i met this girl about 3 months ago. we finally got together about 2 weeks ago because i was in iraq. she is the most amazing girl that i have ever met and i have fallen so much in love with her. she likes me alot to but i know she does not love me. which is ok with me. the thing is she says that she wants to take things slow and i want more. i am waiting and waiting patiently and not trying to hurry her into making decisions. we talk every night and see each other as much as possible. ladies am i doing the right thing in waiting or should i press the subject more?
2006-09-03 07:15:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump her
2006-09-03 07:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say do not press the issue. How well do you even know her really? Instead of thinking she is the one for you-keep your options open. Don't make yourself assessable to her all the time. Maybe you are doing too much for her and she is taking advantage of you. There is a possibility that she does like you and does want to take things slow and if that is the case why are you spending as much time together as possible. You just got home from Iraq- take some time to hang out with your guy friends. Spend more time with them-they are committed. Meanwhile, don't count her out, but don't let her take over everything you do. If you continue to be all about her while she is saying it has to be slow-you may fall in love with her and she could break your heart. All girls love a man that would do anything for them, but at the same time we like a little challenge and like to see that the guy has a mind of his own. If it is way too easy-it gets a little boring.
2006-09-03 07:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by lady K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your such a nice guy hun yes you are doing the right thing waiting im kind of waiting for some1 who i know will come back to me cus there was such a connection between us it was untrue but it was the wrong time and other factors where keeping us apart but we were talking every night and seeing each other when we could and that person said to me they were scared because the way they felt about me theyd never felt like that before in their life so dont get disheartened if shes worth it you will wait and what does the saying go all good things come to those who wait,i think shes probably scared sometimes the easiest thing to do is to stick with what you know and maybe she hasnt felt this before so take your time,show your love and be patient and in the mean time dont stop living.good luck and take care x
2006-09-03 07:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three months is not long enough for someone to 'love' someone else. Especially since you were in Iraq. How much time did you actually spend together? What you are feeling is probably infactuation. If you guys are talking everynight and she seems to enjoy your company and being around you then what is the problem? Pushing someone that say they love you is a sure way to scare them away. However, if she is distant and doesn't seem geniunely interested in you then move on. But a realistic relationship doesn't take only three months for the two people to really love each other.
2006-09-03 07:20:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not press the subject. Girls don't want to be smothered and you do not want to appear to be desperate! Be patient and just continue to do what you are doing. Be her friend and let her take it from there. In the meantime, make sure you continue on with your life. Date, go out and have a good time. Do not let yourself be stuck waiting and waiting for something that may never be more than a friendship. If she sees that you are continuing with your life, if she is interested, it may give her an incentive to pursue you.
2006-09-03 07:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by shar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you REALLY liked her as you say you do then you would be prepared to wait forever for her - the fact that you're trying to rush her isnt such a good sign. The most you can do is have a serious talk to her about the fact that things arent exactly how you'd like them and maybe reach a comprimise.
2006-09-03 21:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing the right thing in waiting because it seems like she really likes you if you really love her I think you should wait a while and then if like a really long time goes by and she still doesn't love you tell her I need more and if she can't give you that well I think you're gonna have to leave her it's gonna be hard because you love her.....and that's tight you're a soldier who doesn't love a soldier? lol But yeah I think you are doing the right thing.
2006-09-03 07:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by MGM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would usually advise you to wait - a girl will let you know when she's ready.
however im a bit concerned that she doesn't love you.. unless of course she's just being cautious so that she doesn't get hurt.
i think you two need to talk about what you want from the relationship. such a conversation shouldn't be a problem if you are as close you believe yourselves to be
wish i could give you better advice but im a bit stumped myself. good luck! x
2006-09-03 07:20:01 · answer #8 · answered by tjstarbe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, she likes you a lot, and i guess shes been hurt a lot before which is why she likes to take things slow and let everything sink in...i think your doing the right thing by compromising with her because this just increases her admiration and will make her reallly love u...
so this should speed things up, but u might want to mention it at least once a week so that it stays in her mind...and she may want to rethink
2006-09-03 07:22:25 · answer #9 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if you are that much in love maybe you should wait for her, but don't let her string you on for to long. They say good things come to those who wait, but how long do you wait? There are other fish in the sea, and you need to let her know this.
2006-09-03 09:12:28 · answer #10 · answered by grownlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her time but casually mention it every once in a while. If you push her too much, she'll probably feel pressured to make a decision and might make the wrong decision.
2006-09-03 07:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋