he and i are 17, he lives in Texas and me in New Mexico, i love him Soooo much! and am dying to see him but he wants to be friends cause were not able to see eachother till i'm 18, cause my mom don't like him and that's when we'll be able to be together. But for now friends and when i go over there we'll pick up where we left off at. so i need some good advice on what to do or think of what he's trying to tell me?
2006-09-03 07:02:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"What is the meaning of life?" is a question many people ask themselves at some point during their lives. Some people believe that the meaning of life is one or more of the following:
Survival and temporal success
* ...to accumulate wealth and increase social status
* ...to compete or co-operate with others
* ...to destroy others who harm you, or to practice nonviolence and nonresistance
* ...to die having succeeded in your purpose
* ...to live
* ...to protect one's family
* ...to gain and exercise power
* ...to leave a legacy, such as a work of art or a book
* ...to produce offspring through sexual reproduction or asexual reproduction
* ...to seek freedom, either physically, mentally or financially
* ...to seek happiness and flourish, experience pleasure or celebrate
* ...to survive, including the pursuit of immortality through scientific means (see life extension)
Wisdom and knowledge
* ...to be without question, or to keep asking questions
* ...to explore, to expand beyond our frontiers
* ...to learn from one's own and others' mistakes
* ...to seek truth, knowledge, understanding, or wisdom
* ...to try to discover and understand the meaning of life
* ...to expand one's perception of the world
Ethical
* ...to express compassion
* ...to live in peace with each other, and in harmony with our natural environment (see utopia)
* ...to give and receive love
* ...to seek and acquire virtue, to live a virtuous life
* ...to serve others, or do good deeds
* ...to work for justice and democracy
Religious, spiritual and esoteric
* ...to turn fear into joy at a constant rate achieving on literal and metaphorical levels: immortality, enlightenment and atonement
* ...to achieve a supernatural connection within the natural context
* ...to achieve enlightenment and inner peace
* ...to become God, or God-like
* ...to experience existence from an infinite number of perspectives in order to expand the consciousness of all there is (i.e. God)
* ...to follow the "Golden Rule"
* ...to produce useful structure in the universe over and above consumption (see net creativity)
* ...to reach Heaven in the afterlife
* ...to understand and follow the "Word of God"
* ...to worship, serve, or achieve union with God
Other
* ...to advance natural human evolution, or to contribute to the gene pool of the human race
* ...to advance technological evolution, or to actively develop the future human
* ...to contribute to collective meaning ("we" or "us") without having individual meaning ("I" or "me")
* ...to die, or become a martyr
* ...to find a purpose, a "reason" for living that hopefully raises the quality of one's experience of life, or even life in general
* ...to live, and enjoy the passage of time
* ...to have fun
* ...to protect humanity, or more generally the environment
* ...to pursue a dream, vision, or destiny
* ...to relate, connect, or achieve unity with others
* ...to seek and find beauty
* ...to simply live until one dies (there is no universal or celestial purpose)
* ...to participate in the chain events which has led from the creation of the universe until its possible end (either freely chosen or determined, this is a subject widely debated amongst philosophers)
* ...still some do not even think there is any purpose whatsoever (see nihilism)
* ...(This is actually an extension of the point immediately above) There is no inherent meaning to life, existence, the universe, etc. They exist because they can. However, humans appear to inately give meaning, usually many, often conflicting, to what they are conscious of. So, to each individual, the "meaning of life" is whatever they decide it is. In that sense, every point above is potentially valid.
2006-09-04 14:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as knowing what he's trying to tell you, you can only go by what he says, since you have no way of really knowing what's going on in his life in Texas. It sounds to me like he's really thinking about the relationship the two of you have, and since your mother doesn't approve of him he's right to suggest that you wait until you are old enough to make your own decisions about what you want to do. Why doesn't your mother like him? Have you sat down and had a calm, honest discussion with her about her reasons? Maybe she can give you some insight about him that you haven't been able to see, since you are so in love with him. Young love can be so intense and all-encompassing that it's hard to know what's the right thing to do. Since he's the one that's suggested that you just be friends for now, there's not much you can do other than accept what he wants, be his friend without putting too much pressure on him. Enjoy your friends and your school--I assume you are going to be a senior? There will be so much going on in school this year that if you involve yourself in school activities and the preparations for graduation the time will fly by before either you turn 18 or graduate, and if your feelings for him then are still as strong as they are right now, then you can talk to him again about your feelings and what you would like to happen with your relationship. I have to give you a lot of credit for asking advice in this matter, because it is quite a mature thing to do. It means that you care about your life and your future. Whether or not that future will include this young man remains to be seen, but I believe you will have the maturity to deal with it whatever the outcome. Good luck, and enjoy your senior year in high school--it only happens once!
2006-09-03 07:47:37 · answer #2 · answered by blueangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he trying to tell you just as it sounds, he just wants to be friends, he probably can meet other woman from his home area and doesn't want to be tied down in a distant relationship but at the same time remain friends with you, not dump you like a girl he doesn't care about. Let him be young and single, if you guys were made for each other you will meet again in the future when your both older, more mature and ready to settle in with a steady
2006-09-03 07:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't want to be the love of your life right now. Give him his space and move on. If you still have these feelings when you are 18...give him a call and see where his position is then.
2006-09-03 07:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to be friends, then you have to except it. that means that the both of you can go out with other people. If the love you both have for each other is strong, then it will survive. You are both still young, you should be out their having some fun, and learning about people. Concentrate on getting good grades.
2006-09-03 07:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it you are still young and your mom wants the best for you listen to her she is more experienced.
2006-09-03 07:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He found some ladies in texas and doesnt want you to be hurt. He doesnt love you anymore.
2006-09-03 07:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you as a girlfriend but only as a FRIEND. Plain and simple.
2006-09-03 07:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, for the moment i think hes right, whats a year anyway. it will soon fly by, and then you'll know if hes worth it.
2006-09-03 07:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is telling you that he would like to sleep with you without commitment.
2006-09-03 07:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by angelo26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋