Finding a true soulmate seams hard. I usually end up with someone wanting me for either my money or to be thier hunny do person. I am nice looking but get treated like crap.
2006-09-03 02:42:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no such thing when she knows you have money.
find a girl that likes you for you. play the poor guy who can't afford to do some things and see if she is ok with it or if she bails on you. worked for me. I always had money on me but lied about how much.
2006-09-03 02:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, that finding the soulmate seems hard. I was like you, a good person, attractive, decent job, but always got burned.
I believe the answer is, and I do not mean to be cliche, but she will find you when the time is right. That doesnt mean expect her to just show up at your doorstep(however this sure would be a great thing!). Keep yourself out in social affairs, classes,interests that you enjoy...be open to being set up by friends...and be patient. I believe that there is a plan, and when it is RIGHT, you meet your mate.
Meanwhile, dont let life slip by waiting and being obscessed or down because youre alone. ENJOY every moment. Cultivate yourself. Explore classes,read books,get involved in some sort of volunteer work. Being "alone" isnt bad if you like yourself and have a network of outside interests and friends. A "soulmate" doesnt neccessarily complete your life. You do.
And remember, keep your mind open when meeting a woman. She may not be Miss America or a CEO but be a great person. (I believe too many people focus on the wrong qualities when meeting someone). It is what is in the heart that matters.
Best wishes, and keep the faith.
2006-09-03 02:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.PS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oldsoftee has a plan there. Finding that soul mate is not rocket science, it just takes a little serious planning. If you know who you are, what you like and don't like, and you know how to communicate that to someone else, then half the battle is won.
The other half is letting the other party know what you like in another person. This is pretty heavy stuff to cover on the first two or three dates. Once you find out if you want to spend some serious time with them, then go to the heavy stuff, but take it slow. If you feel they are worth it, you have all the time in the world. If they like what they are hearing, they will stick around for more. If you can get them to come clean in the same manner, then you are on the road to a serious relationship.
Good communication is key to any relationship. In business it can be the difference between failing or staying in business. In marriage, it is the difference in staying married or moving on, admitting that you made a mistake. All marriages can work if the communications foundation was laid in properly. They just take time and patience. I hope this helps.
Worked for me. Celebrating our 30th next month.
2006-09-03 03:02:52 · answer #3 · answered by jeeveswantstoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone finds a soulmate in this life...you should only BE so lucky.It doesnt always happen.But you can try finding someone you are compatible with,someone you can love and respect[and vice versa]someone you cant wait to start your life with....THAT should be your goal.And who knows?It could end up being your soulmate!!
2006-09-03 02:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Curtis. I am a girl, so I know you will think I am being sappy, but I think a man finds his true soul mate when he trusts his own vision. The woman who will truly love you will do just that: she will fall in love with the you that you are every time you step out in courage to be yourself. Honestly and deeply. When she sees that, she will come to you. So never be discouraged, Curtis. Be yourself fully and with joy. She will find you. Oh yes, she will find you.
2006-09-03 02:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to find true soulmate is to be YOURself. Open your real character.
2006-09-03 02:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel BY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for it or it'll come and you won't even notice!
We guys look for that girl who we can communicate with about all our private matters, our inner feelings and small but deep fears (things you can't talk to other guys about!) and then there's the ego boost..etc.
Girls look for comfort, a shoulder to lean on and a living thing to just be there and listen (they talk to plants too!)
So take it easy and don't kill yourself looking around, be yourself, as cordial as can be and don't spill much about yourself.. make the balance.
good luck
2006-09-03 02:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating sites are wonderful . . . I met the guy I just started seeing on one . . . don't put down the idea - busy working people that have responsibilities really do use those sites to try to find someone!!
2016-03-17 07:07:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let people treat you like crap mate. It is easy for anyone to spot a weak person and exploit them if they so wish. A little assertiveness goes a long way.
2006-09-03 02:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by The Stig 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eharmony.com
2006-09-03 02:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by spacecowboytim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋