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My mom and I always fight about guys because she says that 14 is too young to be going out. I think that as long as I know my personal boundries that I should be able to date.

My last bf was 15 1/2 and she flipped out.

Am I being unreasonable or are her rules too strict?

2006-09-03 08:09:03 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health Other - Health

57 answers

Depends on what you mean by going out and dating.

If by dating you mean just going to movies and G-rated stuff like that, that's fine.

Anything beyond that, you're too young. And you should really try to only look in your approximate age range; there are a lot of pervs out there.

2006-09-03 08:10:48 · answer #1 · answered by micky_baxter 2 · 2 2

As a mother of 5 girls, the oldest being 15, I can understand your mother. However, I do let my girls 'go out' with boys. I make sure that I know where they are and normally there is an adult. I will drop them off at the movies and pick them up later. I have a rule in my house though. You say he is 15 1/2 years old and you are 14. Being the mother of several teenagers I'm thinking you may have just turned 14 and he may be ready to turn 16. In which case, I think there is a big difference in age there. BTW just because you know your personal boundaries doesn't mean that he does or that, especially at your age, you will be able to maintain them. Just my opinion.

2006-09-03 08:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by sweesweetsheila 1 · 2 1

It totally depends. When I was 14 I was in tenth grade. Most of the kids in my grade were fifteen. Since I was double promoted in like 1st grade or something like that I am used to being around older people.I was always more mature than most kids becuase my mom and I talked about life and peer pressure(you know, the basics) So shee built up a trust with me and I would never do anything to lose her trust. But at 14 you should be focusing on school and not so much on going out. You have the rest of your life to date. With all these teen pregnancies and stds ( I know your not talking up is it time to have sex but let's be real.When the issue of dating comes up sex is not to far behind.) So I think you should just hang out with friends and enjoy life as your young. I'm not old or old-fashioned either.I am only 16.

2006-09-03 08:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Sorry, but Yes, 14 is too young.
Your mom knows what she's talking about,
even though you don't want to accept it.
Go out as a group with friends. If there's a boy you like there,
talk to him but don't go someplace to be alone.
That's too tempting and you'll end up doing exactly what
your mom says not to!
I'm glad YOU know your boundaries, but that doesn't mean all guys will respect them once you're alone with him. Be careful and listen to your mom.
She sounds pretty smart to me.
Good Luck, Sweetie. : )

2006-09-03 08:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mary* 5 · 3 0

Normally, at this age your Mother begins to worry about you going out and perhaps overstepping into those boundries, especially if the boy is old and more experienced. Talk with your Mother on an honest, open, and intelligent way. Explain to her that you know how to behave like a lady. Have her set a curfew and make sure you adhere to this. In fact, be a bit early if possible. Or, if it makes her happier, invite the boy over to your house a few times, so your Mother can see first hand that you do know how to behave. And, more importantly don't ever rush into a relationship.

2006-09-03 08:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by skyeblue 5 · 3 0

14 is way too young. I know you are curious about boyfriends but your mother is right.

TRUST ME when You are 25 (which may seem like old age, but it's just the begining) you will wish that you had lived your childhood just enjoying life. Once you become an adult you lose a lot of freedom. Trust me the freedom you have now, ENJOY IT. It will last till 18, and then there will be more freedom when you are in college. After that, you will become burdened with responsibilites.
have fun!!

2006-09-03 08:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by Centered 4 · 1 0

Hon, you are too young to be even thinking about dating. At your age you should focus on just having fun. Don't complicate your life. In due time, you will have to deal with boys and the problems that come with them. Concentrate on school. Enjoy your favorite sport or hobby. Your mom is not too strict. She sounds like a good mother to me.

2006-09-03 08:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by dimples 2 · 5 0

yes my dear its too young. if you like this guy so much. what you could do is just say you both are friends. do one thing at a time. right now education is important. so be the best buddy to your 'boyfriend' have study dates. and quiz dates. and be the best student as a couple. carry your duty as a good student as well as daughter make your mom not only proud but trust you that you can make a good decision. take care dear all the best to you and your dearest ''boyfriend'' buddy. i wish you and your ''buddy'' a long and lasting releationship both as a friend and hopefully forever. :) make your mom proud girl.

2006-09-03 08:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ lavender baby ♥ 4 · 2 0

There is a reason that parents do what they do, that is because they were once in your shoes. Believe it or not, parents use to be kids. Use what they give you as guidance to avoid the mistakes that they made. When they were your age they also thought they knew what was best for them but found out the hard way that they were wrong. Live your life for you but take the guidance of those who have walked your path before you. Your parents gave you life and only want you to become the best that you can.

2006-09-03 08:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Well at least you know she does care about you. It would all depend on your surroundings and what not but you do not to being dating so early because it is a dangerous world out there but just wait your still young and have a long life ahead of you still.

2006-09-03 08:12:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

14 is not to young to go out with friends. to be one on one with a guy at your age is ok as long as your mature enough to understand that boys are stronger than girls and if they want to have sex you can not stop them. you can say no all you want but most guys will convince you that it's alright and that everybody is doing it and keep at you until either you give in or they take it anyway. until your ready and mature enough to handle this kind of pressure I'd keep my dating to groups only, less hassle

2006-09-03 08:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by sassywv 4 · 2 0

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