My boyfriend is childish and acts like a child. He also calls me nasty names like ****,*****, and a whore when he is angry at me. I've been with three other guys, all of them I dated from months to four years so I know I'm not a whore. I think he only does these because he's afraid I will cheat on him so he plays these mind games to keep me with him. I'm not attracted to him because of this and his childish behavior. He doesn't act like a man most of the time and acts like a class clown. Are any of you women attracted to the class clown type guys?
The real reason I asked is because I've been with one hideous guy and still was attracted to him, and before this was too horny to turn my boyfriends down when they asked for it. But I am actually turned off so much with my current boyfriend that I don't want to do it at all, even with other guys. Is this normal? Is it me? I want my sex drive back and I wonder if his guilt trip is the cause or if it is just me?
2006-09-03 08:05:40 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally I don't think you can sleep with someone if you don't respect them. And how can you respect a guy who talks to you like you are a piece of trash. He is obviously so insecure and emotionally immature that he try to put you down for one reason or another. Maybe like you said its because he's worried you will cheat on him so he tries to make you feel so crap about youself that you don't have the self esteem for it. You need to have a word with him because once he's got away with it once, well then he'll know that he can talk to you however he wants and you'll do nothing about it. Is it really worth being tret like this by someone who is supposed to care about you. Don't you deserve more. Its definitely not you though its just your feelings I suspect that are blocking you. Good luck hope you get it sorted.
2006-09-03 08:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should NEVER let a man disrespect you like that. If he doesnt treat you the way you deserve to be treated, then he doesnt deserve you! You should tell him that he is childish and it turns you off (maybe in a way that is worded better) and then maybe he'll do something about it. If he continues his ways, you DONT need him. You could jsut easily find another man to be with. Remember you should date people that make you happy, and by the sound of it he doesnt do anything for you. Im sure that you two are fine when you arent arguing, but your not attracted to him.
2006-09-03 08:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by baka_kittykat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell your boyfriend that you don't like being called those types of names. You should be straightforward and if he still doesn't get it or stop then there's something wrong in that guy's head. Dump him! If he's your "real" boyfriend, he would never even dream of putting you down with names like that.
2006-09-03 08:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's not a boyfriend!! He sounds like trouble and you should get out of there ASAP!!! If he's started with name calling, what's the next step? You deserve better and I'm sure you will find someone better after you get RID OF HIM. Guys like him give the rest of us a bad rap!!
2006-09-03 08:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by Porterhouse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, you should be dating 4-5 different guys
2006-09-03 08:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a loser and the only way he will ever change is to get worse.
Dump him and find somebody decent before he trashes all of your self-respect.
2006-09-03 08:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him! Anyone that called me those names would have their *** kicked to the curb!! There are plently of fish in the sea, it's not like you are married.
2006-09-03 08:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by meg515 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you see all of this, why are you still with him? Break up with him. He is obviously very insecure and that can be a definite turnoff!
2006-09-03 08:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Annieo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋