Trama of kindergarden - please help !?

Question

My granddaughter is just turning 5 in late September and started kindergarden last week. She is very, very bright but socially behind, very shy. She is totally bored at home (new baby and mom is suddenly busy with baby - think she also is feeling a little left out) and has not friends close by to play with. The first day did not go to bad but it has gone down hill from there. She is waking up crying during the night, begging her parents (my daughter) to please don't make her go, crying often during the day. My son-in-law and daughter are heart broken along with me and don't know what to do. Is this normal? How can we make it easier for her or should we have held her back a year. She has always been a home raised child so we felt this would be a very healthy thing for her. Please help - we are open to any and all suggestions from other parents. Thanks so much !

Answer 1

This is normal for some children. Some children never adapt this but they kind of learn to make do with time.

Answer 2

I can only answer part of this...

Don't hold her back a year! You say she's a very bright child. The last thing she needs is to be treated like a 'slow kid' (which is how she'll remember it if she's held back). She's probably already more than ready for the learning part of going to school; intellectually, she may have been ready for it before now. She just needs help dealing with the socializing part of it -- interacting with the other children and being away from home. Talk to her teacher (who has surely had experience with this kind of situation before) and ask what you can do to help your granddaughter feel more comfortable with going to school. Also talk to your granddaughter and ask her why she doesn't want to go to school; there may be some problem -- other children bothering her or some such -- that the teacher isn't aware of.

Answer 3

You might want to talk to the teacher & see how she is doing during class. If she is doing fine & interacting with the other children well this may just be a way to get more attention from mom & dad. Sometimes ANY attention, even if negative, is better than none & with a new baby that may be what she feels she needs to do (even if it's not). Give her a little more time & good luck!

Answer 4

The first thing you need to do is find out what's wrong. Five-year-olds may be melodramatic, but they don't go into hysterics for no reason.

First, try to talk to your daughter. Chances are you won't get a coherent answer, but if you go straight to the teacher without asking her she may (depending on her own personality) feel betrayed.

WARNING: If the teacher says this is perfectly normal and she'll grow out of it, remember that some don't. Any adult can write something off as 'a stage.' Early experiences are very important. This isn't to say that you should lose hope, but just say (as politely as possible) that there must be SOMETHING bothering your daughter.
The sooner you know what it is, the sooner you can do something about it. Chances are that this won't affect your daughter's future, but she's hurt NOW and you owe it to her to find out why.

Answer 5

First even as mixed with a clean sibling this reaction is amazingly VERY conventional. there is all of unexpected somewhat man or woman in her area, and worse - she's being shuffled off remote from mom / dad even as that man or woman receives to stay domicile (from her aspect of view). do no longer supply in - that contraptions a terrible precidence. even if, i'd attempt various issues: a million. If mom or dad can pass to college with her even for an hour or with a view to computer screen it would furnish you with recommendations on a thanks to more beneficial positive combine her with classmates (don't be afraid to ask the instructor's suggestion and help too!) 2. Verbally concentration on how proud you're of her - that she's so grown up and college is such an spectacular ingredient ! You variety of ought to play cheerleader for a lengthy time period. 3. set up a reward gadget - little issues that she doesn't many times get even as she has a strong day. After a lengthy time period, up the reward gadget to having strong complete weeks. 4. positioned aside some particular mom/dad time without the toddler as workable. She desires to sense that she's no longer being disregarded. desire this enables.!

Answer 6

I suggest that you talk to the teacher. He/she may have some good ideas from years of experience. Another thing to do is go with her for a couple of days, then just go for a couple of half days until she begins to realize that you are not going to just leave her there and never come back. Try to establish a quick and easy morning routine with no time for long goodbyes. If she feels that you are upset to have her away from home, she will never relax and make friends. Make sure she knows that you insist that she go and assure her that she will not miss out on anything by being away from home.

Answer 7

Do you take her to school? Have you checked out the teacher? Nightmares and such can mean several different things. Also, mom and dad need to spend more time with her. New baby is no excuse. I would go supervise the calss for a couple of hours. And not take no for an answer. I would wnt to know why she has such a bad reaction to school. It could be teacher, who knows.

Answer 8

she jealous. im #3 of 10 girls and we all got jealous of the sisters under us after we started school. shes just jealous that new babyy is home getting attention while she is in school. my sister #9 just started preschool and she is jealous of #10. we are all fine now, it just takes time. (girls ages 15-2)

Answer 9

Home school her!

Answer 10

if your a grandma. why the **** is your avatar looking like a 20 year old!? umm wow....WOW.