Why are some People so Mean?

Question

Are they really this cruel? If you don't follow their belief or religion or their disbelief...they go WAYYYYY out of their way to make you feel stupid or call you names like idiot!



I know good people out number bad ones 10-1

Is this low Self-Esteem or some type of deep insecurity...why does that happen?

Answer 1

A lot of people take it personally when you don't accept their belief system. They think theirs is the best and that is that. People with strong belief systems see most things in black and white. You are put in a position of either joining them .. and being "with them" .. or rejecting their ideas .. and then they view you as "against them" .. The reason for that is that they view their religion as a part of who they are. So when you reject their religion, they THINK you are rejecting them as well . Even if you are not. Because they think that way .. and no one likes to be rejected.. they become mean. Which is a stupid thing to do , becuase it only hurts people when they do this .. and turns away their friends. It is a shame this happens.. but that is their problem, not your problem. You must go on with your life and find people and friends who accept you for who YOU are .. not what they want you to be . Don't cave in . Be yourself ! Good luck :)

Answer 2

I think that there are a lot of religious people who really don't know or understand their own religion. I have studied religion for over 25 years now. When I ask some one about one of their belief's, and why they would believe that? Most of them just look at you with the "deer in the headlights look." A lot of people stay in their religion because they were born in it. So that brings me to my answer, if people feel threatened in anyway they get really defensive and sometimes really mean. I personally don't get it, I mean we all have free will and we all can believe the way that we choose too. But I think it is a sense of insecurity also.
I am spiritual. I do not believe in organized fear based religions. After researching it for so many years, and being a very analytical person, I just could never get 2 plus 2 to equal 4 in religion. My friends are all from different backgrounds and religions. It is funny to me to ask them a question and their lame answer is to "have faith" will dah, don't we have that any ways?
Good luck and God Bless
PS Great question

Answer 3

I think some people are just angry at life in general. They just seem to hate the world and everything in it.

Sure, life beats alot of us down pretty bad sometimes, but, you learn to pick up the pieces and move on. But, for some people, I think their 'meanness' is multi-faceted. Maybe they've had a horribly difficult life, particularly as children. Maybe, as children, someone regularly went out of their way to make THEM feel stupid, and now they're trying to make others feel how they felt. Maybe they've been mentally and/or physically abused for ALL of their lives. But, even that doesn't fully address their meanness. You could take two people, both with the same history of abuses sustained in their lives, and one could come out of the experience with a loving, forgiving, positive nature, and the other could end up being mean.

My belief is that someone with a healthy sense of self-esteem won't have the desire to call people names or otherwise put others down, either verbally or by their actions. I've known people who didn't feel good until they made others feel bad, which is pretty tragic when you think about it.

I think that's one of the reasons why encountering a stranger, neighbor, co-worker or whatever who gives you a friendly and pleasant greeting is so refreshing. It can just make your day, because, to me, what that person is saying in that pleasant greeting is that, despite what life has thrown at that person, he or she has decided to embrace life in a positive way, rather than damn it. Great question!

Answer 4

Low self esteem is a good answer.
Ego is the root cause of all the problems. Hierarchy. Society teaches people to strive to be the best - so there must be someone lower, right?
And they miss all the joy in life.

Answer 5

Don't take offense. Some people do it because they get pleasure from other people suffering. I know it's cruel and some of these people have pissed me off to the point where I'm posting horrible things that I would never say and it totally takes me by surprise because that's not who I am.

Just ignore them, let them wallow in their own self-pity.

Cheers!
:)

Answer 6

The internet provides an anonymous way to get out ones frustrations if you want to do that sort of thing. People say things in these forums they would never dream of saying to someone's face.

Answer 7

Well chances are they are miserable in their own lifes and take it out on others. Some people feel better about themselves when they make others feel uncomfortable, sad, or mad. Chances are they have learned this for someone else, like a parent, friend etc.

Answer 8

Looks like low self esteem to me. Why do you care what others think?

Answer 9

explanations:
1: they have no concious
2: they have problems and express their anger by being mean to others
3: they have always been treated badly by their parents so its a way of life and dont see anything wrong with treating other pple badly as pple learn from their parents
4: its in their blood. i know a girl who is really mean! but when you talk to her mother! her mother goes off insultingother pple and actin the same. same with her cousins who are all mean and bigheaded!

Answer 10

Low self esteem...overly sensitive.