After the break up with my last boyfriend, and the break up of my rebounds girlfriend a year ago, we became eachothers comfort through both of our times of need. We began seriously dating, going out a lot, talking on the phone when we're not together, spending the night, taking trips and all the other good stuff that comes along with relationships. Unfortunately, he's not my boyfriend, but for the last 9 months, I've been faithful to him, as if he were. He's told me several times that he's not ready for a relationship right now, because he can't be faithful to me right now. I'm hurt because I've been faithful, trying to set up a healthy relationship/frienship in the long run and all I appear to be is someone who keeps him company. It's Sunday, and I haven't talked to him since last Tuesday. He normally calls 30 times a day? Has he found someone that makes him want to break his unfaithfulness? Is he tired of me? Was I really just a comfort zone? How do I get over it?
2006-09-03 05:50:39 · 8 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you pursued him when he was on the rebound from another relationship that he was probably still hurt over, seems like you were ready for a serious relationship and he wasn't he has told you countless times that he wasn't ready for a serious committed relationship and you are still serious about him even though he cant provide you the type of relationship that you want with him, he probably hasn't called because he doesn't want to hurt you anymore by thinking that there could actually be more to the relationship when there really cant, he is not done healing and isn't ready for anything serious just yet and doesn't want to lead you on anymore than he has, at this point its best to give him the space and time he needs to get his head together, which is what should have been done from the very beginning but if you care about him it'd probably just be better to be his friend while keeping your outside interests and options open.....
2006-09-03 06:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 months is a long time just for a rebound maybe you were more into to him than he was you he has a wall up a defense mechanism because he fears being hurt again he probably wants to play the field without giving his heart to anyone the sad part is that you have wasted 9 months on him to find this out maybe its time for you to take some me time and stay out a relationship for a while find what is right for you.
2006-09-03 05:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you do not desire to do something to quickly i think of the scavenger hunt could consistent with danger lead as much as moving in at the same time, while you at the instant are not already via that factor. consistent with danger you're able to desire to pass out to dinner after. Im kinda puzzled on the scavenger hunt what might you be finding for? i don't be responsive to purely pass with the bypass do some thing romantic, consistent with danger do some thing from once you first met.
2016-10-01 06:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the rebound served it's purpose. But if you are ready to go on with your life, hit a home run with someone that you deserve!
2006-09-03 06:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "rebound guy" you tell him (and us) he is only temporary. That means you are looking for better. If you are serious about him -tell him. i would hate to hear i am someone's "rebound girl" That would mean to me- Someone to hang out with until I meet someone I like.
2006-09-03 05:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by weswe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 times a day? That is creepy.
Ah, girl....he has TOLD you already you aren't the one. Stop wishing it were different and contorting everything to fit your agenda. He's been blunt with you, you just are choosing not to hear it.
2006-09-03 05:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he just wants you as a comforting blanket at the time of need.
2006-09-03 05:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ENJOY IT BUT DON'T SAY TO ANYBODY
2006-09-03 05:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Udit D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋