I will go to the store and actually have stranger tell me that I have my hands full or they take their finger and count while pointing to each one of my children.I am tired of people telling me that they don't envy me and God bless you , my goodness. I am very delighted to have 4 and one on the way and can proudly say that we had planned every one of them. I have actually had one rude person tell me that I have been a busy women and chuckle or ask me were they planned and I tell them each and every one of them and wouldn't have it any other way. It is not hard to raise 4 kids at all. I am a stay at home mom and I love it and love my kids very very much but, I do get very offended and it hurts my feeling so, how can I tell people that w/out being rude or do I act rude right back? lol!
Thank for the help !!!
If all goes well soon to be mother of 5!!!!! YEAH!!!!!!!! I am only 4 weeks along and have had 5 miscarriages so that is why I say if all goes well.
2006-09-03 02:04:03 · 13 answers · asked by ws_422 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my mom has 4 kids...and shes have 5 miscarriages also...and she maneged to do it...people are always like o i could never have 4 kids...but honestly it isnt thier buisness...my mom is a great mother and has always been there for all of us...when ever some one comes up to u and says somthing be like..God givesus what we can handle...nothing more. so if ur gonna be a mother of 5 that says alot about u...u love uyr kids..all four of them...tahts all that matters s
2006-09-03 02:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kayla E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, I hope all goes well and you are able to bring baby number 5 into this world. I get stuff like this all the time, I have 4 and my oldest was born with a birth defect (spina bifida) so people think I have my hands full, I just tell them that yes I do have my hands full, but I wouldn't have it any other way and I wouldn't trade any of my children in for the world, and if I could I would have more!!! Its easy to get offended, and depending on how rude the person is to me determines how rude I am back to them (i don't like being rude, but sometimes its called for) I told one lady who said to me that 4 was to many and I should have stopped after the first I told her I was planning on 10 more!!!! you just have to go with what you instincts tell you I usually say the first thing to pop into my head. I think you are doing a wonderful job and you should feel great as a mom and go for it, have as many as you want!!!!!!
2006-09-03 09:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by casey_sar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it can be very frustrating hearing the same things over again, and having other people make comments about your life. Just politely tell them that you enjoy being a mother, and you feel blessed to have four children and one on the way. Remember, when one person makes a comment they may not realize that other people have said anything, so they might not mean to be annoying or rude. I understand being aggravated by that person that said you've been very busy. That takes nerve to say something like that to a stranger.
2006-09-03 09:21:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. CONGRATULATIONS!!!! children are a blessing. I know how you feel because I have 3 children now and I am having my 4th and people are real sarcastic. They say things to me like, How much children are you planning on having? or Have you heard of birth control?
So I tell them what business is it too you. As long as my husband and myself do not have a problem with it we will keep having children. My mother also has a problem with me being pregnant with my 4th child. My mother has never done nothing for her grandchildren not even babysit them. But she has the nerve to complain about why are you having another child, children are expensive.. Then she would also say, that I am stupid.
I got so pissed off at her that I am not even talking to her right now because she is being so negative. My suggestion to you is to ignore people because there will always be ignorant people who do not have anything better to do but to harrass mothers like ourselves. Don't worry, they are just jeolous... (Good Luck)!!!
2006-09-03 10:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 4 Ive been called a breeder etc I tell they they are gifts form god and that these little cherubs are your work along with the long list of jobs you do with ot knowing a title for it . Its the hardest job in the world forming the future of our country I'm not religious good luck I hope you have a swift and easy preg. count your blessings
2006-09-03 09:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can afford that many kids. I say go for it. I myself am only planning on 2, I have a two year old and trying for another. I will say God love ya, because you must have nerves of steal. I hope everything goes good for ya. God Bless
2006-09-03 12:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell em, Hey, I like being a mom, and its not a job at all. People don't know that they are being rude, and a lot of mom's can't handle 4 kids, and people know it. Stop being over sensetive and just be the proud mama you are. If people don't like it, it isnt anyone else's G*D business.
2006-09-03 09:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by Flamingpoptart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Defiantly get rude back!!!! I have a friend who just had her 4th and she get the same crap and it offends her. She snaps back and they don't say another word. I would tell them " When you start paying for my kids you can start worrying about how many of them I have!!!" More power to ya sista!
2006-09-03 14:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't look for others approval, your family is happy & that's all you need.
I would frankly cut them off if they are giving rude comments in front of my kids though.
God Bless!
2006-09-03 09:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by lostintheclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, u don't have to explan nothing to anyone. Tell them to mind there damn business in a polite way
2006-09-03 10:13:36 · answer #10 · answered by omarion's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋