last night, i was sleeping over at my girlfriend's house b/c the holiday weekend, she found a bottle of rum, and we drank the whole thing and got really drunk and then we make out and had did it. i felt really weird this morning waking up naked next to her, b/c i am not really into girls that way, and i really like boys even though i am having a ton of problems with my boyfriend right now. i dont know what to say to her or should i just forget the whole thing happened. i just dont want to get back to school on tuesday and everyone know about it. any advise???
2006-09-03 07:04:40 · 7 answers · asked by jen j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Question: If God is so great and wonderful, why would he create homosexuality in the first place?
When you answer that question, then you may earn the right to judge. Otherwise, you better leave that job up to God.
Answer: First we must answer the question of whether or not God did in fact create homosexuality.
Since when did God create issues and personal passions? He created the capacities and abilities for these things: "the Heavens and the Earth" - the human body. In short, God created people and things; He didn't create homosexuality any more than He created homosexual marriages, abortions, lust, incest, or the love a man may have for golfing, racing, dancing, track & field, or Anna Kornikova.
Did God also create every other sexual deviation from straight relationships, including polygamy, swinging, bestiality, prostitution, pedophilia, incest, pornography, infidelity, and rape? Many people would consider one or more of these as normal. Does that mean God created them to think that way?
Did God also create homophobes, perhaps?
If the answer is yes, then we can easily conclude that God also creates alcoholics (hey, they aren’t hurting anyone else either, so let them make their own decision right?), and flashers, etc. Why did God create thistles, anthrax, poison ivy, and hurricanes? Poison ivy is not a normal plant, and hurricanes don’t show normal weather.
Clearly the argument that God made homosexuals that way and it’s therefore OK doesn’t seem to hold very much logic. God created the human body; he created the chemicals in the human brain; he created us with choices to make, and health concerns to take abnormal, unhealthy, inhuman, or unnatural turns. He did not, however, create mankind with those choices and health issues automatically in place, as long as there’s something we can do about them: a response.
Homosexuals, just like pedophiles and porn addicts, should be respected as human beings, abide by the same law, and be given the same rights. That doesn’t mean that, just because they’re part of God’s creation, they’re perfectly healthy.
About homophobia:
In modern society, there is a great need to eradicate heterophobia and homophobophobia, and put an end to the societal progression toward omni sexuality.
Perhaps people are born homophobic also.
Just as alcoholism comes from three different causes (according to
Alcoholics Anonymous), one of which is being born with deficient levels of dopamine, all of which are related to chemical imbalances of the neurochemical dopamine, scientific exploration of the biological anomaly known as homosexualism clearly points to its very probable cause being a treatable case of excess or lacking genetic substance, element, or compound. If people can use a 12-step program to treat themselves – albeit with some difficulty, resistance, and challenges - of a disease called alcoholism which they may or may not have been born with, then one can easily deduce…
Homosexuals are in fact not born homosexuals; they are likely born with a treatable deficiency or imbalance of one or more hormones, neurotransmitters, or other medical chemicals (one of them possibly being testosterone). Conclusive evidence has yet to prove otherwise, as repeated attempts to duplicate a study which claimed otherwise, has failed to reproduce results in favor of a “gay gene” and other eccentric hypotheses.
About homosexual marriage:
On the issue of "Evil David Says:
June 7th, 2006 at 12:37 pm
But … the sanctity of marriage…! Avis and Lauren, as married folk, don’t you realize that all those same-sex marriages are making a mockery of your respective marriages? They’re ruining it for everybody!
Another argument I’ve heard advanced on the Fox Channel is: if you redefine marriage to include people of the same sex, you would also have to redefine it to include a union between: (1) committed multiple partners (polygamists); and (2) a person and animal (bestiality); and (3) a person and an inanimate object (is there a word for this?).
***Logically, Numbers 2 and 3 can be ruled out because an animal and object can’t consent to marriage. The polygamy argument is more difficult to deal with, however…"
Actually, not true... no very not true. People have been having happily (and not so happily) *arranged* marriages for thousands of years. One person, usually the woman, is so far from giving consent it's not even funny. So if an 11-year-old girl from Fackistan, Analia was to be given in an arranged marriage to say... her father's clover field (hey, if it’s legal, why not?), what else might be on the horizon?
Yes, the Fox Channel is 100% correct. Arranged marriages happen all the time, and they don’t involve consent. Neither would the legalization of marriages to plants, animals, cars, and who the heck knows what else, or of bisexual threesomes, polygamists, swingers, buggers (people who practice bestiality), prostitutes to pimps, non-violent pedophiles to consenting children, “funny-uncles” in consenting incestuous relationships with their nieces, and, while we’re at it, rape, as long as she grows to like it after a while… since obviously, our society doesn’t see anything, consent, morals or otherwise, as much of a baring on what is accepted. It all has to do with how much propaganda and legislative power any given minority group may poses.
This has also raised the question among many [[special interest groups]] of the questionable and controversial exclusion of all other [[sexual orientations]] from the definition of marital and other government and charter-protected status. They include: [[bisexuality]], [[polygamy]], [[swinging]], [[bestiality]], [[prostitution]], [[pedophilia]], and [[incest]]. The question remains: once marital and other law is open to any and all [[minority groups]], what [[legislation]] can be put in place to prevent further deviation from [[traditional law]], which would not be in violation of our [[Charter of Rights and Freedoms]]?
Is there a major underlying flaw in the Charter?
Am I lesbian?
You're actually straight, but just a little confused about having experiences that turned you on unexpectedly. I won’t try to tell you who to be or what to do; I can only offer my expert observation and advice from my experiences and all the hours of study and research I’ve done on this and other topics.
As a heterosexual, you enjoy the rewards of having a boyfriend, and you appreciate the wonderful role you have being a woman. You simply can't see yourself getting involved in something as strange to you as homosexual activity.
You're not fully satisfied by how fulfilled you are in relationships with men, partly because the men you've been with are not manly and compassionate enough to meet your needs.
Women are often attracted to aspects of men that women sometimes demonstrate better: you obviously like your man to demonstrate compassion, closeness, tenderness, and understanding, but society pressures modern men to avoid those things, and expects men to show a side of them that quite frankly can be often disgusting.
What you need to do - though it may be hard at first - is change your expectations in men: don't settle for someone who buys into the garbage society throws at them, such as treating females like nothing more than a prize, or throwing out the concept of tenderness and caring for you no matter what. This will shift the focus in your relationships, and you will begin to see the aspects of women that you find attractive show up in the way you look at the men in your lives, because you'll be married to a more caring type of man - someone you truly deserve - in the first place.
I truly wish you the very best as you try to make sense of all that's going on inside your mind. There's hope and a better love life to be seen on your horizon!
Please get back to me and let me know how things are going for you. If you have any other questions or comments, I’d be happy to see what I can do to be of some help to you.
Important notice: I strongly discourage any sort of homophobic remarks. Any person with any sexual orientation deserves the same level of respect. It is very important that we attack the issues rather than the persons dealing with the issues.
The best way to deal with any problem is with compassion, reasoning, logic, and focus - keeping in mind that people are not problems.
2006-09-03 09:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by techronarrow 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She may feel as wierd as you. Try to have a calm talk with her. Let her know the alcohol had a strange effect on you, that you value her as a friend, but that you're not ready for that right now. You need to work out your problems with your boyfriend, whether that means fixing your relationship or breaking up, before you go jumping into anything else, especially if it has to do with your sexual orientation and self-identity.
above all, don't panic. if she's really your friend, she's going to try to understand what you're going through and deal with it. if she can't, she's not much of a friend to you.
2006-09-03 07:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by crystal_sea24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss it with her prior to going back to school on Tuesday. You need to apologize and tell her sorry BUT you had too much to drink and didn't realize what you were doing at the time. Suggest that you keep it between you and her. IF she's a true friend she will understand and keep her mouth shut!
2006-09-03 07:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just lost a friend, things will never be the same between you two again. Hopefully she doesn't tell anyone at school. If even one person finds out, it will spread like wildfire. People love that kind of stuff.
2006-09-03 07:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by JillA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, this was just an experience and it's part of discovering ourselves. You have two choices either you forget about it of if you enjoyed it(be honest) you could repeat it. There's nothing wrong with having fun!
2006-09-03 07:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just act like nothing happened and be like i was sooo drunk! or you can avoid her. i think she likes you.
2006-09-03 07:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just forget wat has happened.
move on withourt guilt.
2006-09-03 22:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋