How many people enjoy there own company more than others. Being around alot of people, feels draining to me. I rathere curl up in a chair and read a good book. Or go to the moives byself then you don't have to worry about someone holding you back. I do enjoy talking with people here and there. But I don't see it as A big part of my life. I do plan on find a spouse one day but not really looking now. I'm not very emotional, I more cold and direct. I aslo very caustious, and careful. Do I seem normal or okay?
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2006-09-03 03:59:41 · 10 answers · asked by Raziel 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hey, I feel the same way you do, dude... i'm just 15 and I'm beginning to discover I have a trust problem with people. I just can't rely or depend on them so I've become independent-- too independent, as my parents will say when they're pissed at me (which is most of the time). I just don't look towards people's company with enthusiasm anymore because what they say is just shallow stuff-- lunch, homework, teacher, etc. and I just crave more intellectual stuff.
So, what do I do? I do what you do. I curl up on my couch, put on some good alternative rock music, and read a book by Stephen King.
Over the past few years (since 8th grade) I've discovered I'm getting colder and colder-- probably from lack of stimulation or care. People seem to become less important as the days go by and I'm starting to concentrate more on what is important to me (at least i think it's important)-- becoming valedictorian and reading.
If this is depression, I've had it for 2 years and enjoy it sometimes... at others, I just want to go walk out in the rain and drown in it (unfortunately, it doesn't rain that much here in MS but I still like it). I don't want to marry... I wouldn't want to put anybody through that torture. I see a long road of loneliness, screwed up relationships with guys, and coldness, but hey, I'm okay with that.
You might not be normal... but then again, what the hell is considered normal? Is normal actually defined? Do you have to have a certain number of friends to be normal? Well, anyway, if you're okay with yourself and with the state your in, keep living it. If you don't like it, it's your life so try to change it around.
Yeah, yeah, yeah... try to change it around... I know how cliche it sounds but it is hard and I'm doing it centimeter by centimeter... though not with people... I've given up on them... I just don't see the point of giving up so much for that minute of happiness... People come and go in your life but you stay your own until you die.
I don't know the point of this message but good luck with whatever you have...
2006-09-03 05:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by misery 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
According to the studies of Jung, the personality of individuals changes and some are in need of constant human contact. The classification of each personality type indicates a loner/social/team/empathetic individuals. Yes, you do enjoy being around people but value your privacy and function with work settings, social settings but always return to your own privacy to enjoy the alone time. You are not alone and many only tolerate those around them. You probably have an uncanny ability to surmise a social setting and place yourself in it according to what you see in the types of personalities. Some people are very needy and must have attention paid to themselves, cannot entertain themselves and use the word bored. I prefer to think of the adage that says, "Boredom is a state of mind you choose to be in." Mental health is not a question, it is the ability to choose to interact, be social, or remain independent. As the brain develops you may change, but you are in the small percentage of personalities who choose down time alone. Do not worry about it unless you have depressing thoughts, poor self-esteem or even have suicidal thoughts. You are in a state of self-preservation and are merely going through development of values, ideals, and have a goal in mind. When you find the spouse who fits your bill, you will be a dynamic couple and share each other's sentiments. You are not alone and seem to be in touch with yourself. Hang in there, set your goals, and don't be distracted by what others expect or think.
2006-09-03 11:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by tyrol210 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a lot like me and I am 48 years old. I go this way over the last 10 years. I found the more info you give poeple the more they have to discredit you with. I have thought aback over the years and can only see a few people and very few that did not do me wrong from my free giving of money or info. Most will just take what you got and never return it be it money or music CDs or what ever. You loan it you can expect to not get it back. You give advise and it will be used to take something from you be it customers from your business or your money from your bank account.
I have learned that most people only come to you if they want something. So they are friend in need till they get what they want and you will not see them till they have a need again. It maybe they need someone to go party with and they will drink your beer and never buy around if they can get out of it.
So no there is nothing wrong with you. I myself really like to be alone to do as I please with out someone trying to change my mind to how they want it done. It is my money I will spend it on what I want which gives me the right to do it my way.
I guess I just don't like people very well. And dude most women will come after you for what you got not for who you are. Be careful. I have been taken more by women then anyone else.
2006-09-03 11:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are an introvert. Introverts learn to fake it to manage in society, but generally speaking they prefer very small groups or one on one contact or sometimes none at all. America seems to value the loud extrovert, but lots of people are not like that. True introverts do find being around people to be draining, they pick up all that energy and it exhausts them. Do a Myers-Briggs test, it's an assessment based on the 16 basic personality traits, many of which are introvert.
2006-09-03 11:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
While it is healthy to be secure enough to be okay to be by yourself, you can also isolate yourself. It is okay to be direct with people but you can be warm and direct. Weather you are looking for a spouse now or not you should always be open for love! Love doesn't come when we decide, it comes when we least expect it. Who knows if you dont start socializing more you could miss your chance at knowing some truly awesome people!
2006-09-03 11:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by hebe935 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you're still normal person. Its just like the theory of Carl Jung. The yin and the yang. Even you're an introverted person, there's still part of yourself that is extroverted in nature. there are many psychologist who had theories about your condition and many of them says that it is just some kind of defense mechanism or a neurotic trend for a person to move away from people. but for you to be more stable, you need to balance yourself. you need others to live and you also need yourself...
2006-09-03 11:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by heyah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some theories of psychologist that deals with your problem. that's still normal. just like what karen horney said. it maybe has something to do with anxiety in yourself. but if you feel it excessively, you may tend to be neurotic. to avoid this you need to balance yourself. Also as Jung's introvert and extrovert explanation about the yin yang, you have that some thing in you that is still extrovert. just like what you said that you enjoy talking to people. but you still see that as not a big part of your life. it is because you focus more on yourself. this problem can also be associated with Fromm's assumption on human dilemma.
2006-09-03 11:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by chalyde11 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just sound like a plain old Loner to me, but at the same time you seem paranoid of people. I think that you should maybe see a psychiatrist to get you some help for the paranoia that you seem to express.
2006-09-03 11:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You seem normal and okay to me. I'm not a people person, either.
2006-09-03 11:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Horndog 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you're happy with your self then you'r
as well as can be . if it bothers you then maybe change is needed.
peace and love be with you
2006-09-03 11:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by buddy d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋