Within the past six months of dating this guy, we've kissed and have been intimate...now the kissing and intimacy is being placed on hold by him. He says, "Let's slow down and get to know each other. I like to move slow. I'm still interested in you. We don't need to rush anything. Let's get to know each other." What does it mean when a man gets so involved in you, still calls you and takes you on dates, but says "Let's slow down"?
2006-09-03 03:45:26 · 11 answers · asked by bebe j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U HAVE FOUND THE ONE........
2006-09-03 03:47:02 · answer #1 · answered by M u Z z I 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a few possibilties here. He is either feeling a need to leave the relationship .. so he is trying to let you off the hook slowly. He may have found someone new that he is interested in and doesn't feel it is right to you .. for him to be intimate with you , while having thoughts of dating someone else. Or you can take him at face value .. and just believe that at first he only wanted you for sex .. but now wants to change the priority to get to know you better as a person . so the relationship can grow deeper. The best thing to do is not to guess .. but to ask him straight out what he means.. and what he now wants from the relationship with you.
2006-09-03 03:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just that! He wants to slow down, get to know the "real" you, and has realized that things are moving too fast. He's into you by saying that he wants to slow down. Maybe he thinks that, so far, your relationship has been based on physical attraction? He wants to know what makes you "tick". What do you like? What do you dislike? What do you want in a relationship? A marriage?(not that he's thinking of marrying you, but the thought of what you want in the longrun probably has come to mind). Sounds like you need to sit down and have a good heart to heart conversation with this guy. He could just be the one!
Also, Why in the world would you be intimate with someone that you have only known for six months?? Do you know his entire sexual history?
2006-09-03 03:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but he's probably bolting. Some guys just disappear when they lose interest, but some of them (especially if they actually like hanging out with you but have decided they're not interested romantically) will say most of those things. Maybe he hasn't figured that out yet, but when you go from wanting to be intimate to not wanting to be intimate... Let's just say that its not a good sign.
I would say that the two of you need to have a serious talk and talk about whether you need to end this. I know it will be painful for you, but it will be much more painful if you stay together and make that decision 6 months from now.
2006-09-03 03:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by pag2809 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could mean a lot of things, but mainly it could be that in the beginning he was just thinking with his lower region and has now discovered that he really does find you interesting as a person as well and wants to get to know your personality better, it could be that he is not really sure of what he wants. Basically, there isnt really a way to know for sure what is going on in his head, but just do what feels right for you. If you like the guy and think he is worth continuing to pursue, then do that, and just relax and go with it. If you are not that into him or your gut tells you that something is up, then be honest with him about what you are feeling and see what happens.
2006-09-03 03:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He's a virgin or inexperienced with women.
2. He's gay and confused about wanting women or men.
3. He's old fashioned which is a rarity nowadays.
4. He's a she and hasn't gotten her strap on yet.
5. He's a good guy and has been hurt in past and doesn't want to rush into anything yet.
2006-09-03 03:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good thing as he just wants to take it slow. Being intimate is very special to some people so do not rush it!!!
2006-09-03 03:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, if the situation were reversed, what would you mean?
My bet is he is looking to leave the relationship, but he still wants someone to hang with until he finds a replacement. He may have already found another girl and is just waiting for things to heat up there.
2006-09-03 03:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by AnotherJackAss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means down
2006-09-03 03:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He believes that if you really love someone you should not be in a rush to make love, etc. He really likes you and he wants to respect you.
2006-09-03 03:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
MEANS....HEY WAIT A MINUTE WE BEEN BEASTING AROUND..... LETS SEE IF WE HAVE ANYTHING REAL OR JUST PLAYING BODY ADDICTIONS
2006-09-03 03:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by flowerspirit2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋