I mean, it's dwindled down to just texts, but I love our lovemaking and we are so good at it, why waste it and why risk having sex with someone else? I don't know her feelings about it though.
2006-09-03 08:10:22 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ah, age old question..well, your feelings sound natural, you have a connection with this woman, comfort level, sexually it makes sense to want to be with her. here is the potential problem: it distracts you from moving on, both letting go and finding others you may be more compatible with in the future when you're ready for that. also, sex with an old lover can keep either of you or both of you attached, and usually, if you broke up, there was a healthy reason for the decision. i can feel your dilemma, remember, choices have consequences, sometimes you gotta look at the bigger picture, as hard as that can be. good luck!
2006-09-03 08:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've just experienced this situation, we were 2gether 4 a year - great sex, we broke up 4 various reasons, mostly 2 HUGE lies/secrets, we remained just friends, she got w/ another guy, 3 months later they broke up - he moved away & we started a sexual friends w/ benefits relationship, he came back 5 mo.'s later & tried 2 get back w/ her while we continued 2 have sex, after 2 mo.'s of that she got back w/ him we stopped, now 4 mo.'s later we r still friends (no sex still ) & they have been at each other's throats 4 the past month, Do u really want all that ?
2006-09-04 00:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by mr.e_mess79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and see how she feels. But eventually having the "benefits" without the relationship may cause problems for you too. Good Luck!
2006-09-03 15:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Annieo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So in other words you just want to use her for sex?
Did I get that right?
Which woman in her right mind would accept something like that? I know, I would not!!
2006-09-03 15:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....but kind of rude and mean to her...unless you both want a just friends with benefits kinda thing....sometimes people are better off that way!! :) GOOD LUCK
2006-09-03 15:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by carebarri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would talk to her about it first, but I see nothing wrong with it if you both feel the same way.
2006-09-03 15:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by disco_stud61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha, ha. It sounds like you want your cake and eat it too.
Hey if she's dumb enough to go for it, yeah. The only thing is you got to accept the consequences.
2006-09-03 15:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by callahan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pshhh... my ex did the same thing after he broke up with me he kept inviting me over his house and kept making moves on me i didnt like that cause all ur just doing is using her as a se'x buddy.
2006-09-03 15:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by becca . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex with the ex is always the best!!
2006-09-03 15:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by rn.student 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful with this one. She could percieve it as something else!!!
2006-09-03 15:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋