, she will be nice and accept it. If she doesn't, just walk away knowing that you did the right thing. Don't let yourself get upset and say something else that will make things worse. Most likely, she'll understand. We've all had bad days at work.
2006-09-03 11:12:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just leave it alone, you should've thought about it before being so verbally abusive to her, you should've finished the paper work, it wasn't her fault, people such as yourself with such lack of manners and principals, that only want to get their way, leave a lot to be desired and you'd just look like a jerk no matter what you do, once the venom has been spilled, well, it is over. Next time don't treat people like that especially a woman, it feels absolutely awful, I don't know why these women just take it, I know I don't and never will.
Whenever you say something so rude to someone like that, it can never be taken back. You just don't go there. And, after all you are finished with your business correct? Then just leave it alone, it won't mean anything to her anyhow.
2006-09-03 08:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should I go back and apologize? I got very frustrated and got very sarcastic and rude to her. I now look back at that and feel very guilty. She did not deserve it because she was just doing her job. I understand how wrong it was for me to speak to her that way. You answered your own question, Yes.
2006-09-03 08:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom was a secretary, working in a government building and had to deal with all kinds of people all day. She would come home every night and talk about different people who came in with different attitude towards her, she would remember most of them for a long time and talk about them.
I think you should go back and apologize just to let her know she had some significant in you life and you have not forgot about her.
2006-09-03 08:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kamran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repair the damage, and let her know it is normally out of your character to act that way.Send her a box of chocolates, or a non-descript flower arrangement in a coffee mug, with a note of apology. This might help you the next time you have to go in that office. People tend to listen to their secretaries, and if you treated her badly, she may pass it on to her boss.
2006-09-03 08:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An apology is never out of order. Just to sweeten it, take in a rose and give it to her, as you apologize and tell her you were up tight about the job but shouldn't have taken it out on her.
2006-09-03 08:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would apoligize. i used to work customer service at a ski resort. sometimes people can get very nagry and fustrated about things i cant change. but they take it out on me anyways. those day r always the hard, long days. i think she would apprieciate the sentiment and make her feel better about herself. even though i couldnt change the rules for the angry customers, i wanted to help and felt bad. she might feel better some too. i think it would make u feel better too.
if half the people came back and apolized, i would have been very grateful.
2006-09-03 08:33:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying to send her a letter of apology to the workplace, but address it to her. That way, you can apologize without having to say it face-to-face.
2006-09-03 08:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize in the same manner you created the offense..face to face!
2006-09-03 08:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋