i loved a man for 5 years, no it was longer , we only went out for 5 years , i loved him long after.
1 year ago ,on the 18th of september ,he died.
in 2002 we ended. in 2003 ,new year, i started a new relationship...it is strong and i am so glad i found my new man ..he is what i wont forever.
but every now and then i think about the man i lost.
wht cant i just move on and be happy.
is it wrong to secretly wont somone...who is dead.
if u only answer 4 points......your lucky...yr time will come.
2006-09-03 01:48:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
let me put it this way, would you want to see the corpse of your dead beloved comes and knocks on your door? just forget him, he's dead!....
2006-09-03 01:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by Peter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is never bad to miss someone you love. No matter how long ago a relationship ended, no matter how long ago a person died. It takes time to heal from loss, but the love you feel will always remain. You have to understand that nothing will come of this situation. Allow yourself to think of him, and remember the good times. Then tell yourself , out loud, it was in the past that he was w/ you. You can no longer be w/ him. You can either remain alone and very unhappy, or move on and be w/ someone else. Move on to a man who is alive and can help you through things today, not someone from the past. Take things slowly. No bars or clubs. Ask a co-worker to lunch, go to a book reading or take a class. Have faith and trust in yourself. You will find someone. But you must allow that someone to be there for you.
2006-09-03 02:02:13 · answer #2 · answered by decababe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not bad to miss someone who has died, this is called the mourning process. You had a relationship with this man and it is only natural that you mourn for him. Mourning affects people in different ways, some people cry a lot, some people forget quickly and some like yourself, will reflect about the person. It is natural, it is something you will have to go through before you are able to let go completely. If you are a Christian, go into a church and light a candle for him, say a prayer for him, cry if you want. Another religion may light incense for the departing spirit.
May he rest in peace.
2006-09-03 01:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, not many, are larger than life.
When they leave us, they leave behind many memories.
A void is created that can never be filled.
Take as an example Mother Teresa of Calcutta.
Now that she is gone, I can't think of anyone that could replace her.
That was a woman who wanted nothing from anyone, no material things were valued by her.
All she ever wanted was to love Jesus and serve the Master by loving the poorest of the poor.
How can you fill shoes like that?
Imagine a world with more people in it like her.
I can imagine. Can you?
2006-09-03 01:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! That is very sweet! You truly loved him and there is nothing in the world wrong with that!! For you to still think of him & miss him makes all the since in the world. . .and you'll probably think of him & miss him for the rest of your life...it gets easier...but it's still gonna be there...it's not like you decided to stop seeing him...he was taken from you right in the middle of your lives together. It would seem wrong to ever forget him.
2006-09-03 02:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, its natural. He was a part of your life for 5 years or more and he died. You will always feel a connection to him and will miss him. It will just get easier over time to deal with it but the feelings will always be there.
2006-09-03 01:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When there is a loss of life comes grief and sorrow. It is normal to want him back and miss him, take time to do this and mourne the departed. This is part of death and if it doesn't happen now it will eventually. Good luck.
2006-09-03 03:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i may be answering for points, but only if i know i can give some good advice
i have had many loved ones pass away and i know that it is ok to miss them
you knewhim and loved him for a long time, and i can understand your pain
you may feel this for a long time, but you will never get him back
i know how hard it is but, be true to your current beau and find someone to talk with about him.
trust me, it helps.
good luck
2006-09-03 01:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by all4chanel203 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem is normal . the guy that died is in great place no pain no longing for sex or attention no worrys. hes in this guy your with now not actually but in spirit . he would hold you and tell you give him what youd give me because that would give him pleasure to see you happy. after life is over we dont have jealiousy or hangups and hed want you to fully move on . i know your saddened but when you look in new guys eyes look for your lost love and youll find hes not lost but thare and happy for you and always with you as long as you know he will always be a part of you .
2006-09-03 02:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by sigmond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, it is not wrong! But it is time to let go. Take a quiet night...pen and paper in hand. Talk to him with it . Telling him all your feeling...tell him it is time to let go. When it is done. go to your sink and burn it. NO one needs to know what you wrote or said. In the end you feel free. IT is only fair to the new beau. MOSTLY IT IS FOR YOU LET HIM GO AND LIVE YOUR LIFE. HE WOULD WANT YOU LIVE A FULL LIFE.
2006-09-03 02:01:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. We all grieve in our own way for someone who dies. Missing him is natural. You will probably always remember and miss him. You might talk about it with your new guy. Perhaps sharing your grief might help you move past it.
2006-09-03 01:51:19 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋