well im single and 21 and never had a boyfriend, ive started masturbateing at 19 , now i really like it, the problem is , I dont want to do sex, and I feel like doing sex, sometimes, all of the time I really dont want to have sex , this never happend to me before masturbation, the thoughts, and I know this is bad, I went on the website and saw these people having sex, in so many postions, and was thinking that I wish I could do that, there is seriosly something wrong wtih me, how can I wish to haveing sex, wheres the me, I cant believe I would ever think about it, i dont know what to do, I believe in finding a nice man, and I want to focus on my life,but to be honest sometimes I wish I was doing it with someone lol what should I do to ignore these feelings , will this happen to me now , it never was like this before I masturabated , please understand me, i need serious help
2006-09-03 03:16:18 · 29 answers · asked by chrstian jesus is god 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, I am sorry, but you are too confusing. You said the problem is: You don't want to do sex, and then you say I feel like doing sex. Maybe if you explained yourself a little better we could suggest something.
Sorry.
As for finding a man to "do it with" there are many out there that would be willing, but continue to save yourself it is worth the wait. I am proud that you have waited this long.
2006-09-03 03:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world. I masturbated daily from the age of 16 until I was 33. Then I masturbated or had sex daily until I was 42. now I masturbate two-three times a week and have sex once or twice a week.
Masturbation is supposed to get you through times of no relationship not be an end to all other possibilities. Maybe it's the fact that you have been sexually awakened and heard the horror stories about how sex hurts and how it's lousy the first few dozen times. You need to hear about how much fun it is too.
wish I was younger and lived near you so I could teach you the wonderful ways of sex with someone other than your hand. email me if you want to continue this conversation.
2006-09-03 10:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all REMOVE the idea that masterbation is BAD.... this is absolutely normal for any boy or a girl so dont think this is bad.. Now as regard to your fear of sex you can never think what kind of pleasure you are going to get in it because you have never had it.. If we consider your experience of masturbation you had never had this type of feeling earlier because you had not experienced the masturbation..
Believe the experience of masterbation is completely different than that of a intercourse.. without tasting you can never ever realize about its pleasure..
All you have to do is to keep your mind open for this experience also and to find out a bf SOON..
If required you may also like to consule a doc. to ensure that there is nothing wrong with your hormon balance if such tests are possible...
2006-09-03 10:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't worry too much. At your age this is still very common.
Second of all, relationships are scary ventures. Make sure that you're not using sex as a means to deny yourself the pleasure (and I don't mean sexual) of meeting people and relating to others in a quality relationship - not one that would lead to marriage and all that, but just a partnership, a boyfriend, etc.
Third, explore your web. Your mental web. Why do you do these things? Don't just say, I don't know. Even a simple response as "because I just get horny" leads to serious inquiries: What makes you horny? What doesn't, and why does that not make you horny? The point is defining your sexuality in as many ways as you could possibly imagine.
You mention that you watch people having sex? Think: would you practice all their positions? Would you try anal sex? Playing with vibrators? Butt plugs? Lesbianism? Etc.?
Like I said before, EXPLORE your web - your mind, and the reasons you do what you do and what makes you think what you think.
Once you learn your triggers, you'll learn to deal with your so-called problem (which really isn't) on your own.
Have fun. And remember: Sex is completely healthy, and a part of who you are as a person, not only as a woman. But as a human being.
2006-09-03 10:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mario E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Having sexual desires is not only completely normal, but it would be bad if you didnt have them! Just relax, dont worry about your desires, its all totally normal and very good. There is nothing wrong with masturbation either. Just do what makes you feel good. Concentrate on your life and your needs and when you find the right guy, sex will be a good thing for both of you.
2006-09-03 10:24:03 · answer #5 · answered by rxtech05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are of somone who is single and its completely normal. I think you need to get out there and play the Field, u never know you mite find a nice guy. Once your in a relationship believe me your feeling will change. Aswell its normal to enjoy masturbation, dont worry about it, we have to let off some steam sometimes.
2006-09-03 13:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by clairie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have a problem! Where does it say you have to have sex by a certain time?What you are doing is not bad, but completely natural. You will meet a nice guy, and after a while things might turn serious. Remember that you have a precious gift for that guy, so take your time and dont rush it.
2006-09-03 10:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by marcus p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these thoughts and feelings wont stop sweetheart. its a natural part of life. it is not wrong to masterbate and have these feelings. its part of human nature. wanting to have sex if you have never done it is also normal. even after you have had sex you will still want it. your a young lady and this is what happens to us all. go with the flow and stop worrying. it just goes to show how normal you are. good luck x
2006-09-03 12:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by loopy lass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to want to have sex. Intimate interraction is a need for most normal human beings. You should either look into dating or a close friend with benefits. Good luck.
2006-09-03 10:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your story.Releive yourself when you need to .But dont look at it as a burden.Its free and you should be thankfull.things that good are never free!
As for waiting for the right guy,thats nice.but maybe you should explore yourself and your body before you give yourself to teh right guy.Sex is fun and should stay that way!
Just be sure to be safe.And make sure you dont hide your urges,your sex drive will only become greater.
masterbation is no big deal.
you shouldnt be embarrased!
2006-09-03 10:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♥The♥ Bearded Cheerleader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋