Nature of my lust problem?

Question

I thought I might be more specific on my lust problem to get more thorough and better advice. The following is the specifics of my lust problem.
*It started at 16. At the time, I thought it was teenage hormone thing and would go away as I get older.
*I feel totally wowed or amazed at the beauty of women's body. It just catches my total attentions.
*I have this mentality that I deserve to enjoy some masturbation and porn as I am not having sex despite the fact that a lot of people my age are.
*I have this mentality that there is nothing wrong with looking at the pictures of hot, attractive playboy models.
*I am pretty certain that I am a high sexual or hormone guy.
*Thoughts of fantasy, sex pop up in my head a lot even if I try to avoid it.
*I am not sure if I have addictive personality. I don't smoke, drink, do drugs, or have sex.

Could you give me more insights and advice based on those aspects of my lust problem?

Answer 1

It's a human thing. Some females have a problem with this as well.

As long as you lust for something, you will never be satisfied. You want a bigger house. What happens when you get that bigger house? You want a bigger one than that one. Lust (wanting something that you should not/ cannot have) is a never ending process. You have to look at your situation in life and come to terms with it. Once you get what you want, you will not be satisfied with it for long. You want to look at porn. Well, that urg inside of you will get worse. You'll want to look at it more. You'll want to masturbate more. And you'll find that even that isn't all that satisfying. Then you start finding women to have one night stands... See what I'm getting at? As long as you lust for something, you will never be okay. Where your problem stems from is your mentality. As long as you look at hot women, your problem will always be there. Stop looking at hot women. Or at least don't go and find them. If you are in a mall with some friends and some hot women walk by you, you can't control that. But don't go out and buy a Playboy. If you truly want to stop lusting, don't go out and find hot women that will make you lust.

Answer 2

Next to the survival instinct the drive to procreate is the strongest in every male animal on this planet, us included. It's a basic desire and nothing to worry about as long as you don't take advantage of an unwilling participant. Go ahead and enjoy choking that chicken.

Answer 3

The most attractive thing in Vaishali, the capital city of Lichhavis, was the beautiful dancer Amrapali. She was named after the mango grove she was first found in. Everybody was eager to win her love. She chose to be the Nagarvadhu, wife to the whole city.

One day, Amrapali saw a young monk. Mesmerised by his calm and attractive presence, she followed him. The sanyasi settled down beneath a mango tree, unmindful of her presence. Unable to attract his attention, she spoke: “Sir, please introduce yourself. Why do you lead an ascetic life in your youth?”

“In search of Truth”, replied the monk. Amrapali was first taken aback. She then teased him: “Of what use is the Truth that wastes your youth?” The monk smiled: “Lady, Absolute Happiness can only be attained thus for the happiness you seek is transitory pleasure”.

Amrapali persisted. “Dear, leave this delusion and enjoy my hospitality which even royalty desires to experience”, offered Amrapali. The monk thought for a moment and said, “I will ask my master. If he allows me, I will come”. Then he took out a ripe Amra Phal (mango) from his bag and gave it to her with the instruction that the fruit be preserved without decay till his return.

The monk returned to Buddha’s shelter and narrated the incident. Buddha gave him permission to stay with Amrapali, much to the puzzlement of other disciples. Buddha calmly said, “I have looked into his eyes — there was no desire. If I had said ‘no’, even then he would have obliged. I trust his meditation”.


In the meantime, Amrapali tried all methods to keep the mango fresh, but failed. After one month, the young monk returned. Passionately infatuated, she approached him. The monk ordered, “Lady! Bring me the Amra Phal”. She did so; but the mango had decayed, emitting foul odour and was full of worms.

She asked, “Dear, of what use is this rotten fruit to you?” The monk slowly removed the mango-stone from the fruit. Showing her the rotten skin, he spoke, “Where has the beauty, aroma and taste of the fruit gone? Whereas, the mango-stone is intact and free of decay”. “Of what use is this mango-stone”, argued the courtesan.

The monk smilingly explained, “The mangostone is the most useful. As a seed, it has the potential to regenerate a new body. Likewise, a human being’s meditation is never wasted. This mango-stone signifies the eternal Soul. The protection of the Soul is the real shield; that is the absolute Happiness. Recognise this Truth, Amrapali. You, who could not save the decay of this Amra Phal, how long can you protect your own body from disintegration?”

The Nagarvadhu was speechless; it was as if she had been awakened from a deep sleep. Moved, she asked forgiveness of the young monk. She felt cleansed and expressed her desire to see the monk’s master.

Later, Buddha visited Vaishali and stayed at Amrapali’s abode. She touched Buddha’s feet and said, “I tried my best to attract your monk, but he convinced me by his awareness that real life is in your shelter”. She renunciated the life of a courtesan and donated her belongings to the Buddhist Sangha.

Buddha accepted her in the monastery as a disciple, to the chant of “Sangham sharanam gachhami, Dhammam sharanam gachhami

Answer 4

You are totally normal and exactly like every other guy out there.

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Answer 5

What's the problem? You sound pretty normal to me. Lust is normal, sexual fantasies are normal, masturbation is normal! ENJOY!

Answer 6

Sweetheart, lusting is a natural part of being alive. Everyone does it. There is nothing wrong with it. Stop beating yourself up over it.

Answer 7

Thats perfectly natural i think, not an uncommon thing for those who havent experienced love yet....if your uncomfortable with theses feelings, id say get involved in something...music art..anything to give yourself an out...

Answer 8

TMI.See a Psychologist

Answer 9

Its not a problem. Its called testosterone and it has nothing to do with religion.

Answer 10

Keep on jackin' & you won't get into any trouble!