My granddaughter is just turning 5 in late September and started kindergarden last week. She is very, very bright but socially behind, very shy. She is totally bored at home (new baby and mom is suddenly busy with baby - think she also is feeling a little left out) and has not friends close by to play with. The first day did not go to bad but it has gone down hill from there. She is waking up crying during the night, begging her parents (my daughter) to please don't make her go, crying often during the day. My son-in-law and daughter are heart broken along with me and don't know what to do. Is this normal? How can we make it easier for her or should we have held her back a year. She has always been a home raised child so we felt this would be a very healthy thing for her. Please help - we are open to any and all suggestions from other parents. Thanks so much !
2006-09-03 04:14:01 · 8 answers · asked by theresajc5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to her. It is normal I went threw that she is just filling different. Tell her teacher if you can stay for one day at school with her so you can see what is up if she says of then watch out for her if she says no then tell her to se whats up!
2006-09-03 04:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kareli L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible for you or one of the parents to go sit with her? Maybe help the teacher out that day? Then you could tell her if she starts crying or clinging that you won't come back if she doesn't sit like a big girl. Then after school, the two of you mark a calender and decide when you will come again. But she has to be a big girl in order for you to come.
I hope this helps and I am going on the assumption that no one at school is hurting her. My son started Kindergarten last month, but he had been in daycare for almost 3 years so it was an easy transition. My daughter, who is now 8, had never been to preschool when she started kindergarten and she also did poorly. Then, we found out halfway through the school year that she was being sexually molested (not by anyone at school). Once we got her away from her offender, she made a really big improvement, but, it wasn't soon enough because she had to repeat 1st grade. She is starting 2nd grade this year and really loves school. She is playing football and has a lot of friends from softball. Anyway, I hope your daughter isn't having to go through anything like that. God bless.
2006-09-03 04:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally normal for children entering school for the first time. She will adjust I know several children in my daughters class went throught the same thing. It took most of the year for some of them, others adjusted within days or weeks. It is important for your daughter and her husband as well as you to make time for just your granddaughter. Emotionally she is going through so much. If she has no friends to play with at home, your daughter needs to take her to a play group or center where you can interact with other kids and make her own friends. No, she shouldn't of been held back. I think it is obvious that she was lacking in interactions with other children. It will be a big adjustment no matter when she starts now and she will need time to get at where the other kids are, who perhaps went to daycare or preschool etc. Just make extra time for her now, it is very important.
2006-09-03 04:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to the teacher, set up an conferance and ask how she is doing socially in school. If she is doing really poorly you might want to wait till next year to put her in kindergarden and put her in a preschool this year. If she ends up having a really bad social exprience now it might affect the rest of her academic career. But on the other hand it is normal for a child to go through a certain transitional period of crying and things like that when they enter kindergarden, but I would check with the teacher...
2006-09-03 04:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the teacher. Maybe something happened at school. If not, I'm sure he/she would be more than happy to offer support/advice as I'm sure he/she has seen this before. Change is sometimes hard. Can your granddaughter tell you WHY she doesn't want to go to school? Maybe if she can, then you can come up with ways to get her going again. Maybe a treat if she makes it through the day, then week, then ween her off that. By then, she'll probably love school. Good luck!
2006-09-03 04:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by Dukie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children have a hard time with change but this has to be done. It is almost like taking a baby off of the bottle , they cry and scream but soon it becomes normal not to have one. It may take a couple months but she will soon get use to it. Don't worry and the longer she stays at home the harder it will be!
2006-09-03 04:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mellycat123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find out the schools policy on parents staying during class... have dad take her and stay till the bell rings and make sure he is there before the end of school bell rings.. give her the comfort of knowing you are waiting for her.. if she feel left out cause of the new baby then mom needs to let her help with the new baby and make her feel important....
2006-09-03 04:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what she needs... social interraction with other kids her age. she is putting up a fight right now because its new and strange and uncomfortable, but she will eventually get used to it. imagine if its this hard now, how much harder it will be if you hold her back another year!
2006-09-03 04:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋