ok i no this boy he is really nice in looks i no alittle bout his personality an so far so good i like him but i got to hear some stuff about him--that he smokes an drinks an i saw some of his friends that he hangs out with an they r really bad company i dont no him to be that kind of person but i am begining to think that he is..he asked me 4 my phone number an said i dont have a cell which is true then he asked for my house phone number an because i was so shocked of what i had heard i said my house phone is not working which is not true i dont mind talking to him
i dont see him as regualar but i do now an then he lives not to far from me though he is like only a year older than me (i dont want to reveal my age but i am in my teens-it could be any age)all my friends an cuz say dont get involved with him but i dont no what to do cause i think i still have alittle feelings for him
Plez give me some advice-nuttin stupid plez picture yourself in my position what would u do?
2006-09-03 06:39:34 · 20 answers · asked by Always Jolly AJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask him why he's hanging out with all these crazy people. I would ask him if he's drinking and smoking to look cool, or because everyone else is doing it. I would ask him if he were a criminal, and tell him that to me he looks like a criminal, and "I don't want to bring a criminal to meet my dad. My dad is really picky, and He would just ask you to leave and never talk to me again if you smelled like smoke. Then he would ground me and forbid me from seeing you. Then It wouldn't work out in the first place so why even try? Look, you're a really nicy guy, and you're really cute, but I can't see myself with someone who enjoys destroying his body and his environment."
That's what I would say. Then the ball is in his court and he can choose to be with his friends or choose to court you. Done.
I hope this helps some.
2006-09-03 06:49:37 · answer #1 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are young and he has that bad boy charm working for him. It would be easy to tell you not to go there(truthfully, you really shouldnt) but I know you will, because for some reason girls just have this thing for those type of boys. He is showing you the side of him that he wants you to see. I have been in your position, I am not a teenager, I am a grown woman.My ex boyfriend was so sweet to me, he would take me out and play slow jams for me. He talked about marriage and always called me for long conversations. The sweetest man I could ever ask for, right? Well turns out that he was an ex gang member and had been in prison before, has anger issues and treated me a whole lot different when we got together. I feel stupid cause when I was a teen, I didnt make those mistakes like that.Most of my friends did and had 3 or 4 babies by some guy they thought was so nice and cool. Just be careful,Love. Take care!
2006-09-03 06:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by Lou Lou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I know a couple of girls (actually a lot) that have gotten involved with a "bad: kid. They generally end up hurt and pushed to the limit, morally(he tried to get in their pants). If you want to be with him Fine, but be warned that he is under bad influences and might end up being a bad kid after all regardless of how much he make "like" you. Thing is that when you are around bad people for a while you begin to catch their habits as well. Also, you may have a lot of people jusding your relationship and well it is completely up to you. If you and him get together and I would have to say try to get him away from all the drugs and stuff because it will go smoother in the realtionship if you have on HUGE problem less to deal about.
Whatever your choice, take note that you might get hurt in the end. Be careful.
2006-09-03 06:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by Bizzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor.... keep walking!! Honestly, it sounds like nothing but headaches. Whatever feelings you may have are considered "little" at this point. IE: easy to get over, so move on & save yourself from the pain that can come along the way in the future. Although you are still in your teens, you should always look at a guy you are considering dating and ask yourself... is he marriage material? If not, move forward!! Life is too short to waste it.
2006-09-03 06:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go on a date with him have a picnic. say nice things to him speak calmly. He will get confused and not think about smoking or drugs. If he doesn't get confused go tell the police If he is under 21 and he drinks. tell him to not smoke (If you kiss reach into his pocket take the junk out of it put it in your pocket and If he asks where it is tell him he probably droped it
This is comming from pinklepord yall!!!
2006-09-03 06:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by pinklepord 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the warning signs there, so speak, and go about your business, if he ask for your number again say, my boyfriend wont like that. Life is about fun, don't go and get yourself tied up in a lot of trouble.
2006-09-03 06:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are known by the company you keep.
If he keeps bad company, stay away from him. He is bad news.
If you feel you might be embarrassed by having him call your house, that is your instinct telling you to stay away from him.
Learn how to develop good instincts and follow them. They will help keep you from making mistakes, like going out with boys/men you have doubts about.
2006-09-03 06:45:27 · answer #7 · answered by carolewkelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ooh thats hard! well, not all people that smoke and drink are bad. i mean, in my opinion, people are who they are, and just because they smoke and drink doesn't make them a bad person. try talking to this guy and get to know him a little better, and if his drinking and smoking habits become a problem between you two, try finding someone else. but give this guy a chance. he could be the one you're lookin for!
2006-09-03 06:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by love_me_4_me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do i really like him or just a little. if its real id run the risk and dump him the moment im uncomfortableif hes the way he appears in this bio, just a little no way id go for friendship or a gentle let down probably the latter.
2006-09-03 06:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by a perfectly contradictory cat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in my opinion I would definitely leave this one alone, not only is he presenting himself to you as a nice guy, he is also lying to you,, bad news girl!! do yourself a favor and stay far away.
2006-09-03 06:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋