How many here have heard and follow the rule: If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all?

Question

We can debate and disagree politely, it is possible.

I am not superior to anyone but I do strive to be polite. I many fail from time to time but I do try.

I am not complaing about any post but I am tired of ALL insults to ALL people. Regardless of their faith or belief.

Answer 1

I would say about 75%, which is not enough for a public Internet forum such as this.
You make a good observation, but the responsibility rests more with the Answers staff than with the answerers, just like the responsibility for children's behavior until they know better is their parents.
Apparently, some of the adults here (even a few parents, ironically) are more like children.

Answer 2

Great question!
This reminds me of the 3 questions to ask yourself before speaking: I think it was something like.
Is it nice?
Is it hurtful?
Is it necessary?

Anyway, this isn't hard to live by but I think it depends on the circumstances and who I am dealing with. If an injustice is occurring than I am going to say whatever is necessary to get results. It may not be so nice:))

For most situations though, it's just a matter of speaking from the heart. I don't say hurtful things to people simply cuz I don't want them said to me. No one needs to remember a saying or quote for that. It just comes natural. The heart is pure so it's easy to speak from there but living in the head too much brings about regret for things said.

Answer 3

There is alot of "communicative tact" lacking , that gives me a similar weariness .. People either egotripping agenda platforming (more concerned for cults of self than the subjectmatters they claim) ... IMO an empty childish endeavour,pat them on the head and give them the occasional affirmations they seem to need .. Or worse, some just eschewing unmitigated bigotries ...
If I could make one suggestion to askers, it would be "ask what you genuinely are interested in opinions about" .. differences are fascinating, if you are "genuinely" open to them .. we can gain here from perspectives in other cultures, on the other side of the planet .. But when a question is more telling them an "ignorant presumption" about their culture or faith- why possibly would they wish to share their perspectives, when they enter prejudged?
On the lighter side, I love stuff that just purely appeals to humor, as IMO it detoxifies the atmosphere here sometimes ...

Answer 4

I have heard, I suppose we have all heard it as children. It is good advice but our parents neglected to inform us of one thing about that.. we human beings are emotional creatures. Logic and politeness only holds so far til something triggers emotion and it just lets go. We may not intend it but that is just how the human is built. I understand that and don't take anything personal on here... I'd much rather live with creatures of emotion than in a world where emotion doesn't exist.

Answer 5

I admit i'm not always very nice on the net especially when i feel like the askers aren't open to considering what i have to say and are attacking a set of presumptious and made up beliefs they label as my own . It gives me nothing to work with intellectually, and when that happens.....i get all worked up emotionally.
A lot of the rudeness you see here are the result of senseless provocation.
These folks aren't truly open minded, ....hard to give a sober response to em is how i feel.

Answer 6

I fear it may be impossible to stick to this rule 100% of the time. People need to say negative things sometimes. For example if a person was physically threatened by another and the victim successfully scared off the potential attacker by screaming “back off ************ or I’ll claw out your eyes”, this would technically not be a nice thing to say. However it did possibly saved the victim from harm. Screaming something “nice”, like “please don’t hit me, ill be your friend!” wouldn’t work so well.

Answer 7

***How many here have heard and follow the rule: If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all? ****

Ahahaha,
Now that's a really good one.
I've been told and heard that plenty of times.

Actually it is a blatantly obnoxious covert " Shut Up, I don't like what you are saying " type of comment, which i feel to be rude.

Thanks

Answer 8

I agree 100% But it is difficult sometimes, I must learn to put a gaurd in front of my mouth. But luckily Jesus is there to forgive us when we say something that was unnecessary. Not that I am saying so it is fine you can talk just like you please because God will forgive you. Good luck I hope you are more successfull with this than me hey.

Answer 9

Absolutly! You have a nice question. Now that also means if you apply it rigidly we all will be muslims soon. I am sure you know you do not want to to be ordered to convert but you are under the threat of death. what can be said that would be NICE.

Answer 10

Glad to see you are back. I have heard and do try to follow that, but sometimes my mouth gets the better or me and I do say that which I know I shouldn't.