Very nice, respectable, went out of her way to please. But when nobody was around, she was mean to my kids. Then she got bolder & mean to my 4 kids in front of me, openly hateful my mentally challenged daughter (her mom denies it). She has even physically assaulted my 8 yr old & 11 yr old. Her mom dismissed it like my kids lied. The mom insists that her daughter is an “angel,” despite she treats her mom like trash & yells @ her. I’ve told my kids to stay away from her, but she comes around or shouts mean things to them. Talking to the mom gets NOWHERE. We live in a very small town & the school, town think this kid is an absolute angel. In public, she is the “perfect child”, witnessed it firsthand. It’s like 2 different kids. When nobody is around at school, she is mean to my kids. The teachers believe everything she says, they don’t question it because they think she would NEVER lie. Now she’s angry @ my kids cause they are tired of her crap, not taking it anymore & told her so.
2006-09-03 06:26:29 · 15 answers · asked by jude89 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My son told her it hurt my feelings when she yelled at my disabled daughter. She told him in very un-nice terms how she felt about that. Last week at school, my kids came home bewildered cause when they passed her after school, she screamed at them to carry their OWN stuff. My kids had said “hey” to her and that was it. WTF??? This CHILD is the most manipulative person I’ve ever met. I am worried that she will cause problems for my kids at school and in the community with her lies and everybody will believe her cause this kid is supposedly so “perfect!” I hate to have to call the police on her, not to mention take the chance they will not believe us, & cause further problems. She’s making our lives miserable. We just want her to go away and leave us alone, like we don't exist. Today, she started screaming at my kids again. I am about a hair's length from absolutely losing my temper, and to hell with the consequences. What do I do about this kid without stooping to their level???
2006-09-03 06:30:37 · update #1
billyboysblue: did you even read the whole thing before you answered??
2006-09-03 06:33:08 · update #2
I ended the friendship with the mother.
2006-09-05 04:05:45 · update #3
Perhaps there is a way you could record what she is doing, having the kids in the yard and recording from the window. Or, just try to provoke her in public, it shouldn't take too much to get her to go off if she is acting in this manner. It sounds like your kids are doing the right thing at the moment though. They need to stand up to her, and the more they won't deal with her behavior, the less interested she will be in them. Your involvement in the situation might also make it worse, so I would just talk about it with your kids, but refrain from too much interference unless she physically harms them, in which case you can charge her with assault. She will eventually crack her facade and everyone will know what kind of child she is.
2006-09-03 06:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I admit it's a horrible situation, but I think you can easily fix it. I checked some of your other questions, and it seems you have a history of trouble with this family. All you have to do is end your "friendship" with them. Don't let them come over to your house, don't give them a ride anywhere, and tell your kids to stay away from them. Furthermore, the next time there is an incident, stand your ground and threaten to call the police. Get a restraining order if you have to. We had a similar neighbor (kid). I simply told the girl that if she was going to act that way, she was not welcome at my house. She stayed away for a while, but when she finally did come back she was a new kid. No trouble.
2006-09-03 06:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a doctor in your small town? If you describe her behavior to him/her maybe he/she will recognize the disorder this girl obviously has. If the town's doctor believes you, other people are bound to believe him/her and at the same time believe you and your kids. And maybe there are other children who are being harassed by her as well, but they are too afraid to tell right now. Your neighbor family sounds like a problem family, someone else must have noticed that. Good luck.
2006-09-03 09:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her consequences for her actions. It takes a village to raise a child, right? Obviously, her parents are not up to the task. Report her behaviour to the principal and teachers. Request extra supervision for your children and that this girl be kept away from them. If she actually harms your children, call the police. She is obviously crying out for attention and feels bullying smaller children makes her important. A video or voice recording is a great idea.
2006-09-03 06:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by rachely1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
this girl sounds like she needs to be threatened. my sister and i had a childhood friend who was very manipulative like this girl, and i really think it gave my sister the self-esteem issues which she has now.
my best advice would be to keep standing up to this girl, even if no one else sees her behavior but you. tell this girl that if you see her doing anything else to your children, you will turn her in to child services. she is being a bully and no one deserves to be bullied!
ask around at your kids' school too. maybe other teachers have noticed the same thing that you have. ask the teachers to keep an eye out for this girl's bad behavior, and eventually you might get a few teachers on your side too!
point out her behavior to her mother, even if the mother is making excuses for it. and tell the mother that she doesn't have to stand for this kind of behavior either. suggest counselling for this girl.
if all else fails, move! i know you hate to move just because of a child, or it may seem like that child is "winning" by having you move, but in the end you and your children will be happier because of it!
2006-09-03 06:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two reasons:
1. Some people think they are born angel...this is in part due to society to we raise people too much while denying others..i mean circumstances.
2. Duplicity I mean dual face....so many people in the society possess it...you know when i say the customer smiles at shops are perpetuated.
Now to show people i mean society what people really are to get them red-handed...generate circumstances and capture them as a proof.
Secondly people want good things to hear and engage themselves in...why dont you develop that sheer trust for you where people divert attention and beckon you.
2006-09-03 06:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to get proof. Video tape her assaulting your kids and show the mother. If she still won't listen, bring it to court or something.
This girl sounds gross... 215 pounds at the age of 13? That's *disgusting*!!!
2006-09-03 06:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the little ***** touches your kids again call the cops.
I knew kids like that when i was growing up. I was smaller than everyone and this one huge fat girl used ot beat me up all the time and everyone thought she was a little angel. she wasnt she was pure evil.
Tell your kids that you believe them and continue to tell them to avoid her. She will eventually get caught.
2006-09-03 06:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by knowitall 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call the srs office . And a good video camera.
2006-09-03 06:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont you worry your purty little head. shes mighty big that girl but shes 13 and almost ready to take on a family and husband of her own. she will be out of your hare soon if shes not married soon just send her on over to uncle argus and ill take care of it
2006-09-03 08:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by ARGUS 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋