Church out of bounds!?

Question

I have just been to a christening. After the service we went into a side room for coffee. My little two are happy little things and enjoy playing. At one point they wandered back into the main church area only to be told by a "very friendly" christian - sorry you cant come in here, its out of bounds and then proceeded to put a chair in front of the door so they couldnt get back in. They were not misbehaving or touching anything they shouldnt.

I am not a religious person and having kids, i look at the world from a different perspective, however, i thought that this reaction was not what i would expect of a Christian. So much for welcoming families into the church.

What do others think? Am i over-reacting?

I will add that the second they went to leave the room, i was right behind them by about 10 metres. They did not leave my sight.

To all of you fools who are claiming neglect and irresponsible parenting, read the question carefully. At no point does it say they wandered off on their own, they were within my sight at all times i was no more than a couple of seconds away. I know they were not misbehaving because i was there and i was close enough to here what the woman said.

Stop trying to deflect the argument away from the question.

Answer 1

let me see you were not supervising your children allowing them to wonder off around the church by thierself.

Yes you are over reacting, since there is alot of damage they could do or even things of disrespect without even knowing it.

If they had wanted a tour of the church you should have went with them, not let them play around the main church area.

And you should have known this, Yes families are wanted but parents have to be responsible for thier children in public and not let them wonder around like this is thier play yard.

Answer 2

You just have to remember that there is no one on the planet who thinks your little darlings are half as wonderful as you do. Kids are loud, selfish, noisy, disruptive little animals. The fun part of parenting is turning them into kind, polite, decent human beings. If you look at the world today, some parents succeed where others fail. But that's beside the point. Small children do not belong at solemn occasions and certainly should never, ever, be allowed more than three feet away from mom or dad. Period. Your "happy" and "playing" children were probably raucous and cyclonic to the non-parent observer. the fact they "wandered" off anywhere is a good sign the observer was correct in corraling them, which is what you should have been doing. You are overreacting in that you think everyone should love your kids and let them run around freely just like you do. But then would have immediately looked for someone to sue if they got hurt rather than take responsibility. Better luck next time.

Answer 3

Your adventure is unlucky and that i'm sorry for it. My husband and that i've got an analogous difficulty and that i might mortified to stroll into an weird and wonderful congregation, be referred to as up and characteristic my own company introduced like that. i might say surely out of bounds--notwithstanding while you're a member of the congregation or not. i might tell the minister how indignant you're approximately it, exceedingly if this is the element that turns you away. (consistent with danger he will end.) Then i might pass communicate on your pal (on account that, from what you're saying, that seems the source of records) And, i might with courtesy refuse customer playing cards, telling people who if I come to a decision to proceed with their church, i'm going to enable them to be responsive to.

Answer 4

Call the minister of the church and ask to make an appointment with him/her. At your meeting, explain that you enjoyed being in the church for the christening but that this incident has you upset and you need to explain what happened so that it doesn't happen to other children and parents who visit the church. Tell the minister that you hope he/she can understand that your impression of the church changed and that you and your children were made to feel unwelcomed. Of course, the minister isn't actually responsible for how that particular person reacted to your children in the sanctuary but should know that your feelings were hurt.

Answer 5

Who told you that all church-goers (much less Christians), everywhere, at all times, were going to be the kind, compassionate, and wise people they are commanded to be? Remember, they are only Hell-bound sinners saved by God's mercy and grace. If you expect them to act like the former pirates that they are, you will never be disappointed. Here is the better question, what assurance do you have that the Biblical God doesn't exist, and that He won't hold you accountable for your sins?

Answer 6

Just like any other place you would take your children, grocery store, doctor's office, etc., ther are places where they would not be allowed. It could be a simple as the the office workers didn't want the distraction of your little ones, or they wanted to keep your children from getting hurt. So many good reasons.

Answer 7

Maybe it wasn't a religious thing? Perhaps the guy just didn't want children playing where there might not be an adult to supervise them, since everyone had left the area and gone off to have coffee.

So you might be overreacting, I'm not sure. But I wouldn't blame you.

Answer 8

sort of.
I'm not sure about the room they entered but there are rooms in churches that are sacred.

what do you mean 'very friendly'...do you mean it literally or in a sarcastic way. if in sarcastic way, you should have talked to that person or somewhere higher than that person regarding his reaction to your kids.

Just be reminded that not all Christian are like that person

Answer 9

no your not over reacting maybe they were just laughing to loud that person either had a problem or was just praying for a parent or someone close if not then maybe they were just not a child themselves the world could do without people like that they should take a step back and see what they have been like in the past nobody,s perfect but babes are innocent

Answer 10

i being burn by church that don't value family to highly. here's my checklist i use today & yes, God guide me & family to a good church now.

my church leaders & church ethos has same priorty as me as follows:

1) God 2) family 3) work 4) self 5) church . 4) & 5) can swap if you willingly commit to it. speak to the person who stop your kids, be honest, he /her may have good reason. make sure this church value your family more than their property. from the person tone , you know. hope this is of some help. peace, man