ive been seeing a guy for about 3 months, at first i thought it would just
be a one night thing, but it wasnt and was quite surprised. but i have a few
problems, im finding it really hard work, hes been hurt in the past and i
feel that he just wont open up, keeps blowing hot and cold, one night i just
let rip and told him that i was sick of feeling like some spare part, and it
was make or break time, he apologies for it, and said he had been single for
over three years, and i guess it was hard or is hard to include me in the
things he does. he then said i will have to sort my life out for you wont i.
I have given him plenty of chances for him to finish it, but he doesnt seem
to want to, he just keeps saying im crap, im useless, at this boyfriend
thing. i dont think ive got it in me!! it rather confusing, and i am not
sure what to do? he as jsut phoned asking me to go round! really confused.
do i keep trying or am i fighting a loosing battle???0
2006-09-03 06:59:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like a losing battle.
2006-09-03 07:02:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His problems could cause worse problems between the 2 of you... now & in the future.
He needs help, but from someone who knows exactly how to deal with the issues.
Sounds like he has a problem concerning>>> trusting.
There's only so much that you can do about it... you didn't cause the problem... but repairs need to be made in order for him to feel like he's a whole (well) person.
If he won't get help, you'd be wise to let go.
2006-09-03 07:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find for the most part it's a game guys play on females to keep them at arms length. He's hurt, you don't get too emotional and when you feel like just backing off he's sorry and makes you feel the idiot for wanting to move on...yet notice he does nothing to sort out his problems, just makes excuses for them. I'd move on. Stop wasting time on someone to wrapped up in their own self to start on someone new.
2006-09-03 07:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is someone you believe you could really care about, then hang in there. Being hurt tends to build walls around people, and sometimes it is hard to break through them. We come with expectations about what we consider we want in a companion/partner. Sometimes it is hard not to judge others by those expectations. Communication is key with this man. He sounds like he is REALLY trying to be what you need him to be, give him a chance.
2006-09-03 07:07:35 · answer #4 · answered by rascal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your happiness and well being comes first. Let him go let him get over whatever he's going through on his own. He seems to be taking the whole thing out on you . Whatever happend in his last relationship should not have been put on you in the first place. Do what you have to in order to be happy. You'll find someone who'll love you,for who you are you'll see give it time. Be safe be happy, xoxoxox.
2006-09-03 07:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must of been hurt pretty bad, and he just doesn't trust and cant get close to any one yet enough to commit into a real relationship. he has turned against females and his name calling you is not a sign of respect.. he is bitter and is taking it out on you because you are female and feels threatened by you. he is thinking he cant trust you either, If you really care for him and want to be with him then be understanding and patient , if he continues to be a butt head . Stop and move on ..
2006-09-03 07:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need to do. Everyone here knows what you need to do. Even your bf admits he's useless at the bf thing.
The guy is damaged goods, move on.
2006-09-03 07:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u like him that much keep on fighting for him but if he keeps on treating u like that then u should break it off cause he isnt trying hard enough if he likes or loves u.
2006-09-03 07:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has too much emotional baggage to deal with. Let him loose and find someone less complicated.
2006-09-03 07:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a freak
2006-09-03 07:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by jdluver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋