Okay, here's the story. I met him on holiday and we kissed. Later on we exchanged email addresses. He's quite a bit older than me so I don't know how serious he is, but I for one know I definitely want to see him again.
Problem is, he lives in Turkey.
It's been a week, I've sent him 2 emails but no reply yet. I doubt he's ignoring me because he gave me HIS address, not the other way around, and he seems too kind and sweet to do that to me. Also he works really late so he may never have time to go on MSN or anything.
What I want to know is, should I be worried, and what should I be doing right now? I may seem a little desperate but this is the first guy that's ever liked me back.. or appeared to. Please help!
2006-09-03 06:33:28 · 26 answers · asked by Hannah 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess I'll just wait and see, and try to stay optimistic. Thanks for all the good answers, everyone.
2006-09-03 06:58:47 · update #1
first love is just that ~~ THE FIRST~~ you have nothing to compare it to!! It doesn't mean the BEST LOVE! You have nothing to compare it to!! If it is meant to be it will be; if not, it wasn't meant to be and God has other plans for you!
2006-09-03 06:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been to turkey and they hit on everyone trust me, the amount of times a guy asked me out or asked me about boyfriends was just stupid. Ppl in england say that the turkish go for anyone that has legs. So they have a reputation here in the u.k. My friends went there and got hit on all the time and my best friend got a b/f in turkey and he sent her msgs and e-mails but apparently he was doing to every girl and my other friend slept with about 4 of them when she was on holiday so i don't think they're trustworthy at all. They probably make every girl feel special, don't get sucked in by it or they will take you for a ride. Good luck!
2006-09-03 07:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by missy minx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey wait a little, dont fret, u said urself he works late.
i'll tell u something, im kinda in the same situation.
i liked this guy for god knows how long, his sister got me his email address, and we'd talk for ages online, he is so sweet. he is a little older than me too and lives about 3 hours drive away and we see each other about 3 times a year!. then after a little courage, i got his number, and at first we wouldnt stop texting each other, but about 3 days later i didnt hear from him for about 2 days. when i finally got a text from him, he apologised so much and told me he had ben busy with a wedding and with fixing up his car.
now, its been just over a week, and i havent heard from him since friday. :( i know its less than hw long u had 2 wait, but when u go from txting non-stop to not at all, it hits u hard. but i have to tell myself, i havent done anything to upset him (in fat the complete opposite cos im always complimenting him) and he probably is just busy or run out of credits or something.
dont worry, he'll come to ya. and if u miss him alot keep urself busy that should work. and like u, im still waiting aswell.
2006-09-03 07:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by azaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I - and many others here I'm sure - have been through a similar experience. For the duration of the holiday it is blissful, all details and promises are exchanged but they never go through. Try to think of it that way, and if it is a (rare)exception he will contact you. The fact that he is the first guy that liked you back shouldn't have any bearing on anything.
2006-09-03 06:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope he's not Turkish...nothing against Turkish but their men have a Habit of chasing young British girls. I went when I was 15 and was hounded every day by dozens of older Turkish men.
They are Notorious for it...the holiday brochure's warn you to expect lots of male attention regardless of your age or if your with your husband etc.
Please try to forget about him and find someone who you can spend more time with closer to home.
P.s I'm sure lots of other guy's like you, it's just that Turkish men are more full on and lecherous.
2006-09-03 06:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you are in love, but it's just your emotions playing around and that feeling of butterflies in your stomach.
To know that you are in love, involves spending time together and getting to know one another more deeply.
Worried - I say you shouldn't be as long distance relationships are 50/50, but if you can hang in there and be patient then it's worth the wait. If he doesn't contact you as often, then he probably isn't interested anymore or to him, you were just another holiday romance.
2006-09-03 06:40:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dragon Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Be careful because I have heard stories about Turkish men! They are looking for British or European girls to marry! Then, they leave you, as they only want the right to stay in the UK.
Leave him alone! You can find a better bloke in your country!! Men like that are not worth a penny!!
You deserve a nice lad that cares and likes you as you are!!
Best wishes
2006-09-03 06:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Marmot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have the option in msn try having a return reciept used. if he picks up his mail and then you get notified that its been read.
it could be the culture he lives in or its hard for him to check his e-mails . send him an email telling him that you thinks he is a sweet man and you would truly like to hear from him but if he cant find the time to respond to your emails then you no longer have time to write them
2006-09-03 06:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by javaboogieroast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say that he likely does this to all the pretty girls and sits and has a laugh at all the lovelorn emails that they send.
Don't be a mug, smile and let it stay a happy memory and look closer to home for the next kiss;-)
2006-09-03 06:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...an interesting dilemma. You have emailed him and haven't heard back...Well, he could be busy as you mentioned. Don't act desperate...and especially, don't freak him out! Turkish men don't like clingy women--I know what I am talking about as I am dating one. Give it time. You can send him another email and if you don't hear back then you know it was not meant to be. One way or another you will have to face reality.
2006-09-03 06:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie 'Shirley Valentine' and check the romantic and caring Greek guy's tactics out... your Turkish friend is surely after other 'tourist' girls by now with exactly the same words he used on you....
2006-09-03 06:40:08 · answer #11 · answered by cannadoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋