Parents? How do you dicipline your children?

Question

Do you "ground" them? Or whip them? Or any other sort of punishments?

And if you don't dicipline your children when they need it. You are neglecting the most important responsiblity of parenting. Don't you realize how greatly this will effect them?

Just so you know. I'm 17 and I do NOT have any children.

Answer 1

depends on the situation. if it's something minor, then i'd ground them. if it's something extremely bad...i believe spanking should do it. but hence the term "extremely."

i realized my mom use to spank my sister and i for the smallest things (like spilled milk and stuff...i mean if i cleaned it up, no harm no foul. but if i decided to talk back and tell her to clean it, then i deserved to get my butt whipped). as i grew up, i realized my mom didn't know how to channel her anger, so we always got a whipping for basically nothing. so don't abuse the concept of disciplining. there's one thing to make your kid fear you, and then there's another thing where they fear everything they do because they are afraid of the consequences.

discipline is extremely important in parenting. i work at a paintball store, and i've seen 13 year old kids that talks to their parents with absolutely no respect. the worse part is the parents didn't say anything, they just ignored them like they never said anything. no discipline means your kids will grow up having no respect for you.

Answer 2

discipline means having an understanding od cause and effect. Proper parenting is being able to explain the rules and what is expected even if it means posting on the wll in your house. Proper behavior should be rewarded every time without fail. Improper behavior must be addressed as a misunderstanding of the rules and the child must be taught to respect the rules. How? by rewarding the good behavior. If the behavior that is bad is harmful to them or someone else then they need to be sittig in the bed the number of minuites they are old with playing or tv . No talking to them at all. When the time is up then take them back to the list or rules and read them and make sure the child undertands. No yelling screaming hitting or beating. This way you will raise thoughtful caring children

Answer 3

Discipline and punishment don't go hand in hand. Punishment is not appropriate for child rearing. Anytime a parent shows real out of control anger when they "punish" is inappropriate. We need to express our feelings to children, like telling them that we are angry about what they did, but we are never to be out of control. Grounding can work as long as it fits with the "bad act". Children don't know how to always do the right thing, so we must do our best to be good examples and show them the right thing to do. We will have children that behave better when we take away television and video games.

Answer 4

Children need discipline. If you don't then they won't listen, they'll totally ignore you and do what they want. You have to let them know what not to do in advance before you whip or ground them. My son knows the rules but he still doesn't listen at certain times. When his grandmother is around he's less likely to do what I want him to, because she is less restricting. Don't get me wrong, my son can pretty well do anything he wants as long as he's not hurting others, himself, or animals. He can't do things that break or destroy others things or that hurt other peoples feelings. I normally sit him on the couch for a time limit of 1-2 mins. If he still does it then he gets his but smacked and sat on the couch. People who have anger problems should not whip children, that's how it turns into abuse. If your angry and don't trust yourself then DO NOT whip your child. Just give them a time out or something. Always be sure to give lots of praise and reward good behavior because that is how children build their confidence.

Answer 5

I don't have children but if I did it would depend on what behavior it was on how they would be disciplines. For example, if a teacher was mean and ugly towards my child and my child told him or her off, I would not do a thing about that. If it were the other way around however, I would probably ground my child and then give them a little extra chores or something around the house to do, and then write an apology to the teacher.

Answer 6

When I dispiline my child she goes to time out...then she has to apoligize for what she did. Sometimes I will send her too her room. I don't hit or spank her. But she is pretty good with listening once I give her a warning. If we are in a store of something all i have to do is say 1, 2 and she listens before 3...even though I don't think she even knows what happens at 3.

And sometimes you can try to pull the backwards scam...where you tell them you don't want them to do it and then of course they do. That goes for like brushing teeth or picking up.

Answer 7

Each child is different and as a result I have to use different tactics with them. My middle child thrives on praise, so I only have to get to her level and tell her how disappointed in her I am and that I find her behavior so bad that I will not tolerate it. She cries and whimpers and rarely does this again. My oldest needs to sit in corners. This is her last straw. She hates to sit and as a result I am often dragging her to the corner for her punishment. The youngest has to be put in a playpen to be punished. She is so small that she cannot get out and putting her in one is a terrible tragedy for her.

Answer 8

At 14 and 9, my kids are at a stage where there's little they do that's not pleasing to us. I believe raising them without substitute caregivers, providing mommy's milk on demand, and always making our expectations of them clear and age-appropriate has created a relationship between each of them and each parent characterized by trust, love, committment to each other and to the family well-being (this includes doing chores with a nice attitude.)

When they were little and did things I didn't want them to do, they had a logical consequence. With my oldest, we were playing outside and he ran behind a fence where he wasn't allowed to go (because he was a toddler), I picked him up and brought him in. It didn't take too many times like that, with absolutely no yelling or hitting on my part, to help our sons understand that we meant what we said. I also used the power of learning theory: that which is ignored, disapears so tantrums were no problem.

Hitting is a negative reinforcer. It's attention, and so it risks creating more of a behavior. Also, it doesn't build character, it creates fear. Children's bad behavior often gets hidden, but doesn't stop. The whole point of parenting is to create an autonomous adult. Therefore, good parenting should be about helping a child control himself, not about externally controlling that child.

It's so important to understand child development, to know what kids need and what they only want, to understand what they are and are not capable of. It's important to be a guide, not a punisher. It's important to expect the best and to GIVE YOUR BEST.

Babies who go into day care behave less well. For best results, raise your own. Then, 15 minutes of every hours the baby is awake, mom devotes to the baby on the baby's terms. As the child gets older, this continues, tho can be bunched up in time, so a parent spends an hour playing a board game or an imagination game while walking through the woods, and then the child entertains themselves for a couple of hours while mom takes care of things nearby. A critical component in the relationship is trust.

In the first year of life, babies are negotiating trust issues, deciding if the world is a reliable, good place. Babies learn to trust others when their mother comes when they cry and hold them lovingly or relieve their discomfort lovingly. When babies cry and mommies don't come, the babies learn they are unimportant, their pain doesn't matter, mommy wants them to be sad, and, maybe worst of all lessons, that they are powerless to change their bad situations.

A baby who is promptly responded to is not a baby who learns to manipulate. A child learns to manipulate as a personality style when her/his needs are not met directly. A baby promptly responded to learns that the world and mommy are good and that, therefore, baby is good. When the baby grows to view him/herlself as good, you've got a solid foundation for the loving discipline that will guide your child to self-responsiblity, self-motivation, empathy, and good character.

I had read that you shouldn't have too many rules, you should say YES whenever you can (you can even turn NOs into yeses (we don't jump on couches, but we can jump here outside; too much candy is bad for your teeth and pancreas; let's have some cheese), and that you should listen to your children's point of view and treat them with respect. I'm glad I read that and other pieces of good, practical advice in "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk."

Answer 9

I have thee children I I have learned from trial and error which discipline works for each one. My oldest which took me 2 years to find out that time out in his room with nothing but four walls (Playroom is downstairs) worked the best. My second I only had to spank him once when he was 1 and now I only have to warn him with a spanking and he listens. My third is still in the trial period. She is 4 and I've tried time out, spanking, loss of privileges and now am working on giving her hard chores to do when she doesn't follow rules. This is working for her. You have to find the most effective consequences for each individual child.

Answer 10

when they were younger, I put them in time out. As they got older, I started to take important things away from them for a period of time. (video games, computer, telephone, whatever had to do with them getting in trouble in the first place.) When ever my kids would fight over something stupid like who was sitting in that spot first, and would get out of hand, I would make them sit on the floor for the rest of the night. Whatever they did, the punishment would always fit the crime.